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Ready to lose my effing mind!!!
TheMrs923
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Seriously, all dh does, is play video games and go to work. Quite litterally if he's not working he's playing video games. I even ate supper on my own while he played video games after I spent and hour and a half making it!!! I'm really starting to get pissed and any time I bring it up, he gets defensive and pissed.
This isn't a new issue but it's gotten worse lately. I'm having thoughts that are not good and I don't know what to do about this situation. Any thoughts?
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Re: Ready to lose my effing mind!!!
Do you have a TV with splitscreen? Honestly, that solved a lot of our videogame issues. I can watch tv and sit next to him while he plays his games on the other side.
I'm assuming you have already tried talking to him about this? If so and it still isn't better, then I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this.
I think that a lot of men don't realize that this too can be an addiction that is just as harmful to your everyday life as other addictions.
::sneaks in under a cloak of darkness and takes a sledgehammer to video games::
Seriously though, I thank God every day that my DH has zero interest in video games. Have you talked to him about it? I know it seems childish, but maybe you can come up with some kind of agreement about usage hours or something?
I had to have a serious conversation with DH about this more than once. He's usually good about compromising with me, but if not, withholding sex usually does it.
Not that it's good for TTC, but if it works it works.
my DH does that too
it used to be worse, he used to completely ignore me and when i would go to bed he'd say "let me finish this level and i'll come lay down" and then he would play for 3 more hours. I finally broke down and told him i had had serious thoughts about leaving over it and that it was tearing us apart and i couldn't take it anymore. then the next time he chose the games over me i just packed up and went to my parents of rthe night without saying a word to him. Now he is much beter about getting off as soon as i ask him to and spending more time with me
you just need to sit down and be tottaly honest with your DH about how it makes you feel. Tell him you can't deal with it anymore, and stick to your word. The next time he makes you eat dinner by yourself, leave for the night, and come back the next day and dicsuss it. He just needs to know how serious of an issue it is to you, and if he wants to make our marriage work that he needs to stop. I'm really sorry you're going through this, i truly understand 100%
If it is at that point for you then I think you should suggest talking to a counselor. They can work wonders on helping DH realize his priorities along with helping you understand it. We dealt with a different addiction early on in our marriage, however, one thing I did learn is an addiction is an addiction. It can be almost anything.
We saw a counselor and although we are responsible for saving our marriage, I greatly appreciate all of her help. We wouldn't be where we are today. (addiction free!)
When you do talk to him about it, try to be specific about what you want.
"I want more time with me" is vauge when you're 3 feet away. "I want more time to do non-screen-crap that we do together--dinner at the table, a walk, even a movie together, etc" is something substantial where someone can know if theyr'e living up to some minimum expectations.
(says the gamer)
Argh, mine knows he will have to listen to me biitch if I even have to wait a few minutes before he comes upstairs to eat. I will NOT watch food get cold for Halo, especially after I busted ass to cook it for him.
He doesn't like to listen to me biitch, so he generally stops playing things he can't pause if it's getting close to dinner time. He's learning.