Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
eris1995
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Re: what's your thoughts on BYOB parties
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
Charges ADMISSION?!?! You've gotta be freaking kidding me. That's crazy. We aren't 16 anymore.
I don't think BYOB is a big deal. Its nice to have get togethers, but paying for everyone's alcohol can get expensive. However, charging admission is ridiculous.
I don't think BYOB is a bad idea. All of our friends have different taste in Beer & someone will only drink the really expensive imported stuff. So they just bring there own.
Is she providing all the food? I don't agree with charging admission. But to me BYOB is not that big of a deal.
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I think BYOB is tacky. If you can't afford to have a party where you pay for everything, you simply should not have a party, or downgrade to something you can afford. There doesn't HAVE to be alcohol at a party.
I won't even get into charging admission! Eww!
My exact thoughts.
I do agree with the second part. We always bring something when we go to a party. But to make it a requirement lacks tact.
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Yeah there does
yep! She had a halloween party one year and there was a $10 cover charge. I understand that throwing a party can be expensive, but I kind of have the mindset of don't throw a huge bash if you can't cover the cost. DH and I have a yearly party in the summer and have food & beer. If someone wants something else to drink they can bring it. Most people call us and ask if there's something they can bring and we give them a small side dish to bring.
This. Although I often bring my own anyway, since I don't like beer.
But I can't imagine throwing a party and not providing alcohol, water, and soda in addition to the food.
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I haven't gone to any of her parties. I figure if you have a group of friends and they all have a party once a year the cost of alcohol evens out.
I'm not saying it should be a requirement to bring something to a party. I wouldn't make anyone bring anything. But do I think it's rude not to? YES.
Charging admission is absurd...that's something you do to college freshman when you rent a house and they are living in the dorms. Do you actually pay her to go her parties??
I think if people ask what can they bring it's ok to ask for a case of beer, but if you are throwing a party your are responsible for food and alcohol.
nope- I feel like a biitch sometimes, but I refuse to go to her parties.
Admission is tacky, tacky, tacky.
BYOB I don't mind, as long as you provide something.. We usually bring our own drinks when we go to a party, anyway. I hate drinking other people's beer!
Yeah, that's tacky too (getting wasted at a party).
I agree with other posters who say that BYOB requirement is tacky, but that you should bring something anyway because it's a nice thing to do.
And admission is ridiculous. Seriously... does she think her parties are that wonderful or what?
Hi! Yeah, it's kind of silly to charge people at your own home for a party where people are bringing gifts. That sounds kind of greedy.
?I guess I can see BYOB to a casual BBQ, but I would NEVER expect people to BYOB or even ask them to. I don't drink (ever) and I always buy beer and drinks for people at my house. ?
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I COMPLETELY agree
Dude, throw a party without alcohol if you want, but don't expect people to stay long! lol
Our friends would revolt.
Well, they're not my style. I understand them to a certain point, though. DH has a large family and they always do pot-lucks. The host/hostess will provide the main course and everyone else will bring the sides and desserts.
However, my BIL and SIL have Halloween parties every year. They make people bring their own drinks AND food to share, and we STILL have to buy costumes. So pretty much they supply the venue. Makes me SO MAD!!!
I can understand maybe bringing your own drinks OR a dish to share, but BOTH??? And they own a home and are married (obviously) and pushing 30. They're irresponsible with money, too.
I think if you can't afford to have a party, don't.
No kidding. That would just not fly with our circle.
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
Actually, my friends would too. Hahaha! We always provide lots, and lots, and lots of alcohol. But I think we hang out with lushes! Ha!
All I was saying is that if you can't afford to have alcohol, don't have alcohol instead of asking people to bring it. Also, if you put on the invitation that there will be pop, appetizers, and dinner (or whatever), people may be inclined to bring their own booze. There are tactful ways to go about it.