Would you have one glass of wine?

MrsPatterson · July 2009

I'm going to ask my doctor tomorrow about whether he thinks it's ok, but I am just really craving a glass of wine lately. I mentioned this to DH and he got REALLY mad at me and told me that it was selfish and that I am pregnant and shouldn't be drinking alcohol just because I was craving it. So tell me what you think ladies.

ETA: I am thinking about this because I am going to a bachelorette party in a few weeks and would really like to have a glass of wine to look forward to.

NavyPilotWife · July 2009

Personally, I wouldn't. Though my MIL, the pediatrician, told me that it was ok if I wanted to have a drink. I have had a sip here and a sip there, but not a whole glass.

If you want to have a glass, your DH really shouldn't make you feel guilty about it.

luckyangel · July 2009

I know alot of girl's docs say its ok but my doc made me swear against any alcohol at all. She said every person's body allows the alcohol to cross the placenta at a different rate and the idea that one glass is ok is only an estimation but can't account for people who's body absorbs it faster-which can have a bad effect on the baby's heartrate and other things.

Personally I'm with your DH. I couldn't live with myself if I had a drink and it caused something to happen...just not a risk I'm willing to take. I can wait another couple of months. (and trust me I understand the craving-I was literally huffing sniffs of my sister's beer the other day!)

CMM05 · July 2009

Yes.......I had a small strawberry mojito a couple weeks ago!

When I was PG with DS.....I had some wine during the holidays......just one glass or so.......

StephanieDeanne · July 2009

Honestly, talk to your doctor and see what she/he says. When I am farther along and I really feel like I want one, I might have a small one, not a normal sized glass. I think its a personal preference thing after a certain point.

I_Love2Sew · July 2009

I would say NO, b/c it's just not worth the risk. and... heaven forbid something were to happen you would guilt yourself for it.

HisKathy · July 2009

I'll admit it, when my parents were in town I had some wine. My mom opened my favorite bottle so I had a very small amount - like a 1/3 of a small glass. Then a couple days later my dad bought this really good port and I had like a shot-glass amount. I drank both of these really slowly to savor them and I don't plan on drinking any more this pregnancy (although I'll be visiting my parents again this weekend so I hope they don't make me evil again). I don't feel bad about it since it was such a small amount and that's all I've had but I certainatly don't plan on making a habit of it. I say have a small glass, drink it slow and drink plenty of water and enjoy the party!

KRIST4N · July 2009

I had maybe a half of a glass while we were on vacation last week, DH drank most of it but I had a few sips here and there. ?Personal decision!

GershiGirl · July 2009

Yes I would... I honestly don't think that one glass of wine is that bad and I think it's really unfair of your DH to try and lay a guilt trip like that on you.

mybobble · July 2009

My ob actually gave me the thumbs up to have a drink while in Aruba. I passed on that since one of my favorite drinks is made w/ 151 proof rum.

No alcohol for me for a long time. Honestly, I don't even miss it!

Johanneswomann · July 2009

I have had a sip out of every single beer that DH has had while I have been pregnant. No more than that, and it gives me just enough to make the craving go away.

HugginAngel · July 2009

DH's friends wife drank a 1/4 glass like once a week....she's apparently a bit of an alchi and their daughter is fine.... But she stuck to wine because the doc said a few sips here and there wouldn't hurt but again like PP's said personal choice

lplassman · July 2009

Hmmm, from what I have heard it is ok, but I always have this fear that I will and then for some reason have to go to L&D and have to try to convince them that it really was the only time, lol, that is just how my mind works!

gallerygirl · July 2009

I personally have decided to not drink at all during my pregnancy. Nearly every book I have read has said that alcohol, in any amount, has yet to be cleared as safe. I agree with the PP that everyone absorbs alcohol differently. If you feel ANY effect, so does your baby.

I also think that if you DH is against it, that you need to take his thoughts and concerns seriously. This is just the first of many disagreements regarding your child and I feel like he should completely have an imput on whether you drink or not while pregnant. God forbid something be not right with your child and you both look back at the wine and feel guilty or he secretly blame you. Just sayin.

Ultimately, it is your personal decision.

julia&jared · July 2009

luckyangel:
I know alot of girl's docs say its ok but my doc made me swear against any alcohol at all. She said every person's body allows the alcohol to cross the placenta at a different rate and the idea that one glass is ok is only an estimation but can't account for people who's body absorbs it faster-which can have a bad effect on the baby's heartrate and other things.
Personally I'm with your DH. I couldn't live with myself if I had a drink and it caused something to happen...just not a risk I'm willing to take. I can wait another couple of months.

This 100%. You always hear people say that their doctors say its ok and yada ,yada but then another study comes out and its a huge no-no again. I say ( and this is just for me) that it took me so long to get pregnant so why do anything that could possibly hurt the baby? Sure you see some people who smokes through their pregnancy and drank and there "no problems" with the baby but what if would always be there to me (even later in life)

mrshutch · July 2009

If it was a small glass, I'd have no issue. I have an opposite DH from yours, who is always like, oh, it's fine just have a little . . . blue cheese, wine, brie, fill in the blank. It's not that he doesn't care, but he doesn't see a problem with having "just a bite" or "just a small glass." W/ DD, I avoided most things, but had a glass of wine for special occasions, pretty much all in the 3rd tri. This time, I've avoided absolutely anything on the "black list" and I'm sure down the line I'll have a small glass here and there at the holidays. I say do whatever you're comfortable with.

Heidisean · July 2009

No way! You have no clue if there will be any effects on your child now or in the future. Why risk it just for a drink. Totally not worth it!

ellenaxo · July 2009

Personally, I wouldn't. I don't think its worth the risk. However, I do have a few friends that are moms already that don't think its a big deal to have a drink every now and then. It's defnitely a personal choice.

mh2t · July 2009

I don't normally drink, (really don't like alcohol except for the occasional bloody mary or mimosa) so this has not been a temptation for me. BUT, I would not have a problem with having a small glass (maybe 4 oz or so) as a once-in-awhile thing (like, maybe once a month or something). I don't think an amount that small, in major moderation, would hurt. But it's all about your comfort level. Would you feel guilty? Freaked out? If so, don't do it - it's not worth the worrying.

gwenypher7 · July 2009

I wouldn't have a whole glass, but I might have a few sips. However, beware of the inevitable heartburn!

I know that sometimes I start feeling tipsy after just one glass, so I'm avoiding it until delivery. When I crave wine, I go get a fully caffeinated coke

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