Pregnancy Hormones as an excuse

Abinormal · August 2009

Alright, so this might not go over well, but here is my opinion...

I have definitely had a couple of scenarios where my pregnancy hormones have come into play. I cry a little easier at silly things and I'm definitely more irritable at times than I ever was before.

However, I do not think this gives me the right to be a *** to DH or other people in my life and get away with it just because I am pregnant. When I am being irrational or emotional I am normally well aware of it and I try to either tone it down or I apologize for my behavior after I have calmed down. I have also laughed at myself (and DH has laughed with me) for some of the silly things I have cried or gotten mad about.

I don't think people should pussyfoot around me just because I am pregnant and they might make me mad or hurt my feelings. I also don't mind when people ask me questions or make comments about the pregnancy. I take it all with an open mind and I try to be understanding and accepting of people's curiousity with myself and my developing child.

Is there anyone else out there who agrees with me? Or, is there anyone out there who completely disagrees? What's your opinion?

whit022109 · August 2009

i agree. while i know im more emotional and irritable, i dont think i have a right to take it out on DH or anyone else just because im pregnant.

minda31807 · August 2009

One of my mottos while pregnant is "Just because I am pregnant, it does not give me the right to be a hormonal b!tch." True I slip up every now and then but for the most part I try to bite my tongue.

klande3 · August 2009

I definitely agree. I can be a complete b-word at times and cry a lot easier, but if I know I am being mean I try to walk away from the situation. I would never ever think that it is ok to tell someone I hate them, or make comments about someone elses relationship status- both things that pg women did to me and blamed it on being pregnant. I ALWAYS apologize for being mean.... always. UNLESS I know I am right and rational about the way I acted.

whidbeymomma · August 2009

I agree but for the most part you will find that no matter how hard you try not to be a biotch, you will still come off as one... My hormones finally seemed to mellow out a bit these past few weeks, but I HATE feeling like I am going to cry or piss someone off for saying something. It is awful!

mccamish · August 2009

This but add "because I am pregnant it DOES give me the right to b!tch about my hormones!"

At least to my dear understanding friends!

Bonzer · August 2009

I am a B1tch because I am a b1tch and that is my nature. The occupancy rate in my uterus has nothing to do with it, and I actually hate that my b1tchiness gets blamed on pregnancy, because it's not the fetuses fault, it's my disposition

Tonya_G · August 2009

I agree wholeheartedly. There have been one or two moments where I've lost it and it's been hormonally related, however, I do make amends and in general, try to play nice with those around me. It just makes life so much easier!

CKLee1107 · August 2009

So for me, I am more ready to cry than blow but that is my nature also...I cry at alot of things now that I could've held back before which sucks and I for some reason feel bad about crying since it makes people uncomfortable as much as I am uncomfortable about doing it...but as far as getting bitchy....I get irritated much more easily but I try my darnedest to respond in the same manner that I would have before pg...When people tell me its my hormones I step back, look over what I've just said/done, and if it wasn't I say so honestly and if it was I admit it, appologize if there is a need and usually can move on from there...I HATE using it as an excuse. It may be the reason but it does NOT excuse us...

aocain02@yahoo.com · August 2009

Pregnancy hasn't exactly been nice to me and I've had my moments and a good chunk of emotional ups and downs. I don't blame getting mad and fighting with my husband on being pregnant because the fights we have now are the same ones we've always had. We just choose to vent our frustrations in ways that may be different then others. And when we do fight, we still never go to bed angry and apologize to each other when we've both calmed down. Does being pregnant make it worse? Yes, it does at times.

Anniekins214 · August 2009

I definitely understand that hormones have an impact on behavior and emotions. I was never a big crier...until recently. Admittedly, I become more irritated than I would normally (especially in traffic).

However, I can't stand women who are proud of their b!tchiness, so I won't be unleashing any b!tchery on anybody any time soon. Don't get me wrong, I lose my patience but I don't think acting like a jerk ever helps the situation; it just makes me look bad.

jenny1980 · August 2009

I agree that there's a difference between being cranky because of hormones and being a shrew.

That said, I think (like with PMS) there's a spectrum. I have found (so far) that pregnancy has a calming effect on my mood. I am superbitch when I have PMS, though, so I sympathetic toward women who have a harder time keeping emotions in check.

fiftysixty · August 2009

I'm glad that I haven't had this issue yet. The biggest problem I've had with hormones was my FIL said the dumbest thing ever to me- he referenced my father. My father and I are estranged, he's not a good man, and my FIL (who has never met him) refuses to believe me that he's an abusive, manipulative, nasty man. He tells me that I need to "be a good daughter" and that I "look just like him".

Not something to tell a pregnant lady. I was perfectly calm and polite to his face, but then I went downstairs, and just melted into sobbing. Poor DH. I haven't taken anything out on him- I just cry like a teenage twit and he has to try and make me feel better. I kind of feel bad about it, you know?

vmm0016 · August 2009

I totally agree!

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