Why don't people want to wait?

blessed_wife · August 2009

Seriously. When we were all pregnant, we tried so hard to follow every single thing that our doctors told us to do. What happened now? If its recommended not to have sex until cleared by the doctor, why would you risk it? Are you that desperate for an infection?

Flame all you want. I just don't get it.

Mrs.C042807 · August 2009

I posted this exact same thing a week or so ago.

Fish4Fun · August 2009

I think a lot of people don't know about the infection part. They think if everything feels fine, then it must be fine. It's understandable. Doctors should be more clear about why you have to wait.

Sadiesmama · August 2009

Totally agree. I don't understand the appeal after you've just pushed a baby out of there...know what I mean?

blessed_wife · August 2009

Mrs.C042807:
I posted this exact same thing a week or so ago.

I haven't seen your post. Great minds think alike :P

tmp-493670500007520 · August 2009

totally.

i listened and followed the advice of my doctor!

laurenshay · August 2009

No flames here. I completely agree!

music247 · August 2009

Well from my own experience...

I was more worried about hurting or harming the baby when I was pregnant.

Nicole Williams · August 2009

Seriously! We waited until 7 weeks just to be safe. Lets see...

infection vs waiting

I think I'll go with waiting.

music247 · August 2009

music247:

Well from my own experience...

I was more worried about hurting or harming the baby when I was pregnant.

But just to let everyone know (because I know that's important here)...we haven't had sex since two weeks before she was born...even though I'm dying to every day. Oh yea, and I didn't deliver vaginally.

Chrysallys · August 2009

blessed_wife:

Seriously. When we were all pregnant, we tried so hard to follow every single thing that our doctors told us to do. What happened now? If its recommended not to have sex until cleared by the doctor, why would you risk it? Are you that desperate for an infection?

Flame all you want. I just don't get it.

Yes

Besides people want to brag on teh internets about how much they are getting laid.

eacabraham@gmail.com · August 2009

I'm just not that compliant a pregnant lady. I've been known to ignore a recommendation or five. I eat lunch meat all the time. I had sushi yesterday. Heck, per the OB who saw me post-miscarriage, I shouldn't be this pregnant now.

If you had an uncomplicated delivery, if tears are healed, stitches are out, etc., you're not risking much. It doesn't take six weeks for most of those things to happen, it's just that six weeks is the routine follow-up moment.

Lyons_in_2007 · August 2009

No part of me understands this, either...and I do mean NO PART! Confused

TennisWife815 · August 2009

We waited 8 weeks. Not for nothing even once my dr cleared it as soon as J went to bed for the night so did we. He was colicy until 10 weeks and our rest was way more important to us.

ashleighathomson · August 2009

Chrysallys:
blessed_wife:

Seriously. When we were all pregnant, we tried so hard to follow every single thing that our doctors told us to do. What happened now? If its recommended not to have sex until cleared by the doctor, why would you risk it? Are you that desperate for an infection?

Flame all you want. I just don't get it.

Besides people want to brag on teh internets about how much they are getting laid.

Haha. Honestly, I had no idea about the infection part, but I didn't plan on it until 6 weeks anyway..stitches plus no action down there = ouch!

ericalea511 · August 2009

Infection was never discussed for me. I waited 5 1/2 weeks and then after about 1 min we waited another 2

NikkiMarie · August 2009

some women could still be bleeding- if there is any blood, I would assume the risk of infection is higher.

I am 3 1/2 weeks pp and sex is the furthest thing from my mind...sorry DH!

vegetarian_chica · August 2009

I don't know

mollymurphy · August 2009

blessed_wife:
Seriously. When we were all pregnant, we tried so hard to follow every single thing that our doctors told us to do. What happened now? If its recommended not to have sex until cleared by the doctor, why would you risk it? Are you that desperate for an infection?
Flame all you want. I just don't get it.

Word. Waiting a few weeks seems like a small price to pay to avoid some potentially very serious consequences, IMO.?

Mjmksb04 · August 2009

I think a lot of them, particularly the moms that are only 1 or 2 weeks out are mistaking the urge to have sex with their H for what is really going on with their hormones crashing, KWIM?

veggiechick120 · August 2009

neither mh or i have any desire to have sex anytime soon lol. i had a 3rd degree tear which is still painful and mh does not mind waiting as long as we need to for me to heal and feel ready to have sex again.

people will do what they want, but i dont understand why theres such a rush to have sex so soon after delivery

saj&jaj · August 2009

mollymurphy:
blessed_wife:

Seriously. When we were all pregnant, we tried so hard to follow every single thing that our doctors told us to do. What happened now? If its recommended not to have sex until cleared by the doctor, why would you risk it? Are you that desperate for an infection?

Flame all you want. I just don't get it.

Word. Waiting a few weeks seems like a small price to pay to avoid some potentially very serious consequences, IMO.

Yes

katie_cj · August 2009

I agree. Though, I wasn't even told not to have sex when I was being discharged from the hospital. I was told about not having baths or swimming etc for 4 weeks. But the nurse didn't even mention sex. If it wasn't for the common sense, the bump and a couple parenting books, I wouldn't of even known about the infection risks. I think it should be explained better when being discharged from the hospital that it's not just about the tears and stitches, but also about the risk of infection.

grinsandgiggles · August 2009

Fish4Fun:
I think a lot of people don't know about the infection part. They think if everything feels fine, then it must be fine. It's understandable. Doctors should be more clear about why you have to wait.

This. I can't tell you how many times I've had to tell people about the infection part and they didn't know. My doctor didn't tell me any of this either...luckily I did my reading.

Nicole Williams · August 2009

katie_cj@hotmail.com:
I think it should be explained better when being discharged from the hospital that it's not just about the tears and stitches, but also about the risk of infection.

I agree with this. I think that most people think the waiting is for stitches or tearing to heal.

EMMB · August 2009

I ended up back in the hospital a few weeks after ds was born with an awful infection. It was not from PP sex (waited until 12 weeks pp due to an awful tear) but my goodness nothing in the world is worth being rehospitalized when you have a newborn at home. It was so hard on me and I think it is one of the reasons that my already low milk supply dried up. Trust me gals, one night of fun isn't worth it.

VAannie · August 2009

blessed_wife:
Seriously. When we were all pregnant, we tried so hard to follow every single thing that our doctors told us to do. What happened now? If its recommended not to have sex until cleared by the doctor, why would you risk it? Are you that desperate for an infection?
Flame all you want. I just don't get it.

I'm sorry, but aren't you the one who posted yesterday that you had unprotected sex 6 weeks PP and are now worried you might be pregnant again? Frankly, I don't think you're qualified to chide others' decisions about sex.

lzybeanie · August 2009

that's a really good point...though i wasn't a slave to my doc's guidelines while pregnant. i did wait MORE than 6 weeks!

blessed_wife · August 2009

VAannie:
blessed_wife:
Seriously. When we were all pregnant, we tried so hard to follow every single thing that our doctors told us to do. What happened now? If its recommended not to have sex until cleared by the doctor, why would you risk it? Are you that desperate for an infection?
Flame all you want. I just don't get it.
I'm sorry, but aren't you the one who posted yesterday that you had unprotected sex 6 weeks PP and are now worried you might be pregnant again? Frankly, I don't think you're qualified to chide others' decisions about sex.

It was me, but I don't see what it has to do with this post?

We waited 6wks to be cleared, and my post was about the likelihood of getting pregnant 6wks PP... It was not, however, about doing it before being cleared by the doctor.

Mike&Care · August 2009

We didn't wait 6 weeks. Not sure why, we just had the urge at week 4 and acted on it. I stopped bleeding one week PP and everything felt great. I told my Dr. and didn't get scolded. I wouldn't do it 2 weeks PP or anything that crazy, but at a month, we felt good about it.

Hoovereeno · August 2009

When I was discharged (after my vaginal delivery, with several tears), my OB gave me three conditions that needed to be met before I could have sex:

1. no bleeding

2. I feel ok/no pain

3. 3-4 weeks have past.

The six week rule is outdated. A lot of doctors say it's ok to go for it before then.

mommabarker09 · August 2009

Hoovereeno:
When I was discharged (after my vaginal delivery, with several tears), my OB gave me three conditions that needed to be met before I could have sex:

1. no bleeding

2. I feel ok/no pain

3. 3-4 weeks have past.

The six week rule is outdated. A lot of doctors say it's ok to go for it before then.

Yep. Someone tried to flame me last night for asking if anyone elses doctor cleared them for sex after the bleeding stopped (no tears). Apparently I'm a crazy dirty slut for wanting to have sex with the father of my child when my doctor says it's ok... I guess the advice of an internet stranger is safer!!!

txbabs111 · August 2009

BlueShoes32:
I'm just not that compliant a pregnant lady. I've been known to ignore a recommendation or five. I eat lunch meat all the time. I had sushi yesterday. Heck, per the OB who saw me post-miscarriage, I shouldn't be this pregnant now.
If you had an uncomplicated delivery, if tears are healed, stitches are out, etc., you're not risking much. It doesn't take six weeks for most of those things to happen, it's just that six weeks is the routine follow-up moment.

Waiting 6 weeks doesn't have anything to do with stitches or tears. It has to do with the gaping open wound in your uterus that was left by your placenta.

*KC*luvs*RJ* · August 2009

DH really wants to have sex and brings it up every day. This was my exact argument with him...lets see, I don't want to get pg again this early AND I'm definitely not for getting an infection. Especially so, since I both labor and a c/s. He'll have to wait.

maryplu · August 2009

Fish4Fun:

I think a lot of people don't know about the infection part. They think if everything feels fine, then it must be fine. It's understandable. Doctors should be more clear about why you have to wait.

Agreed I didn't know this was why until after I left the hospital and my aunt told me about the infection she got from having sex at 5 weeks!

CrazyLife3 · August 2009

What I don't understand is why would anyone want to? My DH is annoying the heck out of me right now.

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