Last names...question.

ToshaGirl · July 2009

Out of curiousity - did any of you not take YH last name?

baze2 · July 2009

Kinda of sorta...I mean the only thing in DH's last name is our joint credit card...but everytime I use it they ask for id and my license is in my maiden name so I feel like a criminal! (maybe it is DH's way to keep me from using it)

I use maiden name at work (already established in the progession and clients get funny with this type of thing.)

Basically I am just too lazy and a little sentimental to change everything. DH won't let me hyphenate b/c in his opinion it is too feminist..idk

ToshaGirl · July 2009

I should answer my own question! I didn't take his name. Like Baze, I was established with my name professionally, plus I don't like his last name. He knows that, lol.

hollymichael · July 2009

I did not take my DH's last name. There is no way I could have changed it for work. My name is my business. I considered changing it for everything else, but in the end decided not to change it. It is surprising to me that I even considered it, because I always said I would never change my name. DH said it would be nice if I took his last name, but he understood if I decided not to change it. When (notice the positive use of when not if), we have kid(s), they will have his name.

baze2 · July 2009

Cat, you have me curious now...I have in pictured with names like puterbaugh or something like that..no offense if that is anyones last name...or Wiwi (that was my girst gyno's last name..no joke)

ToshaGirl · July 2009

Baze, lol. No it's not that bad...it's just one of those names that isn't pronounced like it looks, and people are forever getting it wrong despite the fact that it is only 5 letters.

I used to have a client named Trixie Swallow. Still makes me laugh.She should have kept her maiden name methinks.

baze2 · July 2009

That is a fantastic name...

I past a pediatricians office the other day in Cincy...Dr. Smalpeter...(no kidding...I started to laugh so hard I cried then felt like a creepy person for doing so)

One must seriously watch the last names..

ColoradoMelissa · July 2009

I didn't change my name-there was no way I was going to go by one name at work (my name) and then use DH's name in every other situation. It was one or the other-I asked DH about 6 months before we got married if he had any real opinions about it and he said no...so I didn't change it.

I checked back in with him a month or so before and then a month or so after we got married...he still didn't, and still doesn't, care.

We get mail as "Mr and Mrs DH's lastname" and I'm not at all bothered by that, I just never wanted to change my name.

peztopper · July 2009

I took DH's name b/c I liked it better than mine.

On the topic of funny names, I always thought it was a local urban myth but there really is an OB/GYN named

Dr. Harry C. Beaver

that practices in Fairfax, VA.

Google it, for real. Maybe he let his name dictate his profession.

AnotherChance · July 2009

I took DH's last name. I wanted to, and I know it made him happy, too. My maiden name is a very common name, and his last name is not that unusual, but it's pronounced differently than the common way to pronounce it, so EVERYONE says it wrong...it really aggravated me at first, but now I either ignore the mispronounciation, or I just correct them if it's someone I will be dealing with often.

LizzyB11 · July 2009

I loved my maiden name (which had been legally changed to my stepfather's name.). It was Italian and got misspelled and pronounced wrong all of the time. Now, I've moved up to the B's in the alphabet and still get it spelled wrong! I like having the same name as DH and didn't question changing it. But I teach school and it was easy to suddenly be Mrs. B. the next school year.

shyntrue · July 2009

I didn't think I would EVER change my name. But when it came down to it, it didn't matter so much to me and it meant a lot to DH to take his name. He would have been ok if I had kept my maiden name though... that may have made the difference. Plus my last name was ALWAYS mispronounced... now it is not.

My male cousin took his wife's name.... Back story is that his dad was a loser and he (my cousin) didn't want to keep that part of his background.

MrsKario · July 2009

I took my Hs last name He is very old-fashioned and would not have been okay with me not changing my name. Now, I have a Greek name and no-one ever pronounces it right It is funny to hear people butcher the pronounciation. To me, it really didnt matter either way.

Chele · July 2009

I kept my last name. I always knew I would professionally but I kept it legally the same after marriage. My husband's name is incredibly common.

On the topic of interesting names, two of my friends go to a gynecologist named Dr. Hyman.

DMD1029 · July 2009

I legally took DH's last name, but kept using my married name professionally in addition to his name. Fortunately, my last name is only 2 syllables and his is only one, so it hasn't been too cumbersome. However, I have noticed that lately I seem to be suffering from an identity crisis. Our professional lives have started to overlap some and I have been at cocktail parties when someone that I work with introduces me to someone that DH works with not realizing that I already know them and then we end up with the several minute conversation of did I or did I not keep my name. At some point - when we actually have kids most likely - I will likely end up dropping my maiden name.

DoubleFlyaway · July 2009

peztopper:

I took DH's name b/c I liked it better than mine.

Same here. If our names had been reversed, I probably would have kept mine.

I do very much like having the same last name, but I'm not so traditional that it would have to be his... him taking mine or us combining names or coming up with a new one all would have been great. That is, if I hadn't simply liked his name better.

Plus I have this weird situation where I was not very attached to my old last name because of finding out on ancestry.com after my grandmother died that the man we thought was my grandfather was not (because that guy had apparently been interviewed by someone researching her family tree, and he had said he had an "adopted" son and not even mentioned him by name and then listed my three aunts as his daughters. and he was skeezy and abandoned my granny and periodically came around for money and trying to hook up with her). So, biologically, my father and I were not "of" that last name. And I don't like what it means to me ever since I found out.

OscarQ · July 2009

I'm super late to this post - been traveling the past three weekends straight and I'm exhausted. Yup, I kept my maiden name. DH was fine with me keeping it. Kids will have his last name.

I only get really bugged when I get mail addressed to Mrs. Patrick His Last Name. I mean, no part of me is involved in that at all. The girl who just got married this weekend sent me a thank you card for her shower addressed that way. And I'd purposely signed the card Alison My Last Name. Ugh. Some people are just clueless.

CharBart · July 2009

How'd I miss this post??

Anyway I changed my last name...it meant a lot to my H and in an old fashioned kind of way I wanted us to have the same last name. My maiden name was long and Italian and always was butchered...but I miss it. My married name is also long but german...and gets butchered even more! I didn't think it could get any worse, but it did

BirdieBrd · July 2009

This is really late but I was on Lake Mi yesterday without computer access.

I took my husband last name. I have no emotional (or professional) ties to my maiden name since I don't have a realtionship with any of my dad's side of the family except my dad.

It was hard adjusting to it because my maiden name and my husbands last name both start with the same two letters and end in the same two letters. For over a year when I went to sign something I would sign my name out of habit (my last name is 5 letters shorter). I haven't done that in a long time but I have found myself stopping to think about what last name I need to sign.

This only happens when I'm signing my name. If I'm filling out paperwork I don't have a problem.

GymDogFran · July 2009

Late here too . . . I took DH's name, mainly because, like Double-Flyaway, I'm not exactly crazy about the family ties associated with it. I do use my maiden name as a middle name on professional correspondence since I am most likely to be recognized by it.

I am a bit old-fashioned also, in that I think it is good for children and parents to share a last name (not that it's always possible, of course). Also, I don't really see how keeping a father's last name is less 'patriarchial' than taking a husband's last name. The system is male-centered all the way around, it seems!

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