Separation anxiety

Sunny70 · July 2009

As much as I want to have my little girl in my arms, I got really sad yesterday thinking about her being outside of me. I know it's time, and it will be wonderful to see her face to face and hold her in my arms. I guess I am just nervous about having a natural childbirth, taking care of her, and also having other people be able to hold her and see her. I feel like she's all mine now and soon I will have to share, or something. It all sounds a little silly and selfish as I write it but with all this talk about wanting to get our babies out I guess I feel a little protective too, like she's fine where she is, for now. Anybody else anxious about having an "outside baby"?

Moiselle · July 2009

I totally WANT this baby outside! Every step I take, it feels like shes trying to crawl out my urethra. So you want a natural childbirth, too? Ditto. I used to be scared, but the discomfort has given me the strength.

My friends all had their babies within the last 2 weeks and I am anxious for her to come out. What tripped me out was watching them squirm and realizing that is what they did inside the belly.

gobigblue · July 2009

when you see her face and you're actually able to touch her, you are going to be SO happy that she can finally be in your arms. after a few wks, you will miss feeling the kicks in your belly, but... and when other ppl are holding her, it'll give you a chance to see her from a different view. your feelings are totally normal, especially the protective part, but she'll be her own person in no time. it's wild and wonderful!

robynlesley · July 2009

I told my DH that I'd miss my son's movements once he's born. He thought that was strange... but I've become used to it. But I think I know what you mean. Though my feelings are more jealousy... what if my son prefers others to me? Even though I'm going to breastfeed, what if he likes my DH better? It's awful... he should love BOTH of us equally, but my DH is better with children overall and is more experienced with babies (due to his sisters' two sons, who I didn't meet until they were 3-1/2 and 1-1/2).

Kat28655 · July 2009

I totally remember feeling this way before DD was born. You will be great at natural childbirth and when you hold her in your arms...it's amazing!!

sistrkate · July 2009

I totally understand what you're feeling. I felt exactly the same way before the birth of my first child. I loved, loved, loved having him inside me. I enjoyed every minute of that pregnancy and I didn't want it to end, and I didn't want to share him. Even after I had the baby and I packed up my maternity clothes, I was sad and crying (stupid hormones).

I am so in love with that little boy now and it's all worth it! I'm 31.5 weeks now with our second and I can't wait to meet this one. Childbirth is what it is........try not to fear it too much. I was really nervous and worried about it the first time too, and I'm not exactly excited about it this time either except it means I get to meet our little one.

Just accept your feelings as normal.......you are not alone. I hope everything goes really well for you!

NoelleHansen · July 2009

I just wanted to tell you that I know how you feel, I felt the same way too. The fear of being induced made me want to go into labor, but if it wasn't for that and wanting to meet her, I felt I would have liked to keet her safe in my belly until she was ready for kindergarten. Probably not the best childrearing plan.

You will do great in your labor and delivery and you and your family will be totally smitten once they get a look at her. To be honest, I am caught off guard that I still have pangs of missing her in my body, but the joy of having her with us as an outside baby overcomes all of that. )

Peppernut · July 2009

Oh, totally. I'm looking forward to sharing her with my husband, but less so with everyone else. My mom wants to come help right after she's born... I love my mom, she's awesome, but she's also 83 years old, doesn't cook, and has narcolepsy. I foresee her "help" being me having to take care of my baby PLUS my mom, without letting my mom realize it.

If I had a choice, I would want zero visitors until at least 3 months old, so we could hog her all to ourselves.

Sunny70 · July 2009

You guys are the best.

carladillon · July 2009

I was just saying this to a friend yesterday - I've had a very easy pregnancy so far and especially now that she's moving around so much and we can see her moving around, I'm absolutely loving her being inside me! We have this special connection that nobody else in the world has. I know we'll still have that special connection after she's born, but I just love feeling her inside me! It's better than I ever expected.

Pepper - I can totally relate! My Dad offered to come and "help", because that's what my Mom did with all of the other grandkids (Mom passed away three years ago). Dad is going to be 71 next month and just spent a month in ICU and another month in a nursing/rehab center - and has to use a walker to get around. I love him dearly, but he's kinda high maintenance and would be like having another child around. When I told him what I needed help with was cooking and cleaning, he started to back off some.

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