do you want a boy or girl??

Quiksilver620 · August 2009

and why??

greeneyes9800 · August 2009

I want a healthy baby!!!!!

mlf625 · August 2009

I seriously don't care. ?Either one will be fantastic.

AMG06 · August 2009

greeneyes9800:
I want a healthy baby!!!!!

This!

lnyost · August 2009

As long as my baby is healthy, I will be so blessed and so filled with joy, I won't care. If I could actually chose-- BOY!! I don't really have any reasons why a boy over a girl besides I think having a boy would bring maybe a teeny tiny bit less of worrying when they are older.

missmisery · August 2009

I want a healthy baby! We want one of both and this is our first, so it doesn't matter much this round.

toriwc · August 2009

I think it goes without saying that we all want happy and healthy babies. If I had the chance to choose though, I would want a girl. DH agrees. I just haven't been around many young boys, and I feel like I know more about little girls. That being said, now that I am actually pregnant, I do not feel as strongly about this as I did when I was younger.

mrssamuels2b · August 2009

It doesn't matter as long as the baby is healthy but if I had to choose I'd say a boy first then a girl.

luckygirl13 · August 2009

Honest answer - it doesn't matter as long as it is healthy. On one had if we have a girl it will be nice because we have everything from our first DD but I would really like to have a boy and since this may be our last I would be thrilled to have one of each. So either one will do for me!

quickplanning · August 2009

a boy... we already have 2 girls. ?but if we had another girl, i wouldn't have to buy a thing!

greeneyes9800 · August 2009

I know someone who what actually mad when she found out she was having a girl. She had always wanted two boys and when the second child turned out to be a girl she was not happy. She even posted her feelings on Facebook. Then she had a second u/s to verify the results. Luckily the baby was healthy and this girl is truly in love with her little sweetie. So, no, not everyone seems to grasp the concept that a healthy baby is what we should all want. This girl made me sick when there are so many people who will never have the chance to have their own child!

MLE_C2B · August 2009

I've wanted either for so long. But.... i have some reasons to sway one way or another.

I'm a shopaholic and I just think a girl would be more fun to shop for. Plus you only get showers for your 1st and girl stuff is more fun to me for some reason.

But.... we want two and a boy first would be a little easier and I have this weird older brother younger sister ideal. Plus I think DH really wants a boy (don't they all) and I think he'd worry less.

Also I realize there are no guarantees in life. Nothing maybe easier, we may not be blessed with 2 or maybe get 2 of the same. Will definitely love either no matter what.

jdlocke · August 2009

Everyone asked me this before we found out...I didn't care what this baby was! I was so excited to finally become a mommy, that no matter the sex, I knew I was going to be so happy.

My SIL on the other hand....cried for 2 weeks straight after she found out it was a boy. I understand that people might want one sex over the other for various reasons, but there is no reason to cry because you are so upset about the sex. That really annoys me.

future mrs.beard · August 2009

I don't care either way, as long as baby is healthy! My fiance on the other hand wants a boy so bad, but he says he will still be super happy if it's a girl.

gsimone24 · August 2009

I honestly pray daily for a healthy baby and that is most important to me. I will be thankful with whatever God has planned. However, if it were up to me to choose, I would choose a girl. I'm very much a girlie girl and dream of having a daughter. I am very close to my mom and wish to have the same with my daughter. I don't know the first thing about raising boys (never had brothers), so that could be fun too.

LovingMyHubby · August 2009

Honestly do not care either way as long as baby is healthy. On one hand, I think it would be fun and special for DD to have a sister so close to her age (and we already have all the clothes), but I also would like to experience a little boy. We also plan on having more after this one, so either way, I'll be thrilled!

SoonerBred · August 2009

i really, really hope it is a girl, but only becaus girl's don't gt craniosynostosis, whereas any boy we have will have a high chance of having it.

so yeah, i will be a littl upset if we are having a boy, becaus there are way ore things that will likely go wrong with a boy for us

Quiksilver620 · August 2009

greeneyes9800:

I know someone who what actually mad when she found out she was having a girl. She had always wanted two boys and when the second child turned out to be a girl she was not happy. She even posted her feelings on Facebook. Then she had a second u/s to verify the results. Luckily the baby was healthy and this girl is truly in love with her little sweetie. So, no, not everyone seems to grasp the concept that a healthy baby is what we should all want. This girl made me sick when there are so many people who will never have the chance to have their own child!

I think we know the same person

madameprimm · August 2009

I would love to have a boy/girl twin combo because I wouldn't be having any more kids after that. I've always wanted a girl and boy with a girl first because I hated having an older brother lol.

I will be ecstatic with whatever we're blessed with, regardless of health. Of coure I don't want my child to suffer, but I find that saying "I just want a healthy baby" makes it seem like people would be upset (for the wrong reason) if their child was unhealthy.

MikesFavoriteWife · August 2009

greeneyes9800:
I want a healthy baby!!!!!

This exactly! Although I do think it would be cool to have another girl since she and my DD would be so close in age. I think they would grow up to be very close. I would be thrilled with a boy too. I would love to have a son! As long as the baby is healthy though, it really doesn't matter.

Tess12 · August 2009

luckygirl13:
Honest answer - it doesn't matter as long as it is healthy. On one had if we have a girl it will be nice because we have everything from our first DD but I would really like to have a boy and since this may be our last I would be thrilled to have one of each. So either one will do for me!

This is how I feel. I think I would be equally happy having one of each or two girls.

megs042107 · August 2009

don't care. ?at all.

mlf625 · August 2009

madameprimm:
I will be ecstatic with whatever we're blessed with, regardless of health. Of coure I don't want my child to suffer, but I find that saying "I just want a healthy baby" makes it seem like people would be upset (for the wrong reason) if their child was unhealthy.

No, that's not always true. ?I didn't put my response that way because it does come off as condescending. ?But I had two miscarriages before having my son- I seriously do NOT care one bit what sex my baby is, because I just want another healthy pregnancy and healthy baby. ?So in my case, it's just a different perspective. ?I spent so long wanting ANY baby that it would feel wrong to hope for a specific baby now.

Edit: sorry, I misread your post. ?I thought you were saying people who respond with "I want a healthy baby" would be upset if their child were the other sex. ?That's what I get for multi-tasking. ?;)?

Danikat15 · August 2009

As everyone said, I want a healthy baby, regardless. I'll be happy either way, but I would love a girl. When my mom got pregnant when I was 7, I prayed and prayed for a little sister. I ended up with two brothers. I still want a girl to dress up and put hair bows in her hair, but I just have this feeling it's a boy.At the first ultrasound, we just kept refering to it as a he. Will I cry if it's a boy? heck no. How could I be upset with having a mini DH?

rinny25 · August 2009

I want a healthy baby...with that said, I don't really care either way but as of this moment, I'm leaning towards girl. On the other hand, my sister just had a baby boy so it would be nice so they could play together, they will be 9mo apart in age. DH also wants a boy because of the whole sports male thing he would have with his son (and daughter should we have one) and also because its up to us or his cousin (who's still in college) to have a boy to carry on their last name. All his other cousins are girls. I personally think he would be absolutlely charming with his little girl and he would be so wrapped around her finger from day 1.

hilwithonelary · August 2009

I want two of the same gender, but it doesn't matter boy or girl. I think they would have a closer relationship growing up than boy/girl twins. Really though, I'm just praying for 2 sticky babies.

mitchelltheojua · August 2009

Either a boy or a girl would be fine .. healthy baby ... whatever the sex, I CAN'T WAIT TO FIND OUT!!!!!!! I'm dying to know ... no more references to "the baby" ... I'd like to refer to she or he by name Big Smile

madameprimm · August 2009

mlf625:
madameprimm:
I will be ecstatic with whatever we're blessed with, regardless of health. Of coure I don't want my child to suffer, but I find that saying "I just want a healthy baby" makes it seem like people would be upset (for the wrong reason) if their child was unhealthy.
No, that's not always true. I didn't put my response that way because it does come off as condescending. But I had two miscarriages before having my son- I seriously do NOT care one bit what sex my baby is, because I just want another healthy pregnancy and healthy baby. So in my case, it's just a different perspective. I spent so long wanting ANY baby that it would feel wrong to hope for a specific baby now.
Edit: sorry, I misread your post. I thought you were saying people who respond with "I want a healthy baby" would be upset if their child were the other sex. That's what I get for multi-tasking.

I think my feelings are that way because I've encountered SO many people who make comments about how they wouldn't be able to "deal" with having a "sick" or "special needs" child. I think saying things like that or having that, or a similar, mentality is terrible. I can definitely understand wanting a healthy pregnancy and child, especially when you've gone through difficulties before.

StephLD924 · August 2009

jdlocke:

Everyone asked me this before we found out...I didn't care what this baby was! I was so excited to finally become a mommy, that no matter the sex, I knew I was going to be so happy.

My SIL on the other hand....cried for 2 weeks straight after she found out it was a boy. I understand that people might want one sex over the other for various reasons, but there is no reason to cry because you are so upset about the sex. That really annoys me.

This. I know a lady at work who said for two weeks she was putting the baby up for adoption when she found out it was a boy. Stupid b!tch. Made me sick. She was "kidding", but not really.

Anyway, we really don't have a preference, but I keep thinking this one is a girl. EVERYTHING is different about this pregnancy than my last, though I know that's not a fool proof formula for figuring it out. I guess the more I think that, the more I want a girl, but will absolutely love to have another little boy too Smile I won't be disappointed either way.

urbanwifey · August 2009

Apparently Gender Dissapointment is a very real thing. I had a friend who cried for a week when she found out she was having her second boy. She's not the 'type' to have been hung up about the sex. I was so surprised to see her go through it that I did some research. There is a book written by a psychologist who experienced gender dissapointment with the birth of her third boy.

Don't get me wrong, especially to someone who has had a hard time having a baby, 'wanting' a particular gender, but try not to give ladies who go through this a hard time. From what I understand it's no joke, and it can be really devistating.

ajetter · August 2009

I want a girl, just because I think I want a little girl to hang out with. ?Plus I have great ideas for a girl's nursery

). ?But in reality I will be happy with either, I'm just hoping for a healthy baby!

chris27 · August 2009

A healthy baby first.....then BOY! I have two girls. Although I would LOVE to have another girl, I really want a boy this time.

rengal1 · August 2009

gsimone24:
However, if it were up to me to choose, I would choose a girl. I'm very much a girlie girl and dream of having a daughter. I am very close to my mom and wish to have the same with my daughter. I don't know the first thing about raising boys (never had brothers), so that could be fun too.

This.

Baseball_Bride7 · August 2009

I don't care but if I had a choice I would say boy bc my DH wants a little boy first bc he loved being the big brother to his sister. Plus on feelings alone I think I am having a boy because I have only been having boy dreams

felecia_hope · August 2009

I've always wanted a little girl. Girls are more fun and cuter and easier to dress.....in the beginning. However, G wants a son so bad...he consistently refers to our lima bean as the little boy's name we chose. He seems so happy when he talks about his "son". He says he'd be equally happy if we have a girl, but his heart is set on a son. My heart is set on him, so I hope we have a little boy.

Lisa_Ont · August 2009

Boy or girl, it doesn't really matter to us. . . we do hope to find out what we're having this time.

Before my son was born, I was really hoping for a boy (we didn't find out the sex) because I had an older brother who protected me and took care of me and I thought it would be perfect to have a boy then a girl. But it is amazing how your outlook changes the second time around. I have a healthy wonderful 2 year old right now, so all I want is another happy, healthy baby.

Mrs. GEK · August 2009

I keep saying that I don't care which gender the baby is, but whenever I talk about the baby I say "he." I know that I would be happy with either one.

mrs.dovey · August 2009

I think when most people say a "healthy baby" it means a live baby! At least with me it does. In 2004 I lost a full term child to Amniotic Band Syndrome. I'm still an emotional wreck worrying everday that I might carry full term again just to lose another child. So when I say, " I want a healthy child, I'll be happy with anything as long as I am able to take him or her home with me!"

2plus4 · August 2009

We have three boys (we love boys!!), so It would be nice to change things up and have a girl.. I think every mother dreams of having a little girl.

JnJ04 · August 2009

DH wants a girl so DD will have a sister. I really wanted a girl and I have a girl so I honestly could care less about it this time. I would love to have either. I would be a little nervous about raising a boy though!

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