Finding Daycare Sucks Ass

Judah'sMommy · July 2009

I can't find anyplace that I'd be comfortable leaving my DS. I think it might've been easier when he was younger, but now I just can't imagine leaving his little face with a bunch of strangers. This probably explains why I'm not looking for a job very hard.

Aprilsies · July 2009

I'm going to have this issue next year... I am starting to look at places now. Now sure if it will even happen considering the cost!

iowandfw · July 2009

yup- we are thinking of switching day cares so that she is closer to our works....it stinks. we have a relationship already and now we will move her to a new place.

philosoraptor · July 2009

:whispers to JM that this is why I quit my regular FT when DS1 was born:

jade_sweatpea · July 2009

I'm going to be the same way when I start looking for a job at the end of the year.

el25 · July 2009

I don't know your budget, but my daughter is at a Bright Horizons facility. It is definitely pricely, but I love it. It is a daycare chain that is extremely reputable so you may want to look into it.

*blondiem* · July 2009

For me, it was/seemed more tough in the beginning. We only had him at the center for 1 month before I hired someone to come to our house. We are now considering sending him, because I feel like he needs that interaction right now.

GL. I know how tough it is!

JAC1027 · July 2009

Yeah, I met with an in-home DCP yesterday and was met at the door by her 3 yr old who had chocolate pudding all over her face. I called when I was on the way, so she knew what time I would be there so there was ample time to clean it up. Then, I sat there for 20-30 min and she never wiped her face. May not be a big deal to some, but it is a deal breaker for me.

KathrynMD · July 2009

They won't be strangers for long! Really look for a place you like, but knwo that your baby will be LOVED at his daycare.

his4evr04 · July 2009

Amen to that. DD is in a great facility now that we are comfortable with and she is happy, but it is so $$ and DH is only working PT now. I am so upset we have to switch her. My hope is that we can get her back there when she is a little older. Also, we looked at Bright Horizons too and LOVED it. Again, a $$ issue at the time. :-(

mamamoos · July 2009

when my aunt moved to TX in feb (she watched DS 3 days a week), we started looking for a daycare. i totally understand your frustration....trying to find something we liked that was actually in our budget and close enough to drive to every morning was impossible!

the search ended up being a giant FAIL.

i

Judah'sMommy · July 2009

*blondiem*:
For me, it was/seemed more tough in the beginning. We only had him at the center for 1 month before I hired someone to come to our house. We are now considering sending him, because I feel like he needs that interaction right now.
GL. I know how tough it is!

I feel the same way about him needing the interaction. I took him to the Children's Museum the other day and just seeing his face light up at the other babies and all the activities made me feel like he might need that right now. Plus I really want to move to a house so that he can have a yard to play in. To move and increase our COL I'd have to work. *Sigh* It's so hard. Luckily I'm all set to go to LS in the evenings in the fall, so if I find a job before school starts it's fine, and if I don't I'll be able to SAH until I do.

*blondiem* · July 2009

JAC1027:
Yeah, I met with an in-home DCP yesterday and was met at the door by her 3 yr old who had chocolate pudding all over her face. I called when I was on the way, so she knew what time I would be there so there was ample time to clean it up. Then, I sat there for 20-30 min and she never wiped her face. May not be a big deal to some, but it is a deal breaker for me.

I am not flaming you here, but you do realize that you will have to relinquish some control, right?? I mean, it's a little pudding on her face and that is a deal breaker?? Kids are kids. They are messy. And when you are sending your child to daycare, you have to realize that your child will be well cared for, but the DCP will also have others to care for as well. Besides, it was HER 3 y/o. I am confuzzled by this statement.

Judah'sMommy · July 2009

mamamoos:

when my aunt moved to TX in feb (she watched DS 3 days a week), we started looking for a daycare. i totally understand your frustration....trying to find something we liked that was actually in our budget and close enough to drive to every morning was impossible!

the search ended up being a giant FAIL.

i

This doesn't give me a great deal of confidence MM!! lol

And Kathryn: I know he'll love it eventually and that we'll find someplace. He's great with people and probably wouldn't even know I was gone. But thinking about having to walk back to my car without him that first morning makes me feel a little ill. And I usually pride myself on not being one of *those* moms. lol.

JAC1027 · July 2009

*blondiem*:
JAC1027:
Yeah, I met with an in-home DCP yesterday and was met at the door by her 3 yr old who had chocolate pudding all over her face. I called when I was on the way, so she knew what time I would be there so there was ample time to clean it up. Then, I sat there for 20-30 min and she never wiped her face. May not be a big deal to some, but it is a deal breaker for me.
I am not flaming you here, but you do realize that you will have to relinquish some control, right?? I mean, it's a little pudding on her face and that is a deal breaker?? Kids are kids. They are messy. And when you are sending your child to daycare, you have to realize that your child will be well cared for, but the DCP will also have others to care for as well. Besides, it was HER 3 y/o. I am confuzzled by this statement.

Like I said, not a big deal to some. Cleanliness is important to me. Her daughter was the only child there. You're telling me in more than 30 minutes she couldn't wipe chocolate off her face? You'd be ok with that?

ETA: she was done eating by the time I got there, so it wasn't like she was sitting there eating, getting food on her face. It was after the fact.

*blondiem* · July 2009

JAC1027:
*blondiem*:
JAC1027:
Yeah, I met with an in-home DCP yesterday and was met at the door by her 3 yr old who had chocolate pudding all over her face. I called when I was on the way, so she knew what time I would be there so there was ample time to clean it up. Then, I sat there for 20-30 min and she never wiped her face. May not be a big deal to some, but it is a deal breaker for me.
I am not flaming you here, but you do realize that you will have to relinquish some control, right?? I mean, it's a little pudding on her face and that is a deal breaker?? Kids are kids. They are messy. And when you are sending your child to daycare, you have to realize that your child will be well cared for, but the DCP will also have others to care for as well. Besides, it was HER 3 y/o. I am confuzzled by this statement.

Like I said, not a big deal to some. Cleanliness is important to me. Her daughter was the only child there. You're telling me in more than 30 minutes she couldn't wipe chocolate off her face? You'd be ok with that?

Yep, I would be okay with it. I have a 4 y/o niece and trust me, trying to keep her clean all day long is a true feat. A little chocolate on her face would not be a deal breaker for me.

GL with your search.

mrskadams · July 2009

JAC1027:
*blondiem*:

JAC1027:
Yeah, I met with an in-home DCP yesterday and was met at the door by her 3 yr old who had chocolate pudding all over her face. I called when I was on the way, so she knew what time I would be there so there was ample time to clean it up. Then, I sat there for 20-30 min and she never wiped her face. May not be a big deal to some, but it is a deal breaker for me.

I am not flaming you here, but you do realize that you will have to relinquish some control, right?? I mean, it's a little pudding on her face and that is a deal breaker?? Kids are kids. They are messy. And when you are sending your child to daycare, you have to realize that your child will be well cared for, but the DCP will also have others to care for as well. Besides, it was HER 3 y/o. I am confuzzled by this statement.

Like I said, not a big deal to some. Cleanliness is important to me. Her daughter was the only child there. You're telling me in more than 30 minutes she couldn't wipe chocolate off her face? You'd be ok with that?

ETA: she was done eating by the time I got there, so it wasn't like she was sitting there eating, getting food on her face. It was after the fact.

FWIW, I get why that bothered you. I'm not sure if it would be a deal breaker for me, but I would have been sitting there the entire time thinking, "Get up and clean your child's face!" I had twin babies, and neither of them stayed like that after eating. They certainly didn't sit with food on them for over 30 minutes.

Echowysp · July 2009

Tell me about it. I need to find daycare in a month. Ugh.

Echowysp · July 2009

JAC1027:
Yeah, I met with an in-home DCP yesterday and was met at the door by her 3 yr old who had chocolate pudding all over her face. I called when I was on the way, so she knew what time I would be there so there was ample time to clean it up. Then, I sat there for 20-30 min and she never wiped her face. May not be a big deal to some, but it is a deal breaker for me.

That would bug me too.

Good2BdaMommy · July 2009

*blondiem*:
JAC1027:
Yeah, I met with an in-home DCP yesterday and was met at the door by her 3 yr old who had chocolate pudding all over her face. I called when I was on the way, so she knew what time I would be there so there was ample time to clean it up. Then, I sat there for 20-30 min and she never wiped her face. May not be a big deal to some, but it is a deal breaker for me.
I am not flaming you here, but you do realize that you will have to relinquish some control, right?? I mean, it's a little pudding on her face and that is a deal breaker?? Kids are kids. They are messy. And when you are sending your child to daycare, you have to realize that your child will be well cared for, but the DCP will also have others to care for as well. Besides, it was HER 3 y/o. I am confuzzled by this statement.

I see your point, but that would be deal breaker for me, too.

miniko · July 2009

I left DS at daycare for the 1st time on Tuesday for a few hours. It was really hard. He was crying when he realized I'd left but he was playing with another child and happy when I went to pick him up. I think it's difficult to find the perfect environment. The place I'm taking him to is really tiny. The DCP came highly recommended and he was on a wait list. They're awesome, really loving, and caring. When it comes down it, that's what I want for him.

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