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Emailing with BMs

-Stephanie--Stephanie-
in Adoption

For those of you who coorespond with your BMs, do you cry every time you get an email? ;) 

I just received our first email (we met for the 1st time on Tuesday) and I'm bawling like a baby! She was encouraging ME, writing about what great parents we will be and how excited so she is for US.

Have I mentioned how amazing she is? ;)

I hope you all don't mind me sharing this with you. I never could have really imagined how special this part of the process would be. 

Sending out BM love!!!!!!!!!!!!!  

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Re: Emailing with BMs

  • LadyRed7LadyRed7
    that is so awesome! I don't mind at all. Share away!
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  • *Erin&Mike**Erin&Mike*
    That is so awesome! I love stories like that!
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  • kmkaullkmkaull
    It is very special.  I never expected to feel so maternal toward Quinn's birth mom.  We actually have come to know and love her whole family.  So happy for you!
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  • Art TeacherArt Teacher

    We have been emailing with our birthmom for 2 weeks (when we met her.)   It's been a great way for us to get to know each other!

    She invited me to go to childbirth class with her -- that definitely made me cry happy tears!

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  • GLynn2009GLynn2009

    Share away.

    We will be e-mailing grandparents instead of BM and I hope it is good for all.

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  • FinallyMrs.GFinallyMrs.G
    Thank you for sharing!! I can not wait to email with the BM. I hope so badly our BM will want this type of relationship with us. It's funny, going into this I was so afraid of an open adoption as most of us are until researching it and hearing wonderful stories like your own. Now, I think having a closed adoption would be very hard! Thanks for sharing. It brings a smile to my face!!
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  • jacksjerseygirljacksjerseygirl member

    Our BM had our email but we did not have hers. We left it at that when she gave G to us - figuring that communication should be on her terms.

    We hoped to receive an email. I checked our special account for her every day. It wasn't until G was almost 2 months old that we received an email from her. I couldn't read it aloud to DH because I cried. I think the first few emails from her made me cry because she was reaffirming that she made the best decision in placing G with us.

    We now communicate on a weekly basis and I love it. I've been able to ask her some family medical questions about G's siblings. I've been able to ask geneological questions about where his family line branches out to. Best of all - even though she has not yet wrote G a letter specially for him - I have these emails to show him one day. It will help him understand how much she loves/d him, where her thoughts were in making the decision to place him ...

    I don't ask a lot of personal questions. I let her lead the conversation. I don't nag (on email one, I asked if she might send pictures of G's sisters - in the follow-up email she did not talk about it so I left it at that - then this week she said she was taking some pictures for him - YAY). I think it's important to keep boundaries between our lives but know that we have one element that connects them - our son.

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