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2nd Trimester
Holidays and New Baby?
How long are you waiting before you take LO out into public? My due date is right at Christmas, and between my family and husband's, we have 5 Christmas family parties scheduled right around my due date. If I have the baby early, I'm not sure I want to take a 3 or 4 day of baby to family parties where you know that everyone will want to hold, touch, etc. That being said, all this thinking could be over nothing if I deliver a week late!
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Re: Holidays and New Baby?
You are right, it depends on when you deliver. But if you do deliver early, everyone can come to you. Dont feel obligated to do anything. I am due at the beginning of Nov and we are still not going to be going anywhere for Thanksgiving.
But all you can do is take it one day at a time.
I am so, so stressed out about this.
My due date isn't until Jan 5 but Christmas is only 10-11 days before that and I have a feeling I will never make it past 37-38 weeks.
DH and I were actually just emailing each other with the "what will we do" kind of questions... We typically have 5-6 places to go/be just on Christmas Eve and Day alone- I've already decided to nix a few of them, and that we'll just have to do what we can with the rest. Just really stressed about how to handle it, and how to handle all the people wanting to come visit us at home- being first time parents, being the holidays, etc.
I'm very interested to see some of the responses to this, I'll definitely be watching this thread! Good post, thanks for asking!!!
Yeah I'm due somewhere between the 17th and 26th of November, 26th being Thanksgiving day.
The past 2 years we've had DH's family over to our house for Thanksgiving and christmas, only becuase our house is bigger than his parents.
This year I've already told them, they are more than welcome to come over and have it there. In fact, I'd prefer that. That way I dont have to lug everything around for the newborn. And it can be a bit more controlled at my house. Make sure everyone washes their hands and whatnot.
And I clarified that I will not be doing any cooking! Potluck, or they can come use my stove and microwave all they want! I think the same thing is going to go for christmas too.
My family lives about an hour away. So we'd only have to travel 1 time each holiday.
I think that you are more than in bounds to either opt out of the parties, really who is going to blame someone who literally just had a baby for not feeling like coming to a party? And if you do go then I think take your own Purell and just politely say something like, "oh she/he is just so new we don't want to get her dirty..." "or it's cold an flu season and so we have to be extra careful" I wouldnt worry about it.
I'm in complete agreement with you!! I do not want everyone fighting to hold her when she's that little and exposing her to everything under the sun that goes around at this time of year!
Oh hell no. No way would I be taking the baby to holiday parties at a few days old. We will take baby to ILs for xmas and she should be 4/5 weeks old. There will be at least 8 new people holding her. I think that's enough.
We're also planning to go to a wedding at 5/6 weeks old. I'm hoping she likes the moby wrap so I can keep her wrapped up and away from people. I also think they're less likely to ask to hold her if she tied to me intead of in a carrier.
My due date is Dec 12 but c-section will be earlier so LO will be 3 weeks old for Christmas. We have already told our families that the plan is ALL visit in the hospital then no visitors at home till Christmas rounds. We are going to be Dad's 12/23, my MIL 12/24 and my mom is coming to us 12/25. Everyone is fairly close so it won't be bad on my c/s and all the outings will be very small. I already informed my brothers that if their kids are there, they will not be able to hold or touch LO...the kids were very good with my DD so I am not that worried.
My best friend wants to throw the annual Christmas Party (the one I always throw) when I come home and I told her to have a good time bc I would not be attending this year.
You need to do what you feel comfortable doing....who knows how you are going to feel after giving birth. Just make sure you enjoy the holidays; they are about you, your DH and LO now.:)
I'm due just a couple of days after you. There is a chance I may deliver early, but whether I deliver early or late, everyone is coming to our house for the holidays. It's just too much stress on everyone, especially if little man does make an early arrival.
This is the one time where it should be about you & your immediate family. Be honest w/ your family about your concerns.
I'm due the week prior to Thanksgiving, we've already decided we aren't going ANYWHERE for it. Some of the family is close but if I still haven't delivered I think I'd rather relax at my house is comfy clothing like pj's and sweats then getting dressed and be scared to mess up someone elses house and holiday because it's time. If I already delivered I'm gonna let people stop by to drop off food and see the little guy but we definately will not be leaving.
For Christmas i'm hoping that he'll be good enough for a short trip somewhere on X-mas day. My family usually stops by for X-mas Eve dinner and we do our gifts then (family tradition) so that will continue. Yet seeing everyone (FI parents are divorced) on X-mas Day might be hard but hopefully we'll be fine for a short period.
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DD was born on Dec 20th and we had her at my mom's with family dinner Christmas Eve and IL's on Christmas. There wasn't too many people there, but it was fine. Everyone was good about washing thier hands before they held her, I never really demanded they do, but most did anyways. You don't know how YOU will be feeling so shortly after delivery so I wouldn't commit to any of them, just see how you are feeling and go with the flow.
PS. DD#2 is due on Dec 28th. too
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My baby will be here just before Thanksgiving and we have decided to not go to my DH's grandmothers b/c there is usually 20 people there. They are all going to disappointed when they find this out, but oh well. I don't want all those hands on him yet.
My due date is early November, weeks before any holidays. However, I have no intention of carting around a newborn baby to various family functions during the cold and rainy season. I have discussed this with my Mother who agrees it is a time for DH, the baby and I to become acquainted and she respects my idea to be homebound during the holidays. Of course we absolutely will welcome family over to visit and share the time with us.
DS was due Thanksgiving week and was born 11/30. We stayed in town for Thanksgiving that year in case I went into labor. We took him to our regular holiday events - at my parents' house, my sister's bday party at her house, and then we brought him to the ILs 3.5 hours away for couple of days.
Our families are not big and I felt okay enough to travel.
I'm due mid-December and don't plan on attending family holiday events. They can come to my house, but my family lives 2 hours away and the idea of the drive freaks me out.
Now, if he comes early and is super healthy and I feel great AND we have a mild Christmas (possible) I might consider making the drive just to keep from going stir crazy. But my grandmother smokes and being at her house with a less than 1 month old baby isn't ideal.
This is one reason I'm really glad we live several states away from family!
I'm due Dec 10, and I doubt I'll be taking LO out for any Christmas activities. Too many sick, germy people putting their grubby hands all over a newborn. My parents will be here, so we'll have a nice, quiet holiday season together!