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My delivery doc

Tomkat8403Tomkat8403 member
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My delivery doctor ended up being the only one at the practice I had never met before. He was nice enough, but SOOOOO laid back that he almost seemed uninterested in the entire process. I had requested no episiotomy but he really pushed for it at the time saying he thought it was best because he didn't think he could control my tearing. It was "just physics" he said. He promised it would be minor...only about a 2 cm cut. He ended up cutting me three times altogether so I ended up with a huge episiotomy after all.

Anyway...I felt bad because I kind of refused to talk to him through most of the delivery (don't ask me why...I guess I wasn't comfortable with him and it was easier to communicate through my mom and DH since they know me better). So I wanted to write him a note thanking him for a safe delivery, etc.

My SIL had an ultrasound today scheduled with him so I went with her to the appt. thinking we could maybe get a picture with him for the baby book and thank him. He didn't even acknowledge me or my baby! I smiled and said "hi" and he just looked down at some papers in his hand. He was all business. His bedside manner was so poor that it just seemed weird to even bring up that he delivered me 2 weeks ago so I kept my mouth shut. Should I still send him a note or just forget this guy? I see notes and pictures all over the walls from other patients in there, but now I'm just kind of even more irritated than I was before.

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  • JLS0320JLS0320 member
    That really sucks, he was like that, I would forget him
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  • hisbabybearhisbabybear member
    drs deliver tons of babies, you cant expect him to remember you. sorry tho.
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  • mAnYaShamAnYaSha member

    Your LO is  precious, congratulations !

    I  would skip the thank you note... Things don't always go by the plan in delivery room, bottom line everyone is healthy, right ?

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  • pretty_helmetpretty_helmet member

    maybe he would recognize you if you took off your pants and put your legs in the air.

    the one doctor i didn't like at our practice ended up being the one to deliver DD.  thankfully he was kind and sweet during the entire thing.  don't get worked up about it.  these doctors deliver hundreds of babies a year, you can't expect them to remember all of their patients.  especially if you do not typically see him for OB visits.

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  • Tomkat8403Tomkat8403 member

    imagehisbabybear:
    drs deliver tons of babies, you cant expect him to remember you. sorry tho.

    Yeah I guess I know this. I've told myself that over and over. I tend to expect more than I should most of the time. I've only met most of the other docs once or twice though and they remembered me when I went in today. I guess I figured after 24 hours of labor he would remember something! Haha.

    Then again I suppose he "saw me in a different light" on delivery day. Haha.

    I think his manner in general is what bothers me.

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  • bargar18bargar18

    i sent my Dr a thank you note only because she's so amazing and i've been going to her for YEARS.  i wouldn't send him a thank you at all if you didn't like his bedside manner in the delivery room and i certainly wouldn't send him one if he was kind of rude after.  yes, they see lots of babies, but they can still be friendly. 

    that's just me though.

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  • Tomkat8403Tomkat8403 member
    imagebargar18:

    i sent my Dr a thank you note only because she's so amazing and i've been going to her for YEARS.  i wouldn't send him a thank you at all if you didn't like his bedside manner in the delivery room and i certainly wouldn't send him one if he was kind of rude after.  yes, they see lots of babies, but they can still be friendly. 

    that's just me though.

    This is what I was getting at I guess. Thank you for phrasing it better!

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  • iowandfwiowandfw member

    I am sorry for your experience. I had such a wonderful OB expereince (I ended up with a C-section) but because of my OB, the H and I have decided to try to have all of our kids with this guy (and we are putting of moving out of state!)

    Hopefully next time, things will go better. 

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  • mrs_bellamrs_bella member

    I would skip the note.

    I had my least favorite doctor in the practice delivery my baby as well--my doctor was on vacation.  The doctor that delivered my baby was the same doctor that had told me the day before that all the pain I was having was heartburn and to take some Tums (as I was bawling on the phone to her at 37 weeks--I was in so much pain).  Turned out I had HELLP syndrome and was in the ER a few hours later so I was a little cranky when it was her that delivered my baby.  She did not even acknowledge that we had had a conversation the day before and was 100% business during my delivery.

    So--no, I am not sending her a thank you note!  I am however, sending a birth announcement to my regular OB, even though she did not deliver my baby.  I figure that she got me through the whole pregnancy, delivery is just one part of it. 

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