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WHY am I freaking out about telling my parents??

JellymanKellyJellymanKelly
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I have let another week go by without telling my parents. Granted, I am only going to be 6w on Wednesday, but I've known for 2 weeks and we aren't big secret keepers in my family....or at least I'm not usually a big secret keeper! The longer I wait, the more pissed I think they'll be because I kept it secret for so long, but on the other hand I can't get up the courage to tell them!

 Oh, and I'm married and this isn't even our first child, so there's no way I should be this nervous. It's not like we haven't done this before.

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  • The VaughnsThe Vaughns

    I feel the same way....and Im 10 weeks! AAHH! I dont know why Im not like the 90% of other women who call their mom the moment they get a BFP! DH thinks Im being weird about this.

     

     

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  • lisvennlisvenn
    i was talking to my dad earlier and he was asking me if DH has found a job (he was laid off a year ago), and I told him that the job market here was terrible, etc.. Then my dad started to say that we should start thinking about having a baby as DH could be Mr. Mom and it took a lot of willpower for me not to tell my dad..?
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  • halloweenmom06halloweenmom06

    well..if they are anything like my dad I can understand the freaking part. 

    Child #1- we told my dad and he actully got up and left the room. No reason for this, just a moment where he thought I was a little girl and came to grips with the fact I was an adult happily married ( @ about 6mo!!)

    Clearly we were nervous to tell him again.  We thought, at least it won't be like the first time, LOL...

    Child #2- he changed the subject. He said he wasnt sure what I said. Whatever?! My DD will be over three and I am making a lot more $ with my job.  Why are they soooooo difficult?! Perhaps we will understand one day.

    Good luck with yours.  I hope it turns better than mine!

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  • nln883nln883

    Oh I am so glad I am not the only one!  I am stressing out about it so badly.  It will be the first grandkid on my family's side, and I have an older sister, so I know they're expecting her to get pregnant first.  My parents are also very set in what they feel is the correct order to do things...marriage, absolute financial security, own a house, etc.  Well, I'm married, for over a year now, but we rent and although we know we can adjust spending, etc and be able to afford a baby we're not as secure as my parents would like us to be.  I just know it's going to be a bombshell to my parents, and I'm so scared to tell them.  I just don't want to see them react badly (which I'm 98% sure they will).

     Will I ever feel like an adult?!?

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  • StephLD924StephLD924

    I was WAY more nervous to tell my parents this time around than the last time.  And I didn't have an compunctions about telling people at work when I was pg with DS either.  I've been back for two weeks (I'm a teacher) and still have not told one of my closest work friends from the front office.  And I have told her EVERYTHING since DH and I went out on our first date.  I was really nervous to tell my parents, and I have no idea why.

    I keep saying, "After we see the heartbeat, after we get back from this trip, etc."  And I'm thrilled, we really planned for this baby, so I don't get it either.  So, although I have no words of wisdom, I seem to know exactly how you feel.  We did tell my parents, but it felt super weird for some reason...

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  • chris27chris27

    I am feeling the same way! I am soo nervous about telling our parents. This is our 3rd too. I guess for me it is because I know that both our moms have made comments about us not needing another baby (they both only had two kids so that's what is normal to them). This was a surprise baby....but we were on the fence about another one so we are happy. It must have been in gods plan. I am just too nervous to tell them.

    To make it worse my mom is coming over tomorrow to visit and my m/s just kicked in. What a lovely day of secrets it will be. I hate keeping secrets.

     

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  • mdearringtonmdearrington
    I was waaay nervous. Not only am I young, married for two months, but my parents are 38! My parents always joke that they are to young to be grand parents. When I told mine, I am sure my mom had a mini stroke.
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  • lindsaynjasonlindsaynjason

    I waited a little over a week before I told my mom...  I found out on a Thursday evening and then saw the OB the following Monday.  After we saw the baby and the hb on the ultrasound I knew it would be ok to tell our moms, but I wanted to do it in person so I waited until the weekend when I could see them.

    I guess I was just nervous because this is a complete miracle since I wasn't supposed to be able to get pg without "medical intervention".  I'm still scared out of my mind and it still doesn't feel real (aside from m/s!).

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  • ShereeseShereese
    OMG!!!! I feel the exact same way. I am married, but a newlyweed, so I really wanted to wait a bit, but unfortunately baby didn't. I never keep secrets from my mom, but I find it really hard to tell here that were pregnant. The bad thing is his mom already know and I also told my sister, but mommy I cannot muster up the courage to tell her WHY? I never keep secrets from my mom and have always been able to speak with her about any and everything:I feel so guilty because I've known for approximately 2weeks now and i'm aleady 8wks, but cannot tell her.
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