I live 300+ miles from basically all of my friends and family except for my inlaws. When I had my bridal shower, it was a surprise back in my hometown (during 1 of 2 planned visits home before the wedding). I dont have any planned weekends to visit before the baby is born, so I wanted my mom to just let me know when she wanted me to come in for the shower. Well, that was a mistake.
Apparently my shower just HAS to be a surprise, and I cant even ask about it. I have no idea how she plans on "tricking" me to visit for a weekend, because any time I come home I will obviously be expecting it. Unless she plans on having it here, which would be even more ridiculous, since no one would travel this far for a day for a baby shower...(espeically older relatives, plus my friends who've just had babies...)
WHY is she so insistent that it be a surpise?!? All I want to know is the weekend! That's all! I'm not asking to be involved in the details! They will still be a surprise!.....
Re: shower just HAS to be a surprise...
My Mom and MIL want to keep the shower a secret from me. I don't know how they will get me anywhere without me being suspicious. Especially if its DH that suggests we go somewhere - He never wants to go anywhere.
I am originally from NY and for the wedding shower we had it in NY - even though the wedding was in PA. My Mom also had a small shower for me in PA for some people that couldn't come.
This one I think will be in PA. I have no idea where - but have to guess its either my Moms or my SIL (brothers wife.)
They are both over an hour away - and I plan on just being concious of the month os august and how I am dressed when I go places.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
While I would be extremely thankful for anyone who hosts my shower, I will say one thing about "suprise" showers: I want to look (and most important, FEEL) like a beautiful mommy-to-be at my shower. I would hate to show up in sweats just so someone could get a surprise out of it. And I sure don't want to be stressed out over it, wondering when I'll be expected to travel out of town. Baby or bridal showers just aren't the time or place to blindside anyone.
Can you tell I'm not a big fan of suprises? LOL. I agree with the PP who said to confide in a good friend... she would completely understand and hopefully fill you in on the details.
I basically broke down crying when my mother was telling me I have no say in anything, but I did convince her not to have it be a surprise. I want to look nice at my shower and enjoy it.
It must be a NY thing...