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Don't know when to bring up TTC #2 with DH

summerbridesarasummerbridesara member
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I'm so afraid he's going to shoot down the idea and it's going to cause a big argument.  I'm trying to get together a good case for having another baby so when we sit down to talk about it, I hopefully can convince him.  We said we wanted two kids before we even TTC Sophia, so I could get him on that - but I want him to want another one too. 

It's a bit frustrating.

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Re: Don't know when to bring up TTC #2 with DH

  • Kurt&LisaKurt&Lisa
    you could just say you want Sophia to have a sibling. And you always thought it was your/his plans from the beginning????
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  • caymanbridecaymanbride
    And I know this is/sounds morbid, but I always think that I want Aidan to have a sibling or two in case anything ever happened to us. Even if we live to ripe old ages, I wouldn't want Aidan to be 'alone' after we're gone.
    Aidan Jake 7/25/08 Cooper Cole 7/27/10 Tessa Morgan 8/9/12
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  • BarnStarBarnStar

    I'd try to set up a time in advance so that he knows the talk is coming. If you go in there with all these reasons to "defend" your stance, and he didn't know it was coming, he could immediately get defensive and it will result in a fight.

    Maybe just tell him that you've really enjoyed Sophia's first year, and you think you'd like to do it again with another baby. Ask if you could set aside some time together to talk about it. That way he has some time to sit with his thoughts and prepare too.

    I hope he recognizes how great parenting is and wants another one too. I know this has been weighing on you for a while now, and I hope you can come to a conclusion together.

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  • sdkrlmsdkrlm

    Just do it :)

     

    and then say "Honey, I"m pregnant!"  he can't say no then!

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  • jnealetjnealet member
    imageBarnStar:

    I'd try to set up a time in advance so that he knows the talk is coming. If you go in there with all these reasons to "defend" your stance, and he didn't know it was coming, he could immediately get defensive and it will result in a fight.

    Maybe just tell him that you've really enjoyed Sophia's first year, and you think you'd like to do it again with another baby. Ask if you could set aside some time together to talk about it. That way he has some time to sit with his thoughts and prepare too.

    I hope he recognizes how great parenting is and wants another one too. I know this has been weighing on you for a while now, and I hope you can come to a conclusion together.

    This - or you could just get him drunk and take advantage of the situation.

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  • summerbridesarasummerbridesara member

    LOL - he is sooo obsessed with making sure he has a condom every time we do it, there is no way I could just say "Hey! I'm pregnant!". 

    I think his biggest fear is that we'll get a cranky baby or that he won't be able to "evenly divide his time" between two kids.

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