- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Babies: 0 - 3 Months
Speaking of BJ's and night shifts...
DH takes the 1 am and 3 am shifts with LO and I get to sleep from 10 to 5 (except a pump break). I have to remember this warrants unlimited BJ's on his part. So far he's gotten nothing since delivery. Is this normal? When do other people "reset the clock"?
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Speaking of BJ's and night shifts...
How does that warrant him getting unlimited blowjobs?
We didn't have sex until 6 weeks pp, he survived.
huh?? you offered him unlimited bjs for him doing his share as a parent for 2 hours a night??
please tell me i read this wrong?
This.
He basically does the whole night shift for me. Is that normal? IDK-I thought he was going above and beyond but maybe I'm wrong. He's working and I'm not. I haven't offered unlimited BJ's, I feel like it should warrant it though. Realistically a sleep deprived new dad like him is only going to want them every so often anyways.
But being a parent does not call for unlimited sexual kudos. I don't understand your thinking on that. There is something very sad about a freshly post partum woman down on her knees blowing her husband because he stays up with the baby.
My DH would be very jealous if he saw this post.
Anyway, we waited until 4 weeks after baby - a little early and not yet cleared by the doctor but I had a very easy delivery. And yes, I know there were many risks but everything turned out fine so I'm over it.
BFP#2: 7.10.11 MMC: 8.3.11 D&C: 8.29.11
BFP#3: 12.5.11 MC: 12.22.11
BFP#4: 2.14.12 MMC: 3.8.12 D&C: 3.13.12 Loss due to Trisomy 16
BFP#5: 6.11.12 MC: 6.28.12 Loss due to Triploidy
RPL BW, Sonohystogram, Chromosome testing on DH and myself = everything is normal
BFP#6: 12.4.12 EDD: 8.16.13
Things I did different with this pregnancy:
1. Waited TTC until after I had 3 normal menstrual cycles.
2. Got a new OB - amazing man who listened!
3. 200 mg progesterone until 12 weeks
4. Daily lovenox injections
Uh - he's a 50/50 parent. It doesn't matter whether I work or not IMO.
DH leaves the house at 7:30a and gets home around 7pm. I'm the primary caregiver/parent during the day. When DH gets home from work, he makes dinner (as I am just finishing putting DS to bed) and he cleans/fills bottles.
Once DS got down to just one or less feedings overnight DH did them. Prior to that we alternated feedings (if DS had a 1a and a 5a feeding them DH would do the 1a and I would do the 5a). But now DS usually STTN.
DS will get up for the day at 7a and DH will take care of this feeding before he goes to work so that I can get showered/dressed. On the weekends, DH is the primary parent.
I am not exchanging favors for him to be a parent. If we need additional income or we need to discuss me not bringing in an income that is a separate discussion that should not be related to the parenting/raising of our child.
your DH sounds awesome!
this.
Good to "see" you around! I think that is above and beyond, but not worthy of BJ's. LOL. I don't EVER give BJ's unless I am in a really good mood. FWIW, my DH never gets up in the middle of the night. I don't wake him, because I don't see the point. My DD only wakes up once and I usually don't change her, so what is there for DH to do? Look at me feed her my boob? LOL.
I started having sex again at 4 weeks PP. We are back to about 3 times a week. We actually did it the last three nights in a row. DH knows he is lucky
Good to "see" you here, too! I haven't been on a lot until today but I finally have things semi-together at home with LO. Your LO is precious!