S/O: Did you think you'd like pregnancy?

jenny1980 · August 2009

I have not loved being pregnant so far, but I also didn't expect to enjoy it. I really always looked at it as something you kind of trudge through to get to a baby. I mean...no booze? Morning sickness? Gaining weight? No thanks.

Just curious whether most on here expected to enjoy pregnancy or just tolerate it before getting KU.

aocain02@yahoo.com · August 2009

I am trying to enjoy it now. I went crazy with worrying something would be wrong all the time. I'm glad that feeling has gone away.

ScissorTailedFlycatcher · August 2009

I think I expected it to be prettier than it is. I knew of the fun symptoms of m/s, weight gain, constipation, all that stuff. But I figured I would be showing more by now, and didn't think the symptoms would really be that bad. When people ask me how I feel, I just simply say, "Pregnant."?

lulupinkerton · August 2009

Now that the m/s has subsided (for the most part) I am really enjoying having my energy back and looking forward to a bump!

I hoped that I would enjoy it, but I rarely try and predict how I am going to feel. I am anxious enough.

The gaining weight is scary, but I have found that without booze I already feel trimmer. My butt looks smaller, my luv-handles too. Of course I do expect to get a big belly, but it will be baby! And I can't wait for that!

CKLee1107 · August 2009

shortyred919:
I think I expected it to be prettier than it is. I knew of the fun symptoms of m/s, weight gain, constipation, all that stuff. But I figured I would be showing more by now, and didn't think the symptoms would really be that bad. When people ask me how I feel, I just simply say, "Pregnant."

This sounds pretty much how I expected it....Although with how my mom was telling me her 3 pgs were I was *hoping* for a little easier of a time...

LOVE the answer to how are you feeling btw!

ambizze · August 2009

lulupinkerton:

Now that the m/s has subsided (for the most part) I am really enjoying having my energy back and looking forward to a bump!

This!! I haven't gained weight yet because of the morning sickness, but my boobs are gigantic! It's kinda embarrassing

easjer05 · August 2009

I really did. It's been a real let-down, and there has been a lot of guilt that I should enjoy it more, after everything we've been through to get here.

But this has pretty much sucked.

My mom had what she describes as totally beautiful pregnancies - not free of aches and pains, but just these wonderful experiences that she totally loved and still remembers fondly as golden moments in her life.

I loved being pregnant with Chickadee - so much hope and so much expectation. In some ways, I still feel more bonded to that baby that never really was (stopped developing at 5 weeks, though I didn't find out until 9w) than I do with this one, that is healthy and strong and I've felt move. Of course, some of that has been worry.

So, while I feel like I should shut up and be grateful, it's hard to do. I wanted to love being pregnant, but this blows. Not that I'll trade it, if I get to hold my chickie in my arms and give birth to a healthy child - it will still all be worth it. But I've had to put away my hopes of a lovely pregnancy this time, and hope it'll all be worth it and that there may be a next time and it will be different.

Edited for lengthiness.

nikkirenee81 · August 2009

We tried for 7 months so I think that made me appreciate it more when it happened!

userdeleted · August 2009

I thought I'd love it BOTH times, and both times I've been very "meh" towards the whole thing.

I guess it's worth it though

ninasc · August 2009

I thought I would love it and I do. But then again, that's easy for me to say when I haven't had any morning sickness, nausea, cravings, constipation or any other typical pregnancy symptoms.

Nessdogg · August 2009

This pregnancy has been nothing like I thought it would be. I knew there would be the m/s, weight gain, swelling etc. In my case I had severe HG from week 6-19. I had to have a PICC line placed in at 9 weeks so I could receive zofran and nutrition. Since I was no longer able to eat and ended up losing my appetite. I've had bad acid reflux/heartburn and last month had to be hospitalized for almost two weeks due to a bad gallbladder infection. I eventually had to have a tube to drain my gallbladder inserted and is still in me until I deliver. But now this has been the best I have felt before all of this and even though I have to have my gallbladder removed 2-3 weeks after I deliver. I am still truly thankful that she is healthy and fine so far. But this may be my last pregnancy

Lexee24 · August 2009

FINALLY!

I am so over being pregnant. My skin is breaking out. My hair is falling out. I can't sleep at night. I can't get up in the mornings. I am freezing everyone out of the house. I can't fit in any of my cute clothes anymore. I didn't get sick my first trimester only to be hit with nausea in the second.

My pregnancy was unplanned. And although, I was smiling in the mdo. . .a part of me broke down crying in the car. I am determined to go back for my Masters because my BS is practically that--but I don't want to start and then, have to stop a semester.

It's getting so frustrating for me that no mani/pedi or Blue Bell will cure it. I know that I am supposed to be happy all of the time. . .and I do want my baby. . .but I just can't seem to lift my spirits.

Or maybe I am just jealous that all of my friends looked like supermodels--hair, clothes, cute belly, and post pregnancy banging bodies---and still do. . .and I know that won't happen for me

Tonya_G · August 2009

I've been surprised that this pgcy hasn't been as nice as DS's was- I really had an easy pgcy with him. This one's been a little rougher around the edges. I guess I just got spoiled the first time around.

aces219 · August 2009

I'm so happy intellectually and emotionally (most of the time) to be pregnant, but the actual implementation of said pregnancy is just ugly. Lovenox, hbp, Wellbutrin, m/s that came back. I am weary of complications and afraid of bed rest. But I smile when I feel my baby move, and I comply with all my treatments because that's just what I do. I don't relate to the women who say they love being pregnant, but it seems like all the guys I know have wives who said just that.

Edit: I didn't really answer the question you asked. I don't think I ever really thought about it much. I guess I thought it would be kind of annoying, but not so physically debilitating, and with more good stuff to balance it out.

MathewandApryl · August 2009

I thought I would breeze through pregnancy. It wasn't anything I expected. My mother had perfect pregnancies. I has horrible M/S for the first 15 weeks. I was hospitalized with Zofran and a PICC line. I honestly became very sad and lonely. However, around the 18th week it was as if everything returned to normal. Finding out that we're having a little girl was what changed my mood. I felt like I connect with her now. Even when I have my sick days I feel like I'm becoming a mom and it takes away the icky feelings. If you would have asked me three weeks ago if I would ever have another I would have said no!! But now I feel like I can handle the rough road once or twice more.

Brina Bean · August 2009

I really expected to enjoy it. I don't drink, so that wasn't a consideration and heck, when else in my life would it be acceptable to gain so much weight and to be proud of my rounder body? I really didn't think about all of the "side effects" until they came up after becoming pregnant.

MrsRebecca · August 2009

I didn't think I'd love it, but I also didn't know it could be this bad. Most of my friends who have kids had easy pregnancies with very little morning sickness.

I think if I felt better, then I wouldn't hate pregnancy so much. I don't mind the giving up of alcohol and other things. I didn't even go into this dreading the weight gain- I can always lose it.

The constant nausea and vomiting has to go though. Sometimes just walking from the couch to the bathroom makes me nauseous. I didn't expect to enjoy it, but I also didn't think it could kick my butt the way it has. You don't understand until you experience it.

adriennevla · August 2009

I definitely did not expect to enjoy it, and I was right. It's not as bad as it was at first, honestly, now that I'm feeling less bloated and am used to being a bit bigger, and my boobs don't hurt quite as badly...but it's not exactly pleasant!

Corrine10 · August 2009

haha, funny you should mention this. I made the mistake of watching "Runway Moms" a little too much! I was under the impression that when I am pregnant I would be this cute pregnant girl who would look good in anything that I wore! And I thought that I would have the cutest maternity clothes (now I see that they are expensive and most are not so cute..) Wow was I wrong! Don't get me wrong, I don't dislike being pregnant, but it is not what I expected at all!

passaskat · August 2009

Lexee24:

FINALLY!

I am so over being pregnant. My skin is breaking out. My hair is falling out. I can't sleep at night. I can't get up in the mornings. I am freezing everyone out of the house. I can't fit in any of my cute clothes anymore. I didn't get sick my first trimester only to be hit with nausea in the second.

My pregnancy was unplanned. And although, I was smiling in the mdo. . .a part of me broke down crying in the car. I am determined to go back for my Masters because my BS is practically that--but I don't want to start and then, have to stop a semester.

It's getting so frustrating for me that no mani/pedi or Blue Bell will cure it. I know that I am supposed to be happy all of the time. . .and I do want my baby. . .but I just can't seem to lift my spirits.

Or maybe I am just jealous that all of my friends looked like supermodels--hair, clothes, cute belly, and post pregnancy banging bodies---and still do. . .and I know that won't happen for me

Lexee, I just need to thank you so much for this post. Sometimes when I read thse boards and see all these happy mommies, I feel so guilty. I am not thrilled with being pregnenat to say the least.

I found out I was pregnant during a trip to the Gyno to get on BCP. So, this was a huge shock. A week later I was hit with all day long morning sickness for over a month.. followed by killer headaches and heartburn. Its not been a fun ride physicially, and I think thats made it hard to be happy over all. I have spent many a commute crying in my car.

I am so thankful to be having a healthy baby so far. But when your baby is a huge suprise, its hard to make a happy adjustment when phsycially you are tortured.

Maybe what I am typing is all very dramatic. Sorry. I guess I just felt a need to vent to someone who might understand.

I am doing a lot better with accepting it all now. My new hubby is on board 100%. We now its a girl, which makes me feel a lot more bonded to my belly. Things will get better. Its just beena rough ride.

(oh, and I shall not even go into weight gain when I was already in plus size clothing before getting pregnant. I feel like I'll never find good maternity clothes!!!)

nickicl · August 2009

jenny1980:

I have not loved being pregnant so far, but I also didn't expect to enjoy it. I really always looked at it as something you kind of trudge through to get to a baby. I mean...no booze? Morning sickness? Gaining weight? No thanks.

Just curious whether most on here expected to enjoy pregnancy or just tolerate it before getting KU.

Certainly not! I don't see how anyone in touch with reality could expect to like it. On the other hand, it's not as terrible as I thought it would be. However, it would be a lot better to not be pregnant because I wouldn't have to worry about being sick, hot all the time, huge and bogged down with the weight, unable to work out the way I want to, ride roller coasters, drink hard liquor, have a waistline, fit in all my real clothes, avoid people's stupid advice and determination to talk only about pregnancy or baby related topics etc.

A lot of people will tell you how wonderfully easy and beautiful their pregnancies were because they are now over! Once its over your mind forgets a lot of the pains. This doesn't just apply to pregnancy either.

SeaStar430 · August 2009

No. I didn't really like babies or kids either, just wanted to start a family. I know that sounds weird. I thought I'd ghate pregnancy.

Oh what a turn around. Smile

nickicl · August 2009

SeaStar430:

No. I didn't really like babies or kids either, just wanted to start a family. I know that sounds weird. I thought I'd ghate pregnancy.

Oh what a turn around.

That doesn't sound weird. That sounds like one of the most normal, honest posts I've seen on here in a while!

I don't really like babies for the sake of babies. If they are close to me by family or friends its totally cool but you won't see any Ann Geddes posters hanging in my home.

kreeper611 · August 2009

I thought I'd be sick and miserable. I haven't had any many issues at all (aside from horrible acid reflux) but I feel bad saying that I don't really like being pregnant.

I mean, it's not bad...but I just don't like it. I'm not going to be one of those women who say "I love being pregnant" or "it's so great." Really...it's not great. What part of constipation, bloating, acid reflux, morning sickness, sore boobs, crazy looking nipples, weight gain, swollen hands/feet, and being dead tired at 9pm is great? And don't even get me started on all of the freaking rules (most of which I've broken). So in my opinion it's ok being pregnant and will be worth it in the end, but I won't be one to sugar coat it - it is what it is. Something we have to do so that we can have a baby of our own.

((and I feel more guilty complaining when there are women who can't experience it- especially people like my close friends))

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