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peeps61308
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how did you meet your current SO?
peeps61308
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I am not in a blended family situation, but I have been seperated from DH for over 8 months, so it is possible I will be in that situation eventually. I am wondering where you met your current SO/DH. At this point everything I do is with/for DD and I guess I can't see being in a situation where I will "meet up" with someone. I feel like my marriage kinda sucked and coming across a great guy might never happen...The last thing I want now is another relationship, but I guess I am kinda worried that I might not have another spportunity(stupid I know) TIA!
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Re: how did you meet your current SO?
Do you work or volunteer, or do things outside of the house much? I met my husband at Starbucks--I was working, he was a customer. My best friend is in a long term relationship with a guy that her coworker sent her on a blind date with!
It will happen, and you DO deserve better. Just let it happen when it happens---having a child isn't unusual in the dating scene, anymore! And now you have another precious reason (besides yourself!) to not settle in a relationship. Good luck when the time comes
I dated a lot of people I met online when I was newly single but none of them worked out. Most of the men I met when out with friends would be interested -- until they found out I had 3 little boys.
I was helping at my church to organize different events. I actually met DH at a "Love Feast" (not Love Fest
) and we became good friends over the next year. Then we started dating & it wasn't long before we were engaged.
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Ha... I did a lot of diff forms of dating-internet, friends, work, dating services, etc... I did not do speed dating, but think I covered all other forms...
Met DH on Match.com shortly after we both wanted to stop internet dating. My sister gave me some advice, though, that worked quite well... (DH made a funny spreadsheet for me to keep track of the guys)
Think of dating as mutual funds. Don't just do one-invest in a few at a time. Then, sort them out-you'll weed out the icky ones and find the good one!
DHs spreadsheet had a list-guy A, B, him, D, and E. He listed things for me to rate: looks, nose size, income, humor, creativity, etc...
After almost 4 yrs., I still have that spreadsheet-and his profile page!
DH and I met on Match actually. We both have previously been married, he has a DD and I have no kids. After my divorce, I dated someone I work with, what a disaster. Not because we worked together but because that guy was a complete a$$! Then I dated here and there, nothing serious. I dated a guy who worked at an auto repair place that I met when I took my car in for some work, that was about 6 months of dating. After we broke up, I went online and DH was the first person I talked to and the rest is history as they say.
Try online. It's not as cliche as it used to be. I have never been big into going out and picking up guys. Those guys I find are a nice distraction but not really the type of guy I want to date seriously. That's how I ended up online. I'm busy and don't want to pick guys at bars, and I'd like the time to talk with them in email and on the phone and get to know them first to see if we have things in common before going out.
I worked at the daycare he sent his son too.
GL and I hope you get that "dream" marriage one day
We met through work. We do not work at the same company but we are on a work-related committee together.
When you are ready, you will meet someone-in the park, at Wal-Mart, through friends, online, etc. Just live you life the way it makes you happy and eventually you will want to get out and do things again.
I don't have children of my own, FI is the one with kids. He was serving in Iraq and I used yahoo messenger to keep in touch with friends. I uploaded my picture one night in December, he sent me a message a few hours later in the middle of the night. I sent him a message back in the morning asking if I knew him. He said no but he was going to be stationed near me after Iraq and wanted to meet some people so he'd have friends when he got back (I joke that he was trolling for booty, he probably was). I picked him up from the airport in April when his tour was over. We've been together since!
BM swears she'll never marry again. I think that's weird, she's only 27 and she's the cheater so it's not like she was "traumatized" by FI. She had no problem dating DURING the marriage, so why she won't date now is beyond me.
It'll happen for you when you least expect it. I had gotten out of a really disasterous relationship a few months before, and the last thing I expected was that IM in the middle of the night from my future husband! You never know!
I'm sure the eight months feels long, but don't underestimate the value of this time to yourself, to focus on you and DD.
My story is probably not the ideal dating scenario - we met in a bar. We were both just in town for work, but we met for dinner every night that week. After that we traveled to visit each other. After a few months, I met his family. After a year, we moved to be together. I joke to myself the one time I tried to have a fling, I end marrying the guy. LOL
on a blind date! My very first ( and last) one ever. I didnt want to go on it either, but my family/friends were annoying me so much about it I finally caved in and went!
His friend - who never met me- and my friend - who met him once briefly, cooked up a plan to have us all go out. Well they could never get a date convenient for all so finally he asked if he could just call me and meet me.
He did and we've been together ever since!
Everyone feels that way at some point in their life. Dont dwell to much on meeting anyone at this point if you dont want too, take things slowly and focus on your daughter, for me it seems the best things happen when I stop thinking about them and just let it go its own course.
SO and I met at work, he was actually my boss. I never expected anything like this for me to happen but it did and I couldnt be any happier.
Thanks everyone for your responses! I know it can and may happen eventually, it is just so nice to hear success stories! Thanks so much