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WDYT MIL (longish)
Ok so my MIL does childcare in her home. We lived with her for about 5 months so I have seen how she handles all of the kids. One of the mothers called me and asked some questions. She has a just turned 3 year old and an 8 month old baby. Well the 3 year old was putting blankets over the baby's head and telling her to go to sleep so she asked me if MIL did this. I told her she didn't do that to the baby,but she did with the older kids (she watches 3 more) when she put them down for a nap.
She also would leave all the kids downstairs while she would check her email and FB upstairs. I would make sure I stayed down there with them when I could, but always felt like this was very inappropriate for her to do since she was being paid to watch them. Anyways, I answered all of her questions honestly and she ended up pulling her kids out of MIL's care. My MIL found out that I told and is now pissed at me and is saying that I turned my back on the family. Do you think I did the right thing? Thoughts?
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Re: WDYT MIL (longish)
Um, why is she putting blankets over childrens heads? And why would she leave little kids alone?
I'm sorry you were put in that position, that is unfortunate that she found out. Yet at the same time it seems like if you were concerned about her actions maybe it would have been best to mention it to her rather than go behind her back?
Did you only answer her questions and not provide more information than was asked? If you had provided more than asked, I'd see her thinking you'd "turned your back on the family" but if you answered her questions honestly, I see nothing wrong with what you did.
Ditto this.
Yes, you did the right thing. Would you want your own children watched in such a manner? MIL has no right to be mad because it was all the truth.
And, quite frankly, if the 'officials' were to find out that she was doing this, she could potentially lose her day care license.
I wondered if maybe I should have said something to her, but even after she was confronted by the parent she denied everything and acted as if nothing she did was wrong. I wasn't trying to get her into trouble, but i did not want to lie to this mother knowing full well of what was going on. At that point I figured if it were my kids I would want and have the right to know.
That's the thing, she doesn't technically have a license. It isn't mandatory here yet because she does it out of her home, but they are trying to pass a law I do believe. She did get reported to children's services so I guess we will see what happens.
I'm curious as to what your DH said about this whole ordeal?
Was he supportive of you? Did he defend you when MIL said you were turning yoru back on the family?