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Following up from my post last week..

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I wanted to go up so badly, but couldnt find the time...I got a message from his journal last night telling me that he moved himself out of SCU and up a few floors to a nicer room (where he had been staying for treatment) and was on morphine to make him comfortable, he passed away tonight at 6:25pm.

i am so sad right now, for him and for his family. i know he is now pain and cancer free, which makes the sadness a little bittersweet. i want to be able to go to his funeral, and i have talked to DH about this many times (as it was becoming apparent that this was a possibility). it is back home *abut 1000 miles away) and i would have to fly up and leave  DH home with DD for a few days. NOw DH says he doesnt see how it is possible that i go and leave them here...i dont get it. i found the cheapest tickets available AND he is OOT on business ALL the time, leaving me to care for DD myself. i asked him if this has anything to do with our past and he says it doesnt. he doesnt think that i will really kick myself for not going up there to say my goodbyes and be there for his family, but i know i have to have a chance to say goodbye. how can i make him understand that this is something that i have to do??

 

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Re: Following up from my post last week..

  • blessed_wifeblessed_wife member
    No advice, but I am so sorry you are going through this. You and your friend's family is in my prayers
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  • jen_and_scottjen_and_scott member
    First, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I too would have to be there. I hope that you and your DH work it out and he understands your need.
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  • Crissy&JoshCrissy&Josh member
    I'm so sorry you are going through this. He was a huge part of your life. As women that is always something that we hold dear to our hearts. I hope that you and DH can work out something that will allow you to say goodbye and be at peace with everything.
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