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Venting..

cmritchiecmritchie
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Well it's just been a very aggravating 2 weeks. My husband I just came back to Italy from being in the states and then 4 days later he left for the states again for 3 weeks. Very sad.. I am in the middle of a college class and was two weeks behind, got myself caught up and now I am taking my midterm exam tomorrow! I can't focus to study and I am freaking out!! I know I will do fine and I just need to calm down. To top things off my best friend and I got into a huge arguement over the weekend because my ex boyfriend from high school sent me a message on Myspace and of course I didn't read it! He knows I am married, I have been for almost 1 year. So I told him that I didn't read it and that I didn't want to talk to him anymore because it made me feel weird and it does.. if you get what I mean. Well then my best friend chimes in saying that I was mean to him for telling him I didn't want to talk to him and  that just because we are exes doesn't mean we can't talk.. Yes it does! I am married and I have a baby on the way. Don't need high school drama in my life, sorry I graduated from that 2 years ago. Not to mention that she backed out of my wedding a month before!!! She expects me not to be mad and talk to her like nothing is wrong.. sorry but I am not kind of person! That was a very big and important day and she didn't deserve to see me when I was home. I know it sounds mean but she chose a guy over her best friend of 10 years. Not right if you ask me. She also claims that since I left home after graduation I am cutting all my friends out of my life when I saw a lot of them when I was home 3 weeks ago. What does that tell you! She wasn't the friend I thought she was. I know this is stupid but I just needed to vent! Thanks for reading!! 

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  • bonnin507bonnin507

    I think she should shut her mouth; I'm with you.  It's your life, you can do whatever you want.  And it's not like you told the guy he was a loser & you hate him, just that you didn't feel comfortable talking to him.  If you ask me, she's got some issues because she screwed up your friendship but obviously isn't taking any responsibility for that fact.  You don't need people like that in your life.  A true friend is always understanding & supportive.

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  • cmritchiecmritchie
    Thank you! I am glad to know I am not the only one who thinks so!! 
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  • carney09carney09 member
    Yeah, as a 30 yr old its a bit hard to follow this as stuff like this just doesn't happen anymore in my life.  But, seems to me you know this girl is a flake, even if she was your "best friend" and it may be time to cut your losses and focus on your new life.
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  • megann831megann831
    I agree with carney, although I'm 26, alot of what you wrote does just seem like high school drama.  Honestly, if you didnt want to talk to your ex, you should have just ignored the email.  And if you're still mad at this friend after a year, maybe its time to let the friendship go.
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  • mrbmamamrbmama
    Sounds like 20 year old bee bee MUD. Stop working yourself up over something that is really not important.
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  • texaspch7texaspch7
    I have a friend like that.  I had to stop talking to her for months at a time, several times bc of some dumb junk that she said.  She's in a very difficult position - always has been in some kind of drama tho - has a baby with her live-in bf who has three other kids from three other females, having to take loans out just to pay monthly bills, etc  Craziness!  People say stupid things that dont' make sense when they're jealous or wish their life was different.  I'd give her a few months to "calm down."... maybe she should start talking to the ex if she feels sorry for him that badly.  lol  jk  But, I mean, why go there?  You SHOULDN'T be talking to him!  Her priorities aren't in the right places.
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  • redprincessredprincess

    JERKS!  ALL OF 'EM!

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  • BBachmannBBachmann

    It doesn't matter who you are... everbody changes after high school.  Sometimes you just have to cut friends loose.

    Some won't even notice unfortunately.

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  • biddybabybiddybaby
    Honestly sometimes the best thing to do in these situations is to give your friendship some chill time. It is obvious that you are still upset over what she did, with reason, and if you still hold that against her than its going to make it harder to remain friends. One of my best friends that I have had since 1st grade did some things to me that greatly upset me. After that we both gave each other space and time. It was hard and I missed having that person in my life but I just couldn't forgive that quickly. It took almost a year but when some pretty major things happened in our lives we were there for each other and now our friendship is stronger and much more mature. Hope you can work things out!
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