SAHM does you dh help out?

Gwyneddlesliegrace · July 2009

I do everything absolutly everything in our house and dh basically does nothing which is pretty much ok with me because he works a lot. But when I do ask him to do things he NEVER does them. Like take out the trash that is the only "chore" he has. I have to hound him for 3 days to get him to do it. We recently painted and all of the light switch plates are off. I have been asking him to put them on for a month and he still hasnt done it. I know I could do it my self but its the principle of it. Does anyone else deal with this?

C.P.C. · July 2009

No, he thinks because he works a whopping 40 hours a week that gives him a get out of jail free card for everything else. I also work at home and go to school.

Crazycrustacean · July 2009

Yes his jobs without asking are:

Dishes, garbage, litter box & walking the dogs.

He'll do pretty much anything else I ask him to do as well.

CelticWife · July 2009

DH tries to help me out as much as he can. He generally cooks dinner and cleans up; he also does his laundry, which just leaves me with mine and DS's. (And I am glad he does because if I messed up his chef coats he wouldn't be allowed in class until his new ones came in.) He also cuts the grass.

Some nights when he gets home after school and work, he is just too tired, and I totally understand that. But he does really help me out on days he is not working.?

Gwyneddlesliegrace · July 2009

I don't think that DH understands that he gets to come home from work and gets days off and things like that. I am ALWAYS on. My dd is exclusively breast fed and is always with me. I've only ever been away from her 3 times. Is it to much to ask to get him to put the darn switches on?

punkfiction · July 2009

yes if i need help - then he'll help me no matter what.

Smores730 · July 2009

My DH helps out but significantly less so then when we both worked. He does all the outside chores but the inside has been becoming more and more solely my responsibility; the exception being the dishes. I feel his other duties should be take out trash and recyclables and litter box and I have to nag/remind him just about every time. He does help out with cooking dinner though, but never ever wipes the counters afterwards.

CelticWife · July 2009

Gwyneddlesliegrace:
I don't think that DH understands that he gets to come home from work and gets days off and things like that. I am ALWAYS on. My dd is exclusively breast fed and is always with me. I've only ever been away from her 3 times. Is it to much to ask to get him to put the darn switches on?

Have you talked to him about this? Not the switches specifically but how you feel about him not taking on his share of the burden??

Gwyneddlesliegrace · July 2009

I have talked to him about it. He always says he'll try harder but when I ask him to do something he'll give me tude saying he worked all day and blah blah blah. I really don't ask him to do much just the trash thats it. (and the switch's lol)

exhausted_bride · July 2009

DH takes out the trash, does the yard, helps with dinner. If he's home, he's definitely not sitting on his a$$, but there are times I tell him to take it easy and have a beer. He does work hard and I do the bulk of the housework but if I ask for help with stuff, he does without complaining.

MrsJuneHawk · July 2009

Yes, he helps me immensely. My family has been living with us for the past few months so he hasn't had to do much but starting next week it's just us again. He even cooks sometimes.

jenifairies · July 2009

It's not 'helping you out' it's being a parent and member of the household! I imagine you had an agreement that he would make a paycheck and you would SAH, yes? Why is it okay for you to have a 24/7 job and have to do everything in the house when he can just chillax and sit on his butt after his work week is up?

To answer your question, yes he does help, but he also has a pt job and goes to school, so with only so many hours in the day, I do more.

TARAnj · July 2009

he'll help, but I have to say it a million times. It's frustrating, but yesterday he knew I was pissed so he made up for it this morning before work. All I ask is that he takes out the garbage when full, clean thelitter box and feed the 2 cats their food in the morning. sometimes he forgets all three and I get so aggravated.

Right now I don't mind doing all the housework. I'm home, so that's fine. Come september though, I'll be back at work and there is no way I'm doing it all.

pixiedustie · July 2009

I work p/t but even on the days I am off if I need help all I have to do is ask. I had to learn how to ask though, I was just getting b!tchy and expecting him to know what I needed, once I actually opened my mouth and said "would you help me" he did.

Gin*In*TN · July 2009

Yes, DH helps out all the time. But he also works his 40+ hours a week here at the house and sort of sets his own schedule. He cooks almost every meal and puts away dishes from the dishwasher, takes out the garbage, helps with DD, and does handyman type things around the house, too.

cocadoll · July 2009

He will help out when I ask, especially if it's the weekend and he likes to cook, so sometimes he will ask me not to cook and he will when he gets home (which also means he has to clean the kitchen that day). ?He helps with the trash and will clean his shower if I don't do it soon enough. ?But I usually do everything else. ?I do it because I'm at home and want to have a clean house so we can both relax and spend time together when he is at home. ?

ElizC · July 2009

If I need help he does, but he works his a$$ so we can afford for me stay home right now. I would guess he works about 60 hours a week, so if I don't need his help I don't ask. When I was working everything was pretty much split evenly, so it isn't that he won't do stuff. I am grateful for the opportunity I have to spend with DS everyday, so I don't mind doing almost everything at home.

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