I will try to make this as short as I can. My ex husband and I divorced 4 years ago. He was a jerk, emotionally & verbally abusive and the only good thing that came from that marriage were my 2 boys. After the divorce the boys wanted to live with me and see him on weekends. He kept trying to talk them into living there and at 1 point 2 years ago they were going but he changed his mind. He was newly married and just found his wife was pg and didn't think it would be good for them to live FT with them. Whatever. A year ago DH was offered a job over 700 miles away from our hometown. WE, inlcuding my boys, talked it over and decided to make the move. He was mad and tried to sue for custody then dropped the case because the boys wanted to move. We hadn't been here 2 months and he was already talking to them about moving back with him. That happened in June of this year. I didn't want it, but my boys convinced me that's what they wanted to do. Well he needed to get them registered for school in NC. He expected me to provide him with their shot records. I did. Then he let me know last week that he needed their report cards. I told him I would send them. As I began to look I found that I didn't have them. We are in the process of moving so I'm sure they got thrown away. He told me I was irresponsible and that he would handle getting them like he's handled everything else. I told him that I took care of those boys their entire lives and it wasn't my reponsibility to register them for school there and that he needed to own up to it and get it done instead of blaming me because it wasn't done.
It stresses me out. He knows I'm pg. He knows I've had 2 mc. He told me that I just need to worry about "my" family. He wanted the boys. I didn't want them to move. There is a lot that goes with that and I'm not here to make his life better. I worry that he is telling my boys that because I'm having another baby they aren't as important to me. I can hear him saying it.
Sorry so long! It stresses me out though. Then I get scared that the stress will hurt the baby.
Do I just need to suck it up and do everything he asks me to do?
Thanks for listening.