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Attachment Parenting
My brother/SIL do AP (small vent)
My nephew is 13 months old now and he is always tired and grumpy. They are not really pleasant to be around because my SIL is always complaining that DS won't nap and he whines constantly.
I'm not really looking for advice because I don't want to tell her what to do. My brother just tells me that this is what they've chosen to do, and that's good that they are being consistent. It just seems crazy to me that the baby stays up until 10pm and cries all the time because he is so tired.
I guess this is just a vent. Thanks for reading. 
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Re: My brother/SIL do AP (small vent)
Not quite sure what the connection between a tired, grumpy baby and APing is?? Kiddo naps/sleeps just fine and isn't whiny (unless you count teething fussiness).
All babies need sleep; APers just tend to have a different view on how babies should be parented to sleep.
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Well, they "claim" that they do AP ... baby sleeps with them, she nurses him to sleep at nap time, they don't ever let him CIO. CDing, babywearing, EBFing. I guess it frustrates me because to me, it seems like they are missing something when it comes to AP. He's not a happy baby.
Sorry for complaining when it's not even my baby. LOL.
Ditto. My parents did CIO with me and I'm just an all around terrible sleeper. Always have been, probably always will be. I don't think it's as cut and dry as your parenting style.
Oh, I agree! Which is why I keep my mouth shut about it to them. The reason I asked/vented is because they are my only IRL example of AP, and I wondered if anyone else had the same issue. I know every baby is different. Plus, since there's an AP board now, I thought this might be a good place to ask/vent about it.
I'll keep my mouth shut now.
Some babies just cry a lot. They tend to him instead of ignore him. He still cries. Not much you can do there. I've parented my 3 the same. The first was the happiest baby ever, the second the most miserable baby ever, and the third is somewhere in between. It is their personality, not my parenting.
Why are you posting this here?
They are. (This should have been in your original post, btw)
They're also missing something serious about being a parent. You should be tuned into your baby's needs and not inflict your own schedule/assumptions on them.
I CD, EBF, cosleep, bedshare, etc. I have none of the problems your brother/SIL have. My baby is happy and well adjusted. She goes to bed at 7 pm.
AP does not seem to be the culprit here. I doubt CIO would magically make him a happy baby. It might help him with his sleep, but there are other options still.
Of course something needs to be done if he's not napping and generally unhappy. Better parenting I'm sure. Perhaps part of it is the baby's personality.
Not sure about the AP vent - there sounds like other issues may be going on other than sleep.
You say you are looking for advice? If this is what they have chosen to do - how are they doing it? I AP and DD is sooooo not a sleeper BUT even though she rarely naps - never for long (30 min is a good day!) and can sometimes be awake at 10pm and later - she is happy, active, social. Just being consistent isn't enough - you have to watch you DC cues as well.
You are one of those people that doesn't understand that all children are different. Some parents have really easy going kids that sleep, eat, never fuss, ect. Then there kids like my ds that is the world's worst sleeper and has never STTN. He's also a picky eater. He's 19 months old and I'm tired on a lot of days because of it, but I don't think that means I'm doing anything wrong.
I just don't get how you can be so sure that they are doing anything wrong and are causing these issues. Your nephew might just be a little difficult and they are doing the best they can.