Meeting BM tomorrow

517butterfly · July 2009

I am getting nervous already so I can't imagine what they will be like on our 4 hour drive tomorrow to meet with BM and our SW! Any advice on how to calm my nerves??

TTCgradstud · July 2009

j/k (okay well maybe one before bed to help you sleep!) I have nothing useful to offer, but I'm sure it'll go great! after all she picked you! Good luck!!

crystalpopcorn · July 2009

A nice glass of wine usually works for me!

Just kidding....sort of.

I don't have any advice for you, since I haven't been in that situation. I wish you the best of luck though. I'm sure everything will be great and she will see what fantastic parents you are. Please let us know how it goes!

crystalpopcorn · July 2009

TTCgradstud:
j/k (okay well maybe one before bed to help you sleep!) I have nothing useful to offer, but I'm sure it'll go great! after all she picked you! Good luck!!

LOL, I was posting my comment at the same time and almost included the martini glass too.

-Stephanie- · July 2009

Breathe!

Be yourself and just take time to get to know your BM. I'm sure it will go wonderfully!!!

Can't wait to hear all about it. ?

CaptainSerious · July 2009

I haven't been in your position, but I sure if you just be yourself, you will have a wonderful visit. Remember, she picked you for a reason. Now, just let the relationship grow.

Good luck (not that you'll need it)!

rottimom · July 2009

I was scared to death!! I wanted her to like us, and see that we are tenderly caring for her child. But I was sooooo nervous. Plus we were SUPER late because we were at the hospital duing a jaundice check...so I was afraid she would be upset or mad....it was very stressful

YOU won't have any of that. Just try to relax...deep breaths and remember that you are there to gather info for your child...plus you want BM to see you with the baby and know that she made the right decision. You don't have to pretend to be comfortable...its a very weird situation...and you really don't know what its like until you are in it.

We gave our BM a bracelet at our meeting--its totally ok if you don't- some agencies frown upon this. We all cried...and I hope she wears it and knows her baby is doing great.

We took a bunch of pictures and she wanted to hold Sam.....I nervously agreed....Though I had visions of her grabbing her and darting out the door. Instead, she was lovely and scared too. She wanted US to like HER.

Let me know how it goes.....mommy, you will do great!

MayDayGirl · July 2009

Pray! good luck!

jewele803 · July 2009

I have not been in this situation yet...we meet w/ BM prior to placement and will meet again around DD's first b-day. I wish you tons of luck though...crazy that you have to drive 4 hours...getting through that drive might be the hardest part...maybe bring something entertaining to do in the car...an audio book or something to keep your mind off the meeting if at all possible?

I'm sure it'll go fantastically, just remember there is a reason you and DH were the family selected for little Abby:)