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Beyond frustrated... (long vent, sorry)

klande3klande3 member
in 2nd Trimester

Have you ever felt like you have done EVERYTHING for someone and gotten nothing in return? My boyfriend and I met almost a year ago. We got our beautiful surprise in March that we were pregnant. I love him dearly but I can't seem to get through to him.

Since I've met him, we've been through some REALLY tough times. His family thanks me all the time for helping him and turning him back in the right direction. But lately, he is just being completely rude. I am a teacher and have the summer off, I don't mind keeping the house clean etc. BUT don't tell me that I never do anything when in reality I wash dishes, do laundry, I vaccuum, I dust, I walk the dog, I feed the dog, I cook, I do it all and then some! Apparently, now that I am starting to work in my classroom a couple of days a week and don't always get EVERYTHING done EVERY DAY I am lazy and I don't care... I "sit my lazy @$$ in front of the computer all day every day because I don't care". All I'm asking for is maybe reuse a cup, use the same plate if you're going to make another salad 10 minutes after you finish the 1st one... bring your dishes to the kitchen when your done. SAY THANK YOU.. idk.

Today is just the final straw... I've been crying all day because he's said some really rude and hurtful things and then went across the street to his brother's house. He went to the gas station before any of this fight started and didn't even OFFER to get me anything.. (I always come back with something to drink for him..) Now his brother, brother's wife, and him are all driving to take some scrap metal in for recycling and [most likely] stopping for a drink on the way home... He didn't even invite me to go. they took 2 separate cars, so it's not like it was a matter of not having room. Not that I would have gone because my head hurts and I've been crying on and off since 2 o'clock, but the offer still would have been nice.

I'm not asking for advice or anything I just had to vent to someone....

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Re: Beyond frustrated... (long vent, sorry)

  • nadiarlnadiarl member
    I'm sorry. :-( On the upside, you are getting a lot of practice on how to raise a difficult child before your LO comes!
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  • bonniebarringtonbonniebarrington
    Men can be so insensitive - I think we have all been through days like this (maybe I should only speak for myself) my husband and I have been through everything (2 deployments to iraq where I did everything) and finally for the first time last year I quit my job after we had our daughter - now it seems like he complains all the time and if I ever ask for help he says why it's your job.  Eventually he apologized for being so insensitive and it has gotten better - it will just take some time for him to understand!
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  • bonniebarringtonbonniebarrington
    BTW I just noticed that you live right by me - I am in Lake Zurich so you are probably about 30 min away!
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  • klande3klande3 member

    OOO and can I mention that now they are all right across the street... wives and all and hes there being a complete @$$ and FRICKEN TEXTED ME to say Ill be home later....

    Im about to say sleep on your brother's couch... it would probably be more comfy than ours...

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