Do you feel like you ever get a day OFF?

becki777 · July 2009

I know motherhood does not lend itself to giving you a break, but I never feel like I have a day "off."

On the days DH works, I have DS all day and do household chores, pay bills, cook dinner etc. etc. When DH has off, he watches DSbut doesn't really accomplish anything else. He plays games, watches movies and plays online - he says he needs the break. We have one day off a week together and I'm often catching up on stuff around the house, and still am the one mainly watching DS.

I guess I'm just really complaining/venting. But it would be nice to have a day at home where DH took care of DS, cooked dinner and kept the place clean. A girl can dream, right?! Wink

flamencogal · July 2009

I tell my coworkers that going to work is my day "off"--going to work is way easier than staying home all day and being in charge of literally everything! I feel ya!! This is why I don't know how SAHMs do it--it is a constant neverending job.

My DH is the same way--when he's home on the weekends, he does help out with DS some but in the end, I'm still the one coordinating everything, telling him what needs to get done, cleaning, cooking, etc. DH is just not good at anticipating what needs to be done and sticking to a schedule. He does do a great job of entertaining DS while I'm doing all of those things!

I think the only way to truly get a day off is to literally leave. Seriously, plan a day away if you can!

MrsSavannah · July 2009

NEVER

crescentmoon99 · July 2009

No there are no days off. And I don't get much else accomplished but watching DS either, but watching an active toddler is a full time job. He doesn't give me a minute of peace, and he just gets in the way if I try to get anything done in the kitchen. Like flamencogal, even on the weekends I still feel like the one "in charge". I swear DH wouldn't change a diaper all day long if didn't remind him. And he's always asking what time Liam's nap is - same time it always is LOL!

akspriss · July 2009

No there are no days off!! I agree with crescent...I rarely get much accomplished during the day with DS being so active...its frustrating cuz then I have to spend the time when DH is home doing everythign else and hope that he will entertain DS long enough for me to get stuff done. Before being a SAHM I never realized how exhausting and hard it can be...Some days I wish I had the break to disappear to work but at the same time love being home with Jack. And our problems as moms are we want everythign to be great for our Los and always have them on their minds. Dh and I had a nite away in Juen at a hotel downtown before a friends wedding and it was nice to be able to relax but I still had to pump so I wasn't totally off Mother DUty and he of course was still constantly on my mind wondering how he was. Being a mom is def. a tough job but the hugs and kisses and love from DS makes it totaly worth it.

dbertagni · July 2009

I don't get a day off, but I do usually get nights and at least one weekend day. DH lets me sleep in, sometimes until 12 or later (today 10:00) and he will cook dinner and take care of Jocelyn. At nights he cooks dinner. I still clean up, do laudry, pay bills, wash and make bottles.. But once he is home from work, he will take care of her. I have never had a full day off. Boo.

zsmommy · July 2009

I never get a day off.

LauraBrett · July 2009

Never is the word. ?Dh is in graduate school 4 nights a week from 6-9:30pm and studies all day Sunday. ?Saturday basically from 12pm (after a session) till 6pm is our time together. ?I get to sleep in on Saturdays until 7am (eye roll) and that's it. ?Dh finishes school August 1st and I'm counting the days, he has been in the program for 2.5 years.?

Never a days rest for mommies. ?Vent away. ?

WendyNC · July 2009

No I don't get days off. I work full time and do the majority of all of the housework, laundry, house projects, etc. I also handle all of our finances. He does help quite a bit with Camryn but that's only so I can be working on something else that needs to get done. I miss the days when I used to sit on my butt in the evenings...but oh well. Parenting is definitely a 24-7 job!

jenhum · July 2009

No, I think that's the hardest part of being a parent. It's a difficult job, but it would be so much easier if you got a couple of days off every week, lol! Of course, I don't think I would want a couple of days away from Mads every week, so there's no solution.

DH is very very helpful with Mads and he also lets me sleep in every Saturday morning, but usually when he's watching the baby I am catching up on other things. I will say that it's gotten easier as she's gotten older and I just try to remember that she won't be a baby forever so I *try* to appreciate every minute I have with her.

toadslove · July 2009

WendyNC:
No I don't get days off. I work full time and do the majority of all of the housework, laundry, house projects, etc. I also handle all of our finances. He does help quite a bit with Camryn but that's only so I can be working on something else that needs to get done. I miss the days when I used to sit on my butt in the evenings...but oh well. Parenting is definitely a 24-7 job!

Wendy hit the nail on the head for this working mom! Add in that I do ALL of the cooking -- my only time 'off' is after Alex goes to bed -- but by then Im so exhausted and I just want to be 'mindless' for a few minutes that I hop on the computer and nest......Im literally the only one here in the morning when I get Alex ready for daycare -- so my day starts at 545 and he gets up by 645 - so I basically have 1 hour in the am and maybe 1-2 in the pm after he goes to bed.

Even when I go away Im not off. Im going on a girls weekend this weekned and DH and Alex are going to stay at his cousins with their kids because the wife is going away on the girls trip as well....so great, now I have to pack myself and Alex this week....and Im sure my phone will be ringing....what time to do this....how many bottles...where can I find this....

A mothers job is never done.

raceyrae · July 2009

Nope, no days off! Like others, even on weekends, although DH helps with DD and plays with her etc., I still feel in charge -- have to keep track of her naps, snacks, etc. If I'm not playing with her etc. when she's awake, DH is so I can get something else done (vacuum etc.). He helps but I'm definitely carrying the load with DD. Even if I go get a pedicure, I still feel rushed to get back to take care of DD.

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