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Momma.Brown
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so lets be honest, what do you really think
Momma.Brown
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when you see a fat person? or a very thin person?
this question is directed at the skinny folk and the fatties and everyone in between.
i think many of you wont honestly say what you think. kind of like closet racisits.
(hey june, how is that for livening things up?)
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Re: so lets be honest, what do you really think
I have been heavy all my life. But I am healthy and in shape, and far from lazy. But I can eat! LOL. So I know people assume that I am a lazy junk food eater. I don't consider myself a yucky fattie.
But sometimes you see yucky fatties that have greasy skin, look worn out, (ride on carts in the store) the classic "you are what you eat". I am judging of them, to be honest. And then the people that are like 600# I just think "wow how is that possible to be that big". I feel bad for them.
If I see someone who is super almost sickly skinny I think/sometimes say "wow look how skinny that chic is". But again only judge if they look unhealthy.
I have been a 4 and I have been an 18.
I was a 4 when I was active and eating right. I got to 18 by being lazy (that and 6m in bed following a spinal fusion, then 2 pregnancies back to back) but it all comes down to lazy.
I see skinny and I yearn for that clothing and I am jealous. I see fat and I think I never want to be that lazy again. I am almost in the middle and can tell how much better I feel already.
Really, the only time I judge fat people is when I'm in line at the grocery store. I usually get bored with waiting and start to inventory the contents of other people's carts. Whenever I see a bunch of junk food I look to see how heavy the person is, and if they are fat I judge. If they are thin I hate.
I've always been pretty thin so I don't think much about seeing other thin people. Unless they are eating-disorder thin. Then I want to buy them a pizza.
I will start by saying that I am obese any way you look at it.
If I see a skinny girl I think "***! I wish I looked like that!" Especially if said woman is complaining about being fat.
If I see a fat girl, fatter than me that is, I think "Well, at least I don't look like that.....yet." and is follow by a comment to my husband that goes something like this "When I get to that point, please shoot me."
So there!
i agree with this. when i was heavier - it was bc i drank a lot, ate horribly, went for taco c at 2 am, didnt work out, nothing. i think a lot of times "ugh i never want to be like that"
I get very jealous when I see a very thin woman. I used to be thin, and now I'm not at all. I just have to remind myself that the only reason I was that thin was because I was bulimic. That, in turn, reminds me that it wasn't worth it for me. I miss having more enamel on my teeth. I have days where my teeth are so sensitive that I have to use a straw when I take a drink. Not worth it. I'll take my fat ass and hips over that sickness any day.
But I'm not going to lie, I still get jealous, and I still want to go back to that some days. I know that not every thin woman has an eating disorder; that's ridiculous. But that is what my mind jumps to when I see someone who is slim.
My first instict is to judge at face value and after I realize what I am thinking, I immediately think a nice thought about the person's appearance to try and make up for it. LOL I'm a firm believer in Karma of the mind.
Fat people: I feel sorry for them. When I was prego and right after I was very very uncomfortable. I can't imagine having to carry that much extra weight around all the time. It's harder to move and bad on your joints.
Perfectly skinny peeps: Jealous
Too skinny: feel sorry for
Average: don't pay attention
I am fat, size 18. I judge fat people especially when they complain about their knees hurting or back ect and then go eat 2 big macs, fries, and a large soda. I know I could lose the weight if I tried but I am fat because I am lazy, not proud of it but thats the truth.
As far a regular skinny people no I dont judge, maybe a little jealous. But grossly skinney people make me sad, I wonder that they are compinsating for. I have an aunt that is anarecsic (sp?).
Ok. Honest thoughts - here you go.
My mom was fat when I was growing up. Sorry, morbidly obese. So I'm used to large people and others judging them. Her MIL/my grandmother was TERRIBLE about it.
She's since had surgery and now probably qualifies as overweight. It's completely changed her life for the better. As in, better self esteem, able to get up and do things, renewed relationship with her husband/my dad.
On the flip side, I will never forget: My roommate in college had a brother who went in for the same surgery. She was IMing him the night before and talking about it. Asked me. I said he'd be fine. She told him my mom had the surgery and was fine.
Well, something happened and he died in recovery. I never really delved too deep because that would be insensitive. But I'll never forget hugging her on her bed after we found out.
Anyway, those are my thoughts.
Honestly, I feel really bad for fat people. A lot of people think they are fat b/c they are lazy, etc., but I think...they don't want to be like that, they probably feel pretty crappy about how they look/eat/feel, and they are most likely in an endless cycle of eating, feeling bad, eating to feel better, etc. I guess this b/c I don't think I'm obese, but I feel disgusting and fat after having ds..and I eat to feel better...I know a lot of people who do this.
As for the skinny bittys..I hate you and am jealous.
omg do you mean taco cabana???? OHHHH how I miss this. I use to live in Tx, they haven't had them anywhere else I've lived, they must be TX exclusive. That makes me want some tc tacos...yumm.
the smallest i've been is a 2, the largest i've been is a 10. the 2 was definitely not healthy at all, and in fact i'm kind of disgusted at myself right now.
i try really hard not to judge, because my mom is obese, and i know i am only thin because of the medication i take otherwise i would really have to work on it. i know a lot of people who have been extremely thin, and were very unhappy about it--either because they forced themselves to be that way or because they just couldn't gain weight no matter how many protein shakes they drank. same is true for overweight--it's hard hard work to lose the weight, and sometimes there is nothing you can do but get medical help, and it's a tough first step.
sooo i don't know if this got anywhere, but i hope to goodness i never pass any weight issues to my kids.
When I see a very obese person, I just think how much that much suck and how difficult life must be.
I am thin. ?I have always been thin. ?I don't have to work at it, although pre-PG I worked out and ate healthy. ?I'm bordering on too skinny now because no matter how much I eat I keep losing weight because of BFing. ?And I know people at work and some of my friends think I'm too thin and that there's something wrong (i.e. an eating disorder). ?Luckily DH and my family and BFF see how much I eat, so the people I'm close with know there's nothing wrong. ?But it bothers me that people are judging me. ?So I try not to make assumptions about other people's lifestyles whether fat or thin.
(Though, I have to confess, when I see a very obese person with a shopping cart full of junk food, it frustrates me)?
my dad is obese but not because he eats unhealthy but because he fell off a roof when he was 16 and broke his hip and his leg never grew, and then when he was hauling cattle when he was in his 20s he was trampled by a steer, which affected his back, and now has horrid back problems which in turn doesn't let him exercise like normal people can exercise. he goes out hunting and fishing with this group of handicapped men and has lost some weight that way
that being said, growing up i was a bigger girl and through hs was not happy but i didn't do anything about it. i went to college and dropped about 40lbs because i was so busy and never ate. i always and still do think of myself as big (never use the word fat) though you would never think that i weigh as much as i do. after i had ds and pulled out all of my pre-pg clothes that is when i realized how much i DIDNT weigh. i see ladies now that are skinnier than i am and wish that, that could be me but i know i have to work to get to that, and i have no ambition to do it.
i'm not looking for any "omgosh you do not weigh that much in that picture" things, but in this picture I weighed 175. People used to comment on how skinny I was but I never saw it.
eta: im in the center
I mostly get pissed at overweight people when I fly. Too many times I've sat next to someone who can't fit in their seat. Not fair that I have to share my seat with your belly roll. Please pay for 2 seats.
Vent over.
Most of the people here are very slim, being that most people here are Asian, so it's rare to see a very fat person. Whenever i go home (Michigan) I am ASTOUNDED by how large people are, it is truly amazing! I feel like a total fattie living here (especially when it's difficult to find C cup bras, let alone a D cup bra), but I think of myself as just a little plump, probably 20-30lbs over my ideal.
Anyway, if I see a super fat person I usually just feel bad for them because it must be so difficult to live like that, I am uncomfortable with my weight, so I can't imagine what it must be like for them. However, if i see them at the grocery store with a cart full of ready-made, greasy, fattening food then it's really difficult to feel sorry for them when they are making the choices that are contributing to their weight.
On the flip side, I get really irrationally angry when I see a super skinny person with the same cart full of junk, when I eat pretty clean, no fast food or junky food and I still struggle for my weight. It's really unfair to me that I know so many that can eat whatever they want and still not have an ounce of fat on them...
I could have written those almost word for word.
9/24/2011 Plymouth Firefighters 5k: 47:13
11/12/2011 Diva Dash 5k: 45:45
5/5/2012 STEM school 5k TBD Coming up in 2012:
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11/10/2012 Diva Dash 5k
9/24/2011 Plymouth Firefighters 5k: 47:13
11/12/2011 Diva Dash 5k: 45:45
5/5/2012 STEM school 5k TBD Coming up in 2012:
6/10/2012 Walk to Remember SIDS foundation 5k
(in memory of a sweet baby boy)
11/10/2012 Diva Dash 5k
I am honestly looking more about how well put together a person is... and I am fat. have been most of my life. I tend to put other fat people into 2 categories... neat or sloppy. I am ashamed to say I judge those who are sloppy.
Having always been overweight, I was always proud of myself for being very healthy and very well dressed, and always looking my best. So I do judge a bit.
Very thin (like what appears to be dangeous) people tend to make me feel a bit sorry for them, I worry they are sick.
People who seem to be at an ideal weight can be intimidating to me, but I do the same thing, I look at what they are wearing, their hair, make up, how they carry themselves. I think looking good is really an attitude... and people of all sizes have it. Sometimes even me!