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what to do if your child hits?

AverysMomma0624AverysMomma0624
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Avery's going through a really fun stage of hitting now. I know discipline is a taboo topic, as everyone has their strong opinions about it and everyone is different- I know my thoughts on it are not at all how a lot of people feel, but I respect everyone's opinions on that and am just asking for some basics of what you do/would do when/if your child hits, and I mean that as intentionally out of anger. When Avery doesn't get her way, she will slap anybody near her and get this awfully mean look on her face. I hate saying "no" over and over and over again, but this is one thing I'm not letting down on- it's NOT ok for her to hit at all. What are some options I could try out to see if they'll work? We try time outs, but I'm not sure she understands that yet. I'm very open to suggestions!!!
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  • LoveTekLoveTek member
    Kara has started this recently.  I take her hand in mine and sternly say, "No hitting. That hurts Mommy."  If she keeps it up, I'll put her down (if I'm carrying her) or walk away from her for a little bit so she gets used to the idea that it's not okay.  I don't really expect her to understand at this age, but I think the repetition helps.
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  • AverysMomma0624AverysMomma0624

    Thanks for sharing. This is similar to what we do, so I appreciate knowing we are doing something similar.

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  • rowanthefrogrowanthefrog member

    Ethan bites :(  So far its only DH and I, but I'm dreading the day that he bites another kid.  He actually does it as a way to show affection - he thinks he is kissing.

    I just try to be very very consistent.  I pull him away when he does it, hold his hands and say "do NOT bite - that hurts."  most of the time he laughs at me, but I try to just do it every time he bites so that he gets the message.


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  • mlf625mlf625
    DS has started biting, not out of meanness, but when he nuzzles into my shoulder or leg he'll sometimes chomp down. ?I do basically what LoveTek and Rowan have said- pull him away, say "do not bite, that hurts mommy" and put him down if I'm holding him.?
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  • ECUTeacherECUTeacher

    imageLoveTek:
    Kara has started this recently.  I take her hand in mine and sternly say, "No hitting. That hurts Mommy."  If she keeps it up, I'll put her down (if I'm carrying her) or walk away from her for a little bit so she gets used to the idea that it's not okay.  I don't really expect her to understand at this age, but I think the repetition helps.

    This is what I would do in the situation.

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  • AverysMomma0624AverysMomma0624

    My daughter has the drama queen idea down pat. She can be the sweetest angel, giving kisses and hugs and loving on you and in one moment she will go to the other end of extreme and just get so mad. Sometimes, I don't even know why she's mad. Most of the time it's because she has something she can't have (how is it that I can't find my car keys half the time, but DD always seems to locate them in a huge mess??) and we take it away. Heaven forbid we take away keys, I even tried taking them away and giving her one of her similar toys instead- nope, she knows it's a fake, she will throw the toy and hit. And today she totally tricked me. She was mad and crying in her car seat and then she looked at me and put up her arms like she does when she wants a hug, so I leaned in and BAM! a punch in the face. I felt manipulated.

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  • steve&heathersteve&heather

    We made sure DD knew she was hurting us. She'd hit us and we'd say "Ow! That hurt!", almost immediately she'd start petting us and saying "sorry" but we'd let her know it's not nice to hit other people and we'd give her a time out or take away her toys.

    As sad as it is to say, what helped her most was seeing the damage she caused when she hit someone. She hit a little boy in the eye with a toy, he got a slight shiner--seeing him crying with the bruising did more for her than a few months of time outs (she still got a major time out and a stern lecture from both me and daddy). 

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