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share your ferber experiences

DAugerDAuger
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We are starting to consider Ferberizing DS. The book is on its way to me now from amazon, but we won't be starting it until I research it completely. We plan to start in September when I start working from home full time and our schedule is solid. We were co-sleeping, but it just isn't working out anymore. I'm getting no sleep, DS is getting no sleep.

So tell me what it was like before Ferber. How much were they up? What was the problem?

What happened during the process? How did you do it?

How are things now? Was it a success or not?

Thanks, Ladies..this very tired mama appreciates this! :-)

 

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Re: share your ferber experiences

  • LenMontLenMont

    We started at 4.5 mo. I had read the book and was chicken to start..then one night I just snapped. DS had gone to sleep at 7 and was up at 8,9,10, 10:30, 11-when he woke up at midnight I started Ferber out of desperation. He cried for 14 minutes (so about 3 checks) and then was out for the rest of the night! The next night he cried for 9 minutes when we put him down, woke up at 3am to eat and that was it. After that he went down drowsy but awake every night (naps too) and only woke once a night to eat. We did this for about a week and then one night dh gave him a bottle at 3am instead of me nursing him. He only ate an ounce! We realized he probably didn't need that feeding. The next night we let him cry when he woke at 3am. He cried for about 2 min and went right back to sleep.

    This worked for another week or so but he was still waking up 3-4 times a night for his paci. He wasn't eating at night so it was a huge improvement but it was still not quite right and the paci thing seemed to be getting worse. So...two night ago we started ferber with no paci. This has been much tougher. He cried for 25 minutes (4-5 checks) both nights so far but then he is down for the whole night without waking at all. Naps without the paci are super duper hard.

    It's totally worth it--just be ready to be strong. I hate hearing him cry.

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  • SummerRainyDaySummerRainyDay
    Hi - I am currently on night 7 of Ferber - DS is 4.5 months old.  Pedi recommended that I start it. It's helped us out a TON (although it's been tough).  DS is EBF and was waking up 3-4 times at night.  We had quite a few issues with bedtime.  He needed to be held and rocked to sleep with a pacifier (DH and I spent hours each night holding him).  Also, he slept in his carseat (which started when he was a few weeks old due to reflux).  So, when we started Ferber he was learning to sleep in his crib with no paci.  The most he has cried is 40 minutes.  The least he has cried is 11 minutes.  He only wakes up once now and it is usually around 4am so he is sleeping 8-4 and then 4:30-6:00. Also, I watch him on the video monitor and I see that he wakes up a couple of times during the night but is able to soothe himself back to sleep.  The book is extremely helpful and gave me the willpower to get through the crying.  A few nights of crying is worth years of good sleep habits to me!!  Definitely start it when you can afford to lose some sleep (we started on a Thursday night b/c I wasn't working on Friday) - You will need to continue the "method" when DS wakes up during the night.  My best advice is to just stay strong and stick with it.  It gets much easier after a couple of days.   Good Luck!!
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