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Saw something that made me sad today.(MC related)

MelissaSue81MelissaSue81 member
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You know.. most days... I think I am OK about my losses.. I have my little Evie, she wouldn't be here if I had those other babies.. I MOSTLY feel like she is the baby I am meant to have and I try not to get too caught up in it.. But today I was reminded about how much it HURT when it happened..

I go to a mommy and me group at my LC's a couple times a month. Well today a friend of mine from high school came (I have not seen her since we graduated 10 years ago), with her new baby. He is just over a month old.  Well her sister ended up coming with her with her two kids (Toddler-age).. We were all sitting around.. and I heard the sister make a comment something like.. "There are so many babies here.. I need a baby".. and then I wasn't paying attention, but they both left and went in the other room, i figured she was just taking the baby to nurse him.. but apparently the sister JUST had a m/c.. and left crying.. my friend felt SO guilty that she had brought her to this with all the little babies.. I wish I had known before she left.. I would have talked to her and hugged her.. I mean I hardly know this girl, I spent time at her house as a kid.. but I keep thinking of her and how sad she must be.. Her sister with a brand new baby.. and then seeing all the other little ones.. It brought back a lot of the feelings I had when I had my m/c's.. I am so sad for her..

 

Melissa & Jeff 5-27-06
m/c 1/2/08 and 3/12/08
Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
Natalie Ruth - Born 6/13/11 7lb 6.6oz
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Re: Saw something that made me sad today.(MC related)

  • kellielee08kellielee08
    Ugh that is just the worst feeling I remember it well unfortunately. I couldn't go anywhere where there was going to be children I always broke down and cried. And people who haven't been through it have no idea how hard it is, so none of my IRL friends were much help. I don't wish that experience on anyone it sucks hardcore!
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  • Summerstarr2Summerstarr2 member
    I feel that way too. I know things worked out for a reason, but I still don't know that I  will ever get over my loss. it can be so tough to choke back the tears or bitterness sometimes
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  • ocean71506ocean71506
    That is so tough...my heart hurts for the girl.  I remember being in the situation so many times.  I dont think I will ever get over my loss.  I think of my lost babies every day.
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  • Kris721Kris721 member
    I had to get an u/s of my gall bladder because of the issues I've been having.  I get all my tests done at the hospital because all my doctors are there anyway...so I knew I would have to go to the u/s center where my m/c was confirmed....I had been there since the m/c (an u/s for my 2nd bfp which was fine) but everytime I step into that place it brings me back to that first u/s....I hate it.  I hate being in that waiting room...ugh.  Well, anyway this time a woman came in obviously pregnant and she looked really nervous....I got called in and she was not in the waiting room when I came out....I hope she wasn't there b/c of the baby.  I really hope she is ok.
    BFP#1=1/17/08 Missed m/c: 3/19/08@ 12 w D&C 3/21/08 BFP #2=8/5/08 She arrived 4/16/09! image BFP#3 7/9/11 EDD:3/16/11 Logan Patrick born sleeping on 3/20/11 image
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