on the 2nd tri board a girl got flamed in a major way for admitting that she was throwing her own shower. People said that your friend should throw the shower, whether wedding or baby, and not you or your mom as that is tacky.
Yikes! My mom kinda threw my bridal shower with the help of my best friend... but now I'm wondering if my mom's name should stay off the invitation to the baby shower, and leave it all up to the friend so as to not appear greedy or tacky?
The other thing is, for the bridal shower my mom treated everyone to this amazing brunch at a Latin restaurant. For the baby shower (since I imagine lots of bulky gifts) I thought it would be easier (and cheaper for mom) to throw it in one of the party rooms on the club level in my condo building. They have a sound system and couches, chairs, it's really great, I just have to reserve it and it's free. If I do that, and the invites are on behalf of my friend, will it look "greedy" that the baby shower is being held in my own condo, like as if I took part in planning it?
It's just that my friend is from out of town, and even if she lived here, most of us have small condos/apartments, and our parents have downsized so we don't want to impose on a parent....
Re: Etiquette question
There is nothing wrong with it. Even if your mom is on the invite. My mom and 4 of my closest friends are hosting my shower. We didn't put who was hosting it on the invites, but the return address is my moms and my moms name.
I'm also a slight control freak and an event planner and am having more say then I should in my shower. lol I picked the location and made my invitations. Because I wanted to and my friends know thats the kind of person I am and there is no way around it. I'd be miserable with no part in it. lol
Every situation is different, and somethings are technically considered right and wrong. These days many things have changed. Things that may used to seem wrong from an etiquette stance, are ok now. It's all a matter of opinion.
Same here...my mom and I are throwing a shower for my younger sister. And I think it is just fine to have it at your condo complex.
Your mom can host. You can help too, "behind the scenes". No one will know you reserved the room. And no- it's not an issue to have the shower at your home or near your home.
THe main issue is simply that YOU should not be doing the whole thing yourself and you sure as heck should not be listed as a host and no one should know how much of a hand you had in helping.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Your mom's name should stay off the invite. At least in my region...mom's do not throw their own DD's a shower (bridal or baby). She can certainly help physically and financially. I did with my DD's shower...but I was not the host. Her GF's name was on the invite and her phone number for RSVP. MY email addy was on for RSVP.
It doesn't matter where the location is. To have it at your condo is fine.