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Babies: 0 - 3 Months
I need to de-frag
I love my new son but I feel like a horrible mom. All he does when he's awake is cry. I talk to him, and sing and give him lots of touches and walk around with him but feel like it's not helping. I let him fall asleep on me and stay that way for fear of waking him up, I even let him fall asleep on my breast when he feeds because it's so nice to see him at peace with me for once. I'm topless most of the day so at any moment if he shows signs of wanting to nurse- I'm ready.
The past 4 days I've slept on the rocker next to his bassinet, which he doesn't really sleep in anymore. I miss my bed and my husband dearly but I get more sleep when I rock him to sleep and just keep him in my arms.
He doesn't eat just every two hours, sometimes he eats every 45 minutes, and sometimes he'll go 3 hours. His feedings and sleep are all over the place. I know newborns can't be "spoiled" but I feel like I am doing a horrible job at mothering because of my selfish desire to see him at peace rather than let him cry every now and again.
I should be happy he eats good and I want to cherish this special age but i'm getting emotionaly exaughsted and feel attached to the boob with my son. One of my favorite parts of the day is when I get to take a shower because I get 20 minutes all to myself.
When does this get easier? I admire all of you women who have been through this.
The past 4 days I've slept on the rocker next to his bassinet, which he doesn't really sleep in anymore. I miss my bed and my husband dearly but I get more sleep when I rock him to sleep and just keep him in my arms.
He doesn't eat just every two hours, sometimes he eats every 45 minutes, and sometimes he'll go 3 hours. His feedings and sleep are all over the place. I know newborns can't be "spoiled" but I feel like I am doing a horrible job at mothering because of my selfish desire to see him at peace rather than let him cry every now and again.
I should be happy he eats good and I want to cherish this special age but i'm getting emotionaly exaughsted and feel attached to the boob with my son. One of my favorite parts of the day is when I get to take a shower because I get 20 minutes all to myself.
When does this get easier? I admire all of you women who have been through this.
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Re: I need to de-frag
It really does get better!! I remember when DS was a month old- it was really tough juggling his feedings every 2 hours (+/- 30 min) as well as my own recovery and sleep deprivation because DS would sleep more during the day than at night. I felt tied to DS and stuck at home and I remember relishing the opportunity to shower- that would make my day! The best advice someone gave me was to make sure I had a shower every day. I never thought is was that important until DS arrived then it became a luxury. So I echo that advice to you and I'm sure you've heard it before but it really helps if you sleep when LO sleeps.
Another thing that helped me was DH and I split the night shift. One of us would take 10-2 the other 2-6 and DH would feed him expressed milk. With 4 hours of sleep in a row, I felt like a new woman! Even though I was engorged, it was worth it. I just fed and pumped afterwards.
Now that I'm back at work we co-sleep once DS wakes up in the middle of the night and I do the side-laying position. Just hang in there, it will get better. Just try to enjoy the time you have with such a little one. You'll never get this time back. HTH!!