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Okay so DH is very anxious to get out of the house with Kane. He really wants to take him to, well pretty much anywhere. I know it is better to keep him home for awhile, but how soon did you take LO out for an outing? It wouldn't be anything big just to lunch or a short trip as I am BF and Kane isn't on a regular schedule just yet. TIA!!
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  • I took Gabriel out for the first time (other than to the pedi) when we was 2 weeks old.  I just put him in my wrap so people couldn't get close to him without getting in MY personal space.  It was just a trip to BRU, but we wandered around for about 45 minutes hehe.
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  • For the first two weeks the only places I took her was the drs office and our lactation consultant.. Our situation was sort of reversed. I was anxious to get out, DH wanted me to stay in.. but I will say the BFing thing WAS kind of intimidating at first. When she was 13 days old, I took her to a mommy and me group, which was still at the lactation consultants but there were PEOPLE there.. so it felt like more of an outing.. It was also the first time I nursed anywhere but my house.. After that.. I slowly started taking her out more.. First to the grocery store (with my moms help!) then to Target (still with mom's help).. By the time she was 3 weeks I had taken her a couple places by myself.. and we took her out to eat when she was 3 weeks too.
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  • I think we didn't take him anywhere except for the pedi until he was about 2 weeks old, but I think the pedi said to wait until 1 month.  I just put him in the peanut shell so he was close to me so strangers wouldn't get near him.


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    M/c #4 - 3/16/10 - 5w1d, DS2 -  born via VBAC at 40w3d, M/c#5 - 11/5/12 - 7w2d
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  • First time out was to go to Target and Costco for supplies :) It was great. I felt like I could stretch my legs a bit after being cramped inside but didn't feel too overwhelmed. He slept almost the whole time.

    He woke up once and wanted to eat at Costco but luckily they had a glider on display there so I parked it, put on the udder cover and bf him... first outing, first time bf in public. 

    We limited our outings to once every few days and always kept him in the Hotsling so people couldn't touch/see him just in case. GL! 

    Married 6-30-07, BFP 9-1-07, M/C & D&C 10-5-07, BFP #2 6-20-08, BFP #3 3-28-2010 Mommy to Ethan born 2-22-09 7lbs 13.5oz & 21" long SAL Buddy to March04b2b imageFamily Blog|Food Blog
  • We stopped at BRU after the pedi appointment when he was 3 days old.  I took him to Target when he was about a week old and have taken him out pretty much every day since (except for when the weather is really bad).
  • My grandmother wasn't well when EC was born, so we went to her appt on our way home from the hospital.  There were probably about 10 people there. 

    She passed away when EC was 11 days old, so we had her memorial service and viewing.

    After all that, I kind of felt like it was a free for all on going out.  Once I could drive, two weeks after my discharge, I went out almost every day.  Seriously, it helped EC sleep better.  It was the weirdest thing but it worked for us.

    I think as long as you feel comfortable, then you should go out.  Personally, I think I would have been depressed if I had felt like I was stuck in the house.

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  • We waited a really long time-- I don't even remember how long!  But it was December so it was flu season and the weater was awful here.  Plus I had major PPD and could barely handle getting out of bed.  BUT with our next child, I am making it a point to get out early... within the first week or two.  I think it will make a difference in my emotional state.  I say go for it.
  • We had both kids out and about when they were only a few days old.  We kept them all closed up in their stroller so no one could touch them though.
    DD1 - 12.25.05
    (m/c 1.17.07, m/c 5.15.07)
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  • DD went to church at one week.
  • We took DD to a family friend's graduation party when she was 5 days old. Being born in June, it wasn't cold/flu season, and we just kept her in the stroller with a strict no touching rule. It worked out great and it was nice to get out of the house and socialize.

    If you do go out, be sure it's somewhere you can rest. It's amazing how trying it is to be out and about after sitting around the hospital/house for so many days. And stay hydrated! Good luck and enjoy your first outing.

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