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etiquette on diaper changing
OK, so my SIL, whom I love, was visiting us with her kids, and changed her 2 yo's dirty diaper on our couch, with all of us in the living room. I think it is gross, but maybe family etiquette on public diaper changing is different. The offending diaper went into our garbage in our kitchen, ew. Thoughts?
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Re: etiquette on diaper changing
if she used a blanket in between the couch and child, and if it was only urine, i wouldn't be so grossed out. to throw it out in the kitchen trash though, yeah, yuk!
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I would put down a blanket and change a pee diaper in front of everyone. Not if I thought it was poop, though.
I also always ask where to throw it, but wouldn't think twice about someone throwing a diaper in my kitchen trash. Its the one that goes out the most frequently.
Annelise 3.22.2007 Norah 10.24.2009 Amelia 8.7.2011
This totally seems to vary by region, and by family.
We would all probably do well to be respectful to ask out hostess what she would prefer when we're a guest somewhere (even with family).
This is exactly what I did when DD was in diapers. I would always ask the host, even if they had kids. It's actually not healthy to change a poopy diaper on a public surface without a changing pad so that would bother me if someone did it on my furniture. Also, poopy diapers STINK so unless the garbage was set to go out that night, I would prefer that someone throw it in the main can outside. When in doubt, ask your host/hostess.
I guess I agree that asking would have been nice, but in my mind, if you are in a home that doesn't already have children (and thus a diaper genie or similar measure) the kitchen trash would be the next best thing. Since we are in an apartment we don't have a big garbage can and the kitchen trash gets emptied at least every other day, plus that's where DH puts the plastic bag when he cleans out the litter boxes so it just makes sense to me.
But still, asking would be nice.
Haha. This! And since we're on the subject...it makes me so mad when restaurants don't provide the changing table in the bathroom. I have also been known to change my daughter in a booth if they don't have a changing table! Obviously not if it is poop...or if there are a lot of people around...I do have *some* "klass". LOL
Maybe a good rule of thumb is : don't change the diaper in front of anyone who wouldn't change the diaper themselves.
So, best friends, sisters, family, probably fine. Odd uncles, male friends who are squeamish about kids, random cousins you haven't seen in 10 years: pass.
My sister does this too, and it drives me crazy! Even with a blanket or change pad on the furniture, I don't like that she changes them with a room full of people, go somewhere a little more private!
The diaper in the kitchen is gross too, put it outside! But better than when my sister leaves it sitting on the coffee table and I have to remove it for her!
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I think its rude and uncomfortable when people change their kids' diapers right in the middle of a room full of people. I fully intend to go to the bathroom or bedroom to change my baby's diapers.
That is gross. She should have asked you where a good place to change the diaper would be and if the trash was OK or wto be directed to the outside trash. I have 50 kids to the beach with their parents for a day every summer and never has anyone ever changed a diaper on my couch!
I don't care where anyone changes their baby in my house. I do children's photo shoots out of the home and they can change their baby on the couch. Much more comfy for baby than the floor! I would never have cared, but I think things like this change once you have a child. I bet you'll be changing your own baby on your couches at some point.
However, if I am at someone's house, I always ask where they want me to change my child. Some will say it doesn't matter, others will suggest a guest bedroom or the floor. I wouldn't just do it on anyone else's couch unless I was at my mom's house or my sister's house, as they wouldn't care. Besides, it's not like you smear poop all over while changing a baby.
That is seriously my biggest pet peeve! My SIL does it all the time. On the couch, on the floor, wherever. Over Christmas, BIL even left the dirty diaper and clothes right there on the floor.
I'm sorry, I know I am going to be changing a billion diapers, but I think is a private thing. I will take my child to a different room from everyone else. If someone wants to come along, that's one thing. But the entire family doesn't need to watch!
#1 it is SO nasty to do that on someone's couch, and rude. Normally it's proper to ask the first time you do that at someone's house. My friend emily has twin boys and she knows we don't have a changing pad, and so she pulls out her portable/purse one and just changes her son on our floor which I am totally cool with. She ALWAYS asks before tossing it in our trash which I always say "go ahead!" too except today because the cleaning lady was over at the same time and had just taken it out and it had no liner. I would have gotten her a liner though but she said it was fine she would just pop it in her dirty bag. Normally though she just pops it in our trash and I don't care at all.
It's polite to simply ask, i mean that is really gross, what if he/she pee'd while being changed and it got on the couch? Thats super gross, IMHO.
I always ask before changing, and do it on the floor on our changing pad.?