Click Poll: Leaving DC with DH

Abrooks · August 2009

I am interested in thoughts here. I have left DD more times than I can count overnight with DH. Just last weekend, I went to DC for a girls trip and DH took care of DD for the weekend.

So I was amazed when this weekend a man I was speaking with said his son was 2 and there was no way his wife would ever consider leaving for a night without their son or letting him take care of their son overnight. Really? This just seems crazy to me. What do you all think?

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katattack · August 2009

I have to be honest, if someone isn't comfortable that their DH can care for their child alone, then why did they have one with him in the first place? Seems odd to me. True, he may not do everything exactly the way you'd want it done, but if they're alive, fed, bathed and happy, that's all that matters.

Nessia · August 2009

Overnight sure, but not for more a few days. I'm sure he could take care of the kids for the week but it would make me nervous because it is a lot of work and I would have a week's worth of dishes and house cleaning piled up. He can take care of the kids OR he can keep up with the house but he can't do both. Wink

When I'm gone for a week my MIL will come help him out.

txbabs111 · August 2009

I am BFing and am really considering leaving DD with DH in early October so I can go to New Orleans with my BFF for her 30th b-day.

m_and_m · August 2009

I said that I would, but then again DD is not only BF still, she's also night nursing and therefor not STTN. So I assume I would, but maybe ask me again in a year....

fjaril · August 2009

I really never understand why you wouldn't leave your kiddo with your partner. I mean if you trust them enough to have a child with them, why can't you leave the kiddo alone with them?

Emer · August 2009

I am BFing and DS does not STTN and I am still leaving him (and DD) with DH overnight. I stayed with both kids alone for 4 days and 3 nights, so I see no reason why DH wouldn't be expected/able to do the same.

Nessia · August 2009

fjaril:
I really never understand why you wouldn't leave your kiddo with your partner. I mean if you trust them enough to have a child with them, why can't you leave the kiddo alone with them?

It might be that I'm too nice. I know DH could do it and I trust him 100% but I choose to make it easier on him by having his mom stay at our house. Like I mentioned before an overnight or a couple nights no problem, a full week I ask for reinforcement to help him out. And I really like my MIL and she's retired so she enjoys the opportunity to come over.

mcgee · August 2009

It's not the leaving her with DH that troubled me it was the leaving her, period. My mom never left us overnight as young children, and I haven't been very comfortable with the idea either. He stays with DD for the occasional girls night out or if there's something else I need or want to do, but I can't imagine going overnight without her. Or him for that matter. If I really needed to get away, I'd much rather go for a romantic overnight stay with DH and leave DD with my mom than leave DH and DD behind to go somewhere without him. KWIM?

I completely trust DH as a parent, I just don't have any great desire to leave.

MrsAJL · August 2009

I left DS with DH for the first time when DS was six months. I was on a 10 day business trip to SF. I've traveled since then but it was only for a couple of days.

DH does great with DS and the house is always tidy when I return home. I don't have a problem leaving the two of them home with out me. But I do miss them and sometimes wonder if they're having more fun than I am! lol!

amyliisa · August 2009

Well considering that I do it 4-5 nights a week since I work nights, I picked A. But, I also feel that's a little different because I can (and do) stop by anytime during my shift to see them, have dinner with them, say goodnight to ds. Also, I'm usually home shortly after 6am, and then I get ds up and dressed and fed, while dh gets ready for work. However, I WOULD definitely leave him overnight with dh if I had to go out of town or something for a few days. Like Nessia though, I might be too nice and I would start to feel guilty about how much work it is for dh. Wouldn't prevent me from going, at all and I KNOW dh would take awesome care of him, but I also know at some point I'd start to feel bad for dh.

katattack · August 2009

I always laugh when moms (including me) say that they start to feel bad for DH. When I went out of town for a week, DH said he'd be fine, but MIL insisted on coming to help because she felt bad for him. I don't see anyone knocking on my door when he goes out of town to 'help' me! Just an observation.

FWIW, DH would feel bad for me if I were alone with her for all that time, but family wouldn't. Weird.

AustinMimi · August 2009

My ex-BIL has a nanny come stay with him and with my nieces on the weekends that he has custody. They are not babies or even toddlers, though-- they are 7 and 4 years old. His lack of interest in even trying to act as a parent was a major cause for the divorce. LAME.

nanann · August 2009

I can do it, I just never have done it to this point. At least not with both girls. However, I already have planned in October where I'll leave him alone with the girls for the weekend. I can guarantee though that he won't be alone with the girls. I am sure my MIL will be there at least half the time.

joyco · August 2009

hell yeah, I'd leave the boys with Jay but Jay gets scared and apparently they "exhaust" him.

JessHeath · August 2009

I answered other...

Logically in my head, I know I would especially now that DH and DS are such great buddies but I have to say that I had some reservations about it when I was nursing. Most of that was because DS wouldn't take a bottle so I was always connected to him.

brideonjuly8 · August 2009

If DS was taking a bottle fine right now, I would do it now, no problem. Once I am done bfing it will be fine.

spideyswifey · August 2009

I voted other. I would leave dd with dh the only problem is dh will not let me.

Temp13436125005166 · August 2009

mcgee:
It's not the leaving her with DH that troubled me it was the leaving her, period. My mom never left us overnight as young children, and I haven't been very comfortable with the idea either. He stays with DD for the occasional girls night out or if there's something else I need or want to do, but I can't imagine going overnight without her. Or him for that matter. If I really needed to get away, I'd much rather go for a romantic overnight stay with DH and leave DD with my mom than leave DH and DD behind to go somewhere without him. KWIM?
I completely trust DH as a parent, I just don't have any great desire to leave.

This is exactly how I feel too!

canadagirlinTX · August 2009

spideyswifey:
I voted other. I would leave dd with dh the only problem is dh will not let me.

Ditto.

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