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Update to my agency freak-out

Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
in Adoption

I had a long talk with my mom and with DH, which helped me step back and calm down. DH was not worried, but said the information I found online 1) has to be taken with a grain of salt and 2) gave us some ideas for additional questions to ask our agency as we go through the process.

CaptainSerious, you asked what my gut was telling me. My gut told me that some of these sites I visit are doing more harm than good, and I should just avoid them. For whatever reason, this didn't make me feel like I was missing out on important information or burying my head in the sand, but that it was really the best thing.

We will continue to ask questions and keep our options open, but feel confident that our SW has our best interests in mind and we will likely have a fairly smooth process (knowing that adoption has its own set of stresses and opportunities for things to go wrong).

Thanks again for all your feedback. It is so great to have a place like this to get this kind of stuff out there.

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Re: Update to my agency freak-out

  • *Erin&Mike**Erin&Mike*
    Glad you are feeling better about it!  I hope the rest continues to go smoothly!
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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member
    I, too, am glad that you seem more at peace with your decision.  Just remember to always be alert and an advocate for yourself throughout the process, and I'm sure everything will go fine.  Best of luck to you as you continue!
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  • -Stephanie--Stephanie-

    So glad that you're feeling better! 

    I think information we find online can sometimes be helpful but many times just causes us extra stress we really don't need.

     

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  • ColoRxGirlColoRxGirl

    I'm glad you're feeling better, too.

    To be honest, I have found some of the message board feedback online to be suspect at best and downright uninformative at worst.

    IMO, a lot of the griping I've seen is from people who a) didn't do enough research/homework before they committed funds to an agency, b) just don't "get" that disruption happens - and can't always be prevented, c) didn't read their contract thoroughly, and/or d) are simply looking for the quickest placement - not the best placement - possible.

    If you like your agency and SW, go with it.

    2 years TTC with 5 losses, 1 year recovering, 6 months applying for adoption approval, and almost a year waiting for a placement. Then, a miracle BFP at age 36!


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