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The sting of IF never goes away does it.....

mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
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Why is it that having suffered through IF makes us so jaded for other people? My mom just called me and told me that my cousin is pregnant again. She has a 13 month old and is due in March. I feel like I have been punched in the gut and I don't know why. I have this beautiful baby who I love more than anything but yet I feel these stabs of jealousy to my cousin who is such a wonderful deserving person. I hate what IF has done to me. Is the jealousy because I want another baby now? NOOOOO!!!! I think it is the hurt that I may never get the chance to be pregnant again. I can't just have sex with my DH and get pregnant....no tubes means no eggs in them which means no easy pregnancy. Maybe it is because I will have to wait YEARS until we will have the money saved to try IVF again. I don't know anymore........

Thanks for listening. I needed to vent my feelings about it and I know that you ladies can all understand where I am coming from.

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Re: The sting of IF never goes away does it.....

  • wannalil1wannalil1
    I totally hear that!  I found out this week that my cousin's wife is pregnant again...her son is 11 months!!  I am happy for them but part of me knows that it will not be that easy for us the second time around.   And I get it, I was not "jealous" either cause Juliette is barely 4 months but I still feel as if something was taken away from me. I have 1 tube and did IVF twice for Juliette.  Vent all you want...we understand :)
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  • Temp848906437505510Temp848906437505510
    The sting never goes away and, frankly, the depth of what you've endured, I believe, relates to where you feel that sting.  The getting pregnant easy part is almost out of my realm of belief.  I'm envious of those people who get pregnant on one or even two IVF's and for those who get pregnant with their own eggs!  It doesn't mean I'm not thrilled for them, but, it's a direct correlation to what I was not able to do.
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