Not meeting Milestones.

Beccaboo0713 · August 2009

My baby is doing so well (aside from 2 massively clogged eye ducts, a herniated belly button, reflux and colic). I mean he is gaining weight like a champ and is eating pretty well. He is finally getting the hang of having BM's. Sometimes it's hard to believe he was premature at all. But then I see pictures of 1 month olds holding their head up really well and Jake just holds it up for a second and then flop. And most sad of all is the one month old (or younger) that I see smiling. We went to the doctor today and he asked about the milestones and I had to say no to this one. Jacob will only smile in his sleep (sometimes). I try everything to get him to smile and he just stares at me like I have two heads. It's then I realize that yes he is a preemie and I must adjust. I know I am just rambling and I don't have it nearly as bad as some of you ladies but I thought I would just like to talk about it anyway.

nasmith882 · August 2009

Oh, I am in the same boat..to be honest my LO born at 27wks 3days has ZERO issues except for reflux but the milestones OMG!!! so stressful..I compleatly understand..

{{{{HUGS}}}}

mek10976 · August 2009

It is so hard not to compare them to other babies, especially when they are growing so well. DS is in the 75% for his actual age and so much bigger than his full-term buddies, but his PT said he is at his adjusted age for milestones. So frustrating!

Max'smom · August 2009

I posted yesterday that DS has "caught up" at 18 months. He didn't have good control of his head for what seemed like forever. I was worried but also did what I could to help. Tummy Time! It takes time for them to gain the strength. Hang in there and try hard not to compare your preemie to even other preemies.

On all evaluations until this last one at 18 months he was always behind by about two months which was his adjusted age. They will get there. My little guy did.

kamcfarlane · August 2009

DS is similar. the only issue he had was reflux and he's in the 75th percentile for height nowadays, so he looks like an 8 month old. but he's at about a 6 month level. what makes it even more frustrating is that my nephew was born the day before DS's due date and has been crawling for about a month now. i figure, most of the time, they end up caught up in the end run so i try not to stress too much!

waiting for that first smile is hard. we waited until 11 weeks (4 weeks adjusted). i tried everything. Smile now, he can't be stopped!

momtomarty · August 2009

Same here. Baby J was born 34W1D and was healthy (5lbs 7 oz) except for a little jaundice. He did not require any interventions and they only kept him in the NICU 1 day extra. But for everything he is exactly 6 weeks behind where the books say he should be. He smiled at 12 weeks exactly and I was terrified the first few weeks when he just stared past me. Everyone kept saying he was still "cooking on the outside" but I didn't believe it until I started to see the perfect 6 week lag. I stopped reading the books, our pediatrician keeps telling me he is terrific and that he is meeting all milestones for his adjusted age and that is good enough for me. He is definitely behind in terms of gross motor skills- I am SURE he will crawl late but that just gives me more time to hold him. Hang in there. Its not easy when they look full term to remember that they aren't!

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