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Bad night involving lots of tears
Noel and the drama of the toddler bed is still not going well. I know it's only been like 2 weeks and that this could take time but I feel like we're moving backwards not forwards. Last night it took him 2 hours and lots of crying (on his part) to go to bed, then he woke up at 4 am and it took 2 hours and lots of crying (on my part) to get him back in bed. He was up at 7:30 this morning. It's like he doesn't need sleep but unfortunately I do!
I just don't know what else to do to keep him in there and to not having him cio at the door. Two nights ago he stood in his room weeping a garbled toddler "Where'd you go" (his new sentance) over and over again. Last night it was me at hour 1 and a half sobbing in his bedroom while he laughed at me. I just don't know how much more of this I can take. Not to mention I have SO MUCH stuff to do to get ready for this baby. I have project after project to work on and he only takes a 2 hour nap. By the time I've eaten something and straightened a bit that leaves me an hour or less to work on stuff. Needless to say nothing is getting done. And I can't wind down forever after putting him to bed because I"m so stressed out by the whole thing.
I just feel more and more like Nanny 911 is going to show up and tell us how we're doing everything wrong and raising a brat that won't listen to us. I know that being pregnant doesn't help and the added stress of this timeline counting down but I'm just at my wits end.
Thanks for listening - I really needed to get that out. Now off to the zoo . . . this should be fun. . .
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Re: Bad night involving lots of tears
i'm so sorry... is it possible that he's just not ready for a big boy bed yet? i know DD definitely isn't ready at 19 months. With the new baby coming and all the changes that brings would it be possible to let him sleep in a crib longer? or do you need it for the new baby?
First, (((huge hugs))).
Can your husband take this task on? It seems like you need a break from the situation, as does Noel. I don't think you can just give up at this point, or you'll be hugely backpedaling. But, if your DH takes over for a few nights, you can hide on the other end of the house (or at Starbucks, or something) and get some sleep. That way, Noel will realize that both mommy and daddy mean business.
((more hugs))
sorry it was a rough night.
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The problem at this point is that he has to be ready (or basically ready or not) We don't even have the crib anymore. It was recalled and when we moved him to the toddler bed we took it apart and sent it back so we don't even have a crib to put him in at the moment. Plus, once we started putting him in the toddler bed and he realized that there was an option of getting out of bed, he immediately learned how to scale out of the crib (something he'd never done before) and wouldn't stay in there for longer than 5 minutes either. So honestly it would be the same situation but with the possibility of him falling and hurting himself.
DH did step in last night when I was sitting out in the hall sobbing during round two. I just feel like this is going to be a long road and I'm not sure I have the stamina for that.
I have no experience, but Glad's idea makes a lot of sense. A few other random thoughts: Are you missing the sleepy window? Maybe starting bedtime earlier would be best. Have you laid down and read a bunch of books with him or even just laid with him until he goes to sleep? Can you try the stone face putting him back into his bed every time he gets out? If it's boring enough and repetitive enough it might work. Can you give him a special toy he only gets in his big boy bed that he can play with until he falls asleep?
Big hugs - sleep battles are soooo tough!
big hugs... i agree that having DH step in and help, even for half the night would be HUGE for you. My mom said that when she transitioned both my sister and i she basically slept on the floor next to the bed so that every time we got up or out she just put us back in...
can someone come and give you a break during the day so you can nap? it sounds like the sleep deprivation is really taking its toll on you and getting a little sleep in the daytime might help with the night time battles.
like i keep telling one of my RL friends: everything with children/babies/toddlers is temporary, even this too shall pass.
A girl on my local did this:
Every night that her DD stayed in bed all night she got a little star. If she got out of bed, the daughter lost all the stars she had accumulated. Once she reached 5 stars, the daughter got to pick out a special toy from the store.
Could you try something like that?
To be honest...it sounds like he's not ready for a big boy bed yet! We tried moving my son at 18months and cleary he wasnt ready. I quickly put the crib back up and moved him at 2.5yrs. He was ready and never got out of his bed w/o calling for me first.
My advice...put that crib back up and fast!