I have only been dating gf for a little less than three months. So I am clearly getting ahead of myself. She does know of my plan to get pregnant in the not-distant future.
After being with friend's baby a couple weeks ago we were talking about vaccines and babies and I mentioned I would probably opt not to have my baby given hep b or the chicken pox vaccine. She is teasing me about it, still. I am not sure how much of it is teasing though.
She works in an area of major surgery in one of the Boston hospitals. She has a comfort level with invasive medical care that I do not have. But she is also an organic-food-whenever-possible, bicycle-to-work, five-days-a-week yogi, who has never undergone surgery herself.
I jokingly told her that if we were to have a baby together I would let her make the call on the chicken pox vaccine, but I was drawing the line at the hep b. I am very curious to know what she would think of my hope to avoid a hospital birth (probably birth center). I already know she isn't a fan of the hospital that houses the birth center.
I am not worrying or anything like that. But it will be interesting to see. I would love to have her with me and get her perspective on the intro tour of the birth center. (I am also hoping that she will want to be around long after that, but again, that is further ahead.)
Re: curious about what the future may bring
point blank ask her her thoughts.
DH and I do not agree on vaccines. He wants A to be vaccinated for EVERYTHING. I told him I would compermise and do it, but at a later date. Now the H1N1 vaccine is different. We both are very concerned about it.
The most you can do is talk with her.
I will ask her point blank at some point, but I don't want to yet.
We are going to San Diego together. It should be a blast.
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I realize that you're in a delicate/unique situation, but honestly I think a lot of that is up to you if you're carrying the child. This was your plan before you met her, which is not to say that you can't take her feelings into consideration, but ultimately, you need to make a decision you are comfortable with. That's my 2 cents anyway.
ETA: I'm talking about birth methods, not vaccines.
Just talk with her about it. ?I do agree with armandos that you are in a delicate situation. ?You'll need to feel more comfortable with the decision you make. ?
::have fun in San Diego :-) ::?
it her opinion for a couple of reasons. First, I find that most people at the Boston hospitals don't understand why people go to community hospitals. Also, I strongly suspect that her opinion comes from the specific knowledge of a particular type of surgery, and DEFINITELY not any knowledge about ob/birth, which she admits she doesn't pay much attention to. Thirdly, she (and I) are brats. She may well of teased any hospital other than hers since I tease her hospital as being the 'hospital of unnecessary interventions'.
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The reason I don't want to bring the topic up right now is that we have an understanding right now: if I were to get pregnant in the near future it would be MY baby. In this scenario her opinions would have limited weight. However, if I choose to wait and we choose to have a baby together, then her opinions would hold a lot more weight.
I don't consider it delicate necessarily, but I don't want to confuse things with lots of baby talk seeking her input right now either.
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I am also a brat and I am super selective of my Boston hospitals.
This is why I am going through a RI hospital.