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The "mom guilt" is killing me!

tracieanchristracieanchris member
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We have had many opportunities to go out and do things without K. We have babysitters (my mom, DH's parents, my brother) but I just dont want to leave her! We both work full time during the week and by the weekend, I just dont want to spend any time away from her! I feel like a total hermit this summer because I havent done anything! People have invited us to do things and I always have an excuse of some kind ready. DH has even done some things without me but I dont care because I just want to stay home because I feel guilty for leaving her. I feel so addicted to her and I just cant seem to break free. I feel like im gonna be one of those moms that hovers over her child's every move! Please, someone tell me i'm not alone in thinking this way...Sad
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Re: The "mom guilt" is killing me!

  • Jackswife123Jackswife123
    You're not alone in feeling this way, but just be careful b/c the guilt can be a sign of PPD. ?You really shouldn't isolate yourself. ?Pack your gorgeous girl up and bring her with you!
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  • laurenFaithlaurenFaith

    I am a teacher so I'm off for the summer. I have not done anything without DD so far. I'm the same with my weekends during the school year. I either bring DD with me or I'm not really interested in going. I just love being with her!

    **She goes to sleep at 7pm so I have plenty of "alone time" for myself and with DH.  

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  • mlf625mlf625
    She's only 5 months. ?If you're still feeling this way at a year, then I'd probably tell you it's time to bit the bullet and get out more. ?But honestly, if I were working outside the home, I'd be the exact same way. ?Even as a sahm, I didn't leave DS much *at all* until he was about 6 months. ?
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  • jamie4dukejamie4duke member
    I know what you mean.  I hate leaving my girls.  I missed a lot of Teagan the first year, and now that I am home with them, I don't want to miss one part of their lives.
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  • LLB430LLB430 member
    I was just thinking about this tonight.  I have the opportunity to go out both Friday and Sat. evenings next week and I would rather be home with DD.  I just started working 20 hrs a week and I feel like it has just eaten up such a huge chunk of time with her.  I am sure I will go out one of those nights but I feel your pain.  I do not want to be one of those parents at all, but I don't want to miss a minute of her being a baby either.
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  • risysmamarisysmama member
    we also have plenty of people to watch dd but she's always with one of us.  we are too in love with her to be away from her.
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  • krys2729krys2729
    sounds really normal to  me.  especially if you work full time.  i work seven hour days from 6am-1pm and still didn't leave DS until he was 8 months except for one time on our anniversary (he was 2 weeks old).  enjoy this time and just realize things will change.  we don't have too many babysitters but now we always jump at the chance to have alone time!
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  • Kentuckychick_8201Kentuckychick_8201
    Your not alone at all.  I am feeling so guilty because I will be away from DD 3.5 days this month because we are going camping and I am helping SIL move into her dorm at college 3 hours away (I promised her I'd do this almost a year ago.)   Originally I was telling myself 3.5 days is okay and was getting used to the idea.  Then I ended up having to have unplanned surgery, which put me away from her for 3 days.  Thankfully I am healed from my surgery and have a few days to spend just me and her before I have to go back to my FT POS job.  Anyway I went off on a rant but I just wanted to tell you you are not alone.
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