TTC After a Loss

What's your Plan B?

Since I'm a glass half-empty kinda gal, let's talk about our Plan Bs. ;) Finish this sentence:

"If I don't get KU this cycle, my plan is to ..."

I'm curious because I'm really starting to lose hope, and I'm honestly not sure what my Plan B is. If I'm not KU this cycle, I'm not sure what the next step needs to be.

I'm 30 years old (so not young, but not old enough to blame TTTC issues on), have gotten pg twice now, have been tested for a billion things only to find a slight reason to take baby aspirin, it seems that I'm O'ing, we're timing BDing perfectly... if that doesn't do it, I don't know what options I have or really what my OB would suggest.

It's very frustrating. I know it'll happen when it'll happen, but I just generally hate that phrase. :)

Re: What's your Plan B?

  • If I dont get KU this cycle, my plan is....

     

    to keep on trying.  Big Smile This is only our 2nd cycle of TTC after my d&c.  We have been ttc since Dec 09.  I am going to TRY to start charting in hopes it will give me more insight to my body.

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  • drink bircardi lemon and pepsi and eat lots of sushi.
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  • I meant Dec 08 oops Embarrassed
  • I find out plan B on Tuesday when I go back to the RE.  We'll go over my b/w and do a diagnostic u/s....so, hopefully I'll have a reason why I have long, wacky cycles.  I'm filled with anxiety and excitement at the same time - let's just hope there's a plan come Tuesday afternoon!

    btw, I don't know why you don't have CH yet.  Everything looks great on your chart!! 

  • hmmm.  i've had the same happen but at age 25 now...2 m/c, continued trying, results come back normal, explanation is nothing.  I hate to say it, but I think I'm going to go through as many m/c as I can emotionally handle or until the doc tells me to stop.  i figure i've got another 10-15 years.  but if I try the next few years with no success, we'll probably look into adoption simultaneously.  I guess the bottom line is I try not to think about it too much :(
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  • "If I don't get KU this cycle, my plan is to ..."

    Possibly move on to injectables with IUI. I am hoping I am pg this month and never have to worry about it!

    It's funny you ask this today. My friend IRL asked me the same thing yesterday....what's next? I started thinking about how long we've been TTC and since I'm 30, I'm feeling worried. If we stop and take a big break, then I'm just another year older. I never intended on starting my family into my 30's. If we move onto something aggressive like IVF, I want to do it sooner rather than later. 

     

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  • imageohdanna:
    drink bircardi lemon and pepsi and eat lots of sushi.

    sounds so good...

    apparently if i'm not pregnant, i'm going to a water park. husband and i are visiting my parents in florida the first week of sept and they are gung ho on this waterpark idea. i'm not really interested. if i'm knocked up, i'll have an excuse not to go (too tired, too nauseated, too pregnant...)

  • If I don't get KU this cycle, my plan is to buy pre-seed since I don't get a lot of EWCM and I'm suspecting that might be the problem.  My cycles are normal, LP is normal, O at a normal time, and BD at the right time.  I'm going to continue with robitussin and grapefruit juice also. 

    I'm also going to call the dr to schedule an appt to talk about the next step since I've been off birth control for 10 months, even though we've only been actively ttc for 5 months.  DH's brother has low sperm count and him and his wife are having trouble conceiving so I'm going to mention that to the dr...I don't think it's hereditary, but you never know and a SA doesn't hurt!

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  • My plan b is to keep trying for another 3 cycles. My doc is pretty proactive (so I hear) so if it doesn't happen by 6 mos of TTCing, I'll go to him and see what we can do.

    I find TTCing in general frustrating.... knowing you could do everything right and your shot is still, what, 25%, is very, very scary to me.  

  • I am going to make an appointment and talk with my doctor. Hopefully we can do a u/s and some tests and figure out what the H is going on.
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  • imageohdanna:
    drink bircardi lemon and pepsi and eat lots of sushi.

    NICE!!

  • I don't have a plan B. I guess we will keep trying. We are slowly reaching our EDD from our first loss. : ( December will mark one year of trying. So I am really hoping something happens. Soon.
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  • If I don't get pregnant this cycle...I'll probably be pregnant within a few cycles and will have another mc. Getting pg is not the problem for me. I dunno what I'll do if it starts looking like it'll never happen....maybe rescue my niece from BIL's weird, socially awkward, religious fundamentalist family's influence....
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    I find out plan B on Tuesday when I go back to the RE.  We'll go over my b/w and do a diagnostic u/s....so, hopefully I'll have a reason why I have long, wacky cycles.  I'm filled with anxiety and excitement at the same time - let's just hope there's a plan come Tuesday afternoon!

    btw, I don't know why you don't have CH yet.  Everything looks great on your chart!! 

    I know!! I finally forced FF to give me CHs. I discarded that wacky high temp on cd12 and got CHs at the temp dip. Looks right to me! We'll see...

  • DH and I are both 39. We said we'd continue trying until we were both 40- in April 2010. After that, we'll talk adoption. And we've decided we're only trying naturally- no meds or IUIs or anything. So, we'll see what happens. But both of us are pretty convinced that we'll have a child, for no other reason than faith.
  • If I don't get KU this month I have to throw in the towel and take a break until the first of the year.  Doctor said so.
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  • If I dont get KU this cycle, my plan is....

     to do one more round of Clomid, and have dh get another S/A. If that doesn't make it happen then we're planning on taking a "break" from aggressively TTC. I'll still chart, but only to confirm O. and we'll see what happens... maybe we'll be the "OMG I'm 3 months pg?" couple :)

  • If I don't get KU this cycle....plan B is to stop for a few months, probably until the first of the year to start ttc again.....DH is probably starting a new job in September, and if he does and I'm not already KU, the insurance won't pick it up until after the 30 day wait for the insurance to kick in---which is really a 60 day wait b/c I can't "conceive" before then......

    If dh doesn't get the job by labor day weekend, plan C is to keep trying in September b/c we would clear another cycle before he's put through the whole hiring process.

    Let's just hope we all get BFP's this cycle and don't have to worry about Plan B!!

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    Let's just hope we all get BFP's this cycle and don't have to worry about Plan B!!

    I like this!

  • First, I will have a drink.

    Second, I will call RE and schedule u/s for Femara, and then pick up the prescription. (this is our plan B -- we're going to the meds)

    Third, I will print out a calendar and in the biggest writing tell DH when we are doing it. the schedule has been a problem for us . . .

    Fourth, plan a vacation - we've putting off a big vacation thinking, "oh you'll be knocked up. . ." well, I'm not. so time to go away.

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  • If I don't get KU this cycle, plan B is to...

    Go to Australia, drink entirely too much, do an insane amount of shopping and have lots of sex.

    When we come back, I will start clomid

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  • Go to the tattoo shop and add more ink to my skin. jk

    No, I don't have a plan B as of it. If I don't get KU again in three cycles, I may just give myself a break. My body has been through the ringer and back in such a short period of time. 

  • imagefunegirl:
    DH and I are both 39. We said we'd continue trying until we were both 40- in April 2010. After that, we'll talk adoption. And we've decided we're only trying naturally- no meds or IUIs or anything. So, we'll see what happens. But both of us are pretty convinced that we'll have a child, for no other reason than faith.

    This is what we said....DH is 39 and I'll be 37 soon.  Funny how things change though...this is my last cycle natural and the next will be with Clomid.  I just can't throw in the towel quite yet.

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  • my plan is to...see a new doctor. I don't think my current one is taking my concerns seriously. I think she's made up her mind about what is/isn't wrong with me and isn't willing to consider other options or ideas.
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