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Are baby showers for kids close in age tacky?
I was having a discussion with someone today about having a baby shower for your second child, when your first one is only a year old. Is it tacky? Would you do it?
Just curious about answers. I wouldn't do it myself, but not sure what others think.
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Re: Are baby showers for kids close in age tacky?
I would not want one...though my friends did a surprise diaper shower for me at one of our monthly girls nights. Got 12 cases of diapers...YO!
Sarah - 12/23/2008
Alex - 9/30/2011
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yes, it's tacky when they're so close in age.?
I don't think tacky is strong enough a word for it. LOL Yes it's beyond tacky.
I think the only time a shower is acceptable for a second or more child is when it's been a LONG time between children. Like maybe 8 years or more.
I think its tacky, why do you need a shower you should already have everything you need.?
With that said I see no issue with getting together with friends and celebrating the upcoming birth, having lunch or something. If they bring you a gift great, but that should not be the point.
However, sending out invites with where you are registered is tacky IMHO when you have another baby so close in age. To me it just looks like you are gift grabby.
i think baby showers for a second child are tacky too. i have been to a shower for a third child, the court where i used to live had one for the neighbor....
when i worked in DC, the office held showers for people having a second baby.
Depends on the situation....
Take for instance my friend has a child - a lil boy - he came at 25 weeks - so she had a shower thrown for her - she totally couldnt get into the shower because her mind was on her lil boy. She appreciated everything they got and she loved the shower / theme; etc. But her heart was at the hospital
Now 3 years later - she is pregnant -she had a TAC done and she is having a picture perfect pregnancy - and this time its a Girl...so we are going to do another shower for her. The difference is - she didnt register...and we are doing a baking contest...everyone brings a different dessert and the winner gets the gifts, etc.
I dont think it is tacky....but then again it depends on the situation....
I don't think the situation you just described is tacky at all.
I think that if I had two children close in age (less than 2 years apart), I wouldn't want or request a shower. Especially asking for bigger ticket items again, like pricey car seats, etc.
Oh no now that is just tacky....and like I said she didnt ask for the shower - I was the one who brought it up - and on top of everything else - she isnt registering...well wait...that is not totally true...she is registered for small items but the registry is only for family and close friends - and especially for us who has a baby girl...She want regifted stuff. So I have already sent a box of clothes, etc..and I am getting ready to send more stuff.
The only big ticket item is $89 - which I am buying her if I dont make it to the shower in person.
My friend knew someone who was having a shower for their 2nd child, less than 2 years apart, and they're asking for everything all over again. Huge registry. And car seats that were over $200 on it, too!
TACKY? I'll give you tacky.
My SIL pregnant with 1st kid at 16. Isn't married, isn't with baby's daddy...her mother threw her a shower.
Fast forward 2 years. SIL pregnant AGAIN this time with TWINS !!!! Yep you guessed it they just had her ANOTHER baby shower.
I refused to go. She isn't working, isn't married, twins daddy isn't working. I'm not spending my hard money to keep buying crap for all her kids.
HELL NO ! I didnt go. I made it known they were beyond tacky.
It is never tacky to politely decline an offer of a shower of any kind.
If you think its tacky don't go, don't have one.
Here's tacky...
DH's coworker had a baby boy. She had a full blown shower, we attended and gave a gift. When that baby boy was 4 months old, they had an oops and got pregnant again. Another boy. And yes, she had another shower. I was so annoyed when we got that invitation. Needless to say, we didn't attend or give a gift.
I agree with this. I don't expect one for this baby nor would I plan one for someone else for a second, but if someone comes out of the blue and throws me one, I'm not going to throw a fit, refuse to go, and tell them they are being tacky, kwim?
ETA: I also wouldn't register again.
I only had one for my first, but I would gladly go to someone's shower no matter which kid it is, or how close in age they are. I never knew it was considered "tacky" until the nest.
And, if this one is a girl and someone offers, I will take it. And this is my third in three years...gasp! It would only be family, I know they don't care if it's my first child or 20th, and we will desperately need some clothes. LOL. Which my family would be dying to buy anyways because it would be the first girl in the family.