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baby plans got shot down
Well we finally got the doctors to give us an answer about having another baby before Max's transplant and it's a no go. I tried to gear myself up for that answer considering all of the hesitant responses they were giving us, but I was really hoping for a different outcome. There are several reasons that they decided that it would be best to wait, but I won't get into all of them.
With that said, they have decided to move Max's transplant up to happen in 6 months or so. I am thrilled that this part will be finished, but I am petrified at the same time. I am not ready for this surgery and I don't think there is a way to really prepare yourself for it. I am even more worried for Max to be going through this. His transplant surgeon has leukemia and is out so he won't be the one doing the surgery which worries me to pieces. I trust all of the other surgeons, but there not Dr. Sheldon.
I don't know why my emotions are going wild right now, but I feel like a ton of brinks were just dropped on my shoulders. I am sitting at dialysis right now so I can't really break down like I want to, but I will as soon as we get in the car I am sure. My heart is broken about having to wait to have another baby. I am scared to get pregnant once I only have one kidney. I am scared for the transplant. I am just scared!!!
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Re: baby plans got shot down
Tyler Anthony arrived on 9.21.09
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Elijah Matthew - 5/3/07 ~ Adalyn Rosemary - 3/23/11
*Photos by Kacy Cierley*
We will most definitely be glad that this sugery is over. I hope I didn't come across that I don't want to transplant because I do. It's just going to be a very scary year with the transplant and then his bladder reconstruction. The reconstruction is more difficult in the transplant itself and will be a much longer hospital stay as well. This is just going to be the start of a very long and stressful year ahead of us.
It's a good thing though. We are ready to get this process moving, but it's a very scary process and it's going to be hard on all of us to see Max go through these 2 major surgeries. It's going to kill me even more that I'll be in a hospital bed and not able to get to Max. They encourage you to get up as soon as possible, and I will, but I can't play super mom like I did when he was born because I still have soreness at my incision site from not letting myself heal properly.
Ugh, it's just going to be hard and I don't know how to prepare myself for it.
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Beth - I hope you didn't take my response wrong. I wasn't trying to be mean in the least. I personally cannot fathom your strength or what you have went through, I know I would be a complete mess (and would have been since you first found out while still pg that something was wrong). I admire your strength and hope that if I were ever in a situation where E or a future child would be sick that I would have the same strength and courage that you have. You are an amazing mother and an inspiration to everyone!
Elijah Matthew - 5/3/07 ~ Adalyn Rosemary - 3/23/11
*Photos by Kacy Cierley*
I am sorry that your TTC plans were shot down. I can't imagine what you are going through. I know when DH was getting ready to donate his kidney to his father, I was a total spaz.
You will want to take time to heal, DH was a solid week before he could walk to the bathroom on his own. It will be a tough recovery, but it will be so worth it.
Are you having the transplant surgery done at University?
DS #1 born January 2010. DS #2 due June 2014.
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I a so sorry for the news you received. I know you were really hoping to have another baby soon. But like other posters have said at least now you can 100% focus on this successful surgery.
I don't even know what to say as I obviously don't know how I feel but I am definitly sending you lots of thoughts, prayers, and hugs. You have been put in some rough waters the last year plus and you have been able to swim through. You will keep doing just that.