Not sure I am ready for 3rd Tri.

i*heart*him · July 2009

Maybe I am going through the panic stage about being a parent, but lately I hear only horror stories from friends, about nursing, about delivering and everything. And they they all say..."get ready for your life to be over" Or "better do all your fun things now, before he gets here"

Am I the only one who is panicing?

ChuppsWifey08 · July 2009

Not freakin out just yet although I had my first baby shower this past weekend and it made it a little more real to me!

gogo2325 · July 2009

You areNOT alone...I find myself crying at times because I am freaking out myself. Iw ill be in the 3rd tri next week and HOLY SHYTE all of this will be real..

It is normal to have these fears but you will be fine. We all will.

:-)

nicolebuchalla · July 2009

Not freaking out, but I definitely have been getting the stupid discouraging comments like are. I'm sorry you have to hear them.

jkfranklin · July 2009

Why is it that people don't tell you horror stories until you are already pregnant? I think we will all survive this and be better for it.

Jilybean17 · July 2009

I went through the same stage with DS.. I felt like all I got were negative comments how how much my life was going to change. I felt like people were just trying to scare me. Really...it was fine. Of course childbirth is difficult but anything worth having is! You have to remember it's only temporary and the outcome is your beautiful LO! As far as being a parent, you will make mistakes, I promise. I did. But there is a reason why your LO won't remember! It's also how you learn and become a better parent. So don't let the negative comments get to you. As long as you can accept that there will be tough time but also many many happy ones, you will be fine!! Good luck

There are many other women in the same boat.?

MattsWifey<3 · July 2009

Don't panic. Your life is only over if you allow it to be.

We still enjoy hanging out together or with friends. We have my ILS nearby and have no problems leaving DS or DD for a few hours. The first few months could be rough if you have nursing issues or a non sleeper, but every day gets easier.

Personally, nursing and pumping came easily to me. A lot of people also told me it would hurt or be uncomfortable or suck all together. But, it was very comfortable and natural for my DD and I.

BinksMomma3016 · July 2009

Your life isnt over, its begining. Yes in terms of you only caring about you, yes thats over. You cant just pick up and leave or do what you want. Some of the "fum" things that you got to do on a regular basis will be harder to do. But you dont lose out on fun things, you gain a bunch of other fun things. Like watching your baby smile, or roll over, watching them interact with the world, everything is a first for them and that is truelt amazing to watch. So youll have late nights, but they go by faster than you think. Once you start a schedule, it only takes a couple months to get truely adjusted. Like I said before breast feeding does suck, but only at first. Dont stress about being a mom, our instincts kick in automatically. Im sure you will be a wonderful mom! So look forward to your new life, I know it can be scary to think about the unknown, but embrace it and love every minute of it. It goes by soo fast. It feels like I was pregnant with DS yesterday and now hes 16 months! GL to you!

BoSoxbride · July 2009

Nice friends! I have two kids and can't wait for my third to be here! Granted the days of just spontaneously going out for drinks are over, but what you're getting instead more than makes up for the loss of the occasional night out. Yes, the early days are exhausting but honestly it's only really tough for a short time. DH and I are lucky to have my parents nearby and they come over and watch the boys whenever we need some couple time. But honestly, I love doing things with my kids. Whenever they're not with us we spend the whole time saying that we wish they were there. As for nursing, everyone has different experiences. My oldest never took to it and it was incredibly frustrating, so after 2w I switched to bottles. But my 1-year-old took to it immediately and bf like a champ! Not one problem. I'm prepared for anything with the next one. As for delivery, as much as I know the contractions are going to hurt- and they do!- I love the whole process of childbirth. I've had epidurals with both kids and things have gone very smoothly. Even if there's an issue, your drs are prepared to deal with it. Think of it this way, it's not like when you get hurt and the only thing you get from your injury is pain and tears. At the end of the pain of labor you get your child! It's amazing.

Your life isn't over. It's just beginning.

AMYfromKY · July 2009

i*heart*him:
Maybe I am going through the panic stage about being a parent, but lately I hear only horror stories from friends, about nursing, about delivering and everything. And they they all say..."get ready for your life to be over" Or "better do all your fun things now, before he gets here"

Am I the only one who is panicing?

They are just trying to scare you. How about you think of it this way. Get ready for your life with your LO to start. Think about how many things you will be able to teach him. Think about the love that will fill your heart everytime you hear your LO crying for you. Think about how wonderful it will be to be a mommy.

chrystaleigh · July 2009

I'm not freaking out as yet. DH and I were trying for a little while for our LO so I am focussing on the positive. He is aboslutely a blessing to us.

SWEETnLOVE · July 2009

I understand that you're nervous about being a first time parent and that's ok to be nervous. But, do not listen to negative people, they only bring you down. It is a blessing to be a parent. Some people make me wonder if they're jealous or if they're even sane. Someone said to me that I won't be able to hang out because I'm having a baby and married.

imaPrincess · July 2009

I'm not really going too crazy yet. The fact that I move into 3rd Tri this weeks kind of excites me! My little Prince is almost here!!! I do have a lot to do still though, so that part makes me a little nervous, but we still have a little time.

Michele57O · July 2009

I am not as far along as you are yet but I had a mini panic attack this weekend. I just realized it is almost 1/2 over!! I mean I haven't even started the baby room yet if the next 20 weeks go as fast as the first 20 weeks I will have a baby in hand before you know it. Not to mention all the other things to be freaking out about. I feel ya!

mariahcohen · July 2009

I hate it when people say things like that! Personally my life BEGAN when I had my first baby! Everything is more fun and exciting! My Dh and i still have date night to ourselves and lots of quality time together...including vacations alone. The only people who feel like life is over are the ones who let the baby rule the roost.

It is normal to panic...but I am here to tell you that once you get the hang of nursing and all that...you will be fine! You have lots of support here!

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