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How difficult is it to foster?

meghans30meghans30 member
in Adoption
My biological children days are over, but I've always had the desire to nurture more  children. Maybe we'll adopt, but I've always thought I'd like to just do foster care. What are your experiences with the foster care system? If you do foster, is it difficult on your other children to see children transition in and out of your home? Do you suggest waiting until my kids are a bit older so they understand the process. TIA!
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Re: How difficult is it to foster?

  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member
    Do you mind my asking where you live?
    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • meghans30meghans30 member
    I'm in Ma.
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  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member

    Ok, from what I understand it's a pretty lengthy process. We're involved in a nonstate organization that does much faster training/homestudies/placements.  But they're only in ten places, so I thought if you happened to be in one of them... but you're not Sad

    I love your desire though! Hope you do it!

    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • meghans30meghans30 member
    imageMayDayGirl:

    Ok, from what I understand it's a pretty lengthy process. We're involved in a nonstate organization that does much faster training/homestudies/placements.  But they're only in ten places, so I thought if you happened to be in one of them... but you're not Sad

    I love your desire though! Hope you do it!

    I'll pursue it @ some point. I really need to research the process. I'm guessing there are classes and  such we'd have to attend?

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  • lilmufishlilmufish member

    DH and I are currently going through the process to be foster parents.  So far, my experiences are on all ends. In our county, the county children's division is overwhelmed, disorganized and the tend to push parents towards doing something they're uncomfortable with. On the other hand our state also contracts out through agencies in the area, so they tend to be more on top of things (smaller case loads), more friendly, etc.  So experiences, I've already seen both ends.

    In our foster PRIDE classes right now, we have 2 retired couples, two couples with teens, a couple with a toddler and two of us with no children...so I'm seeing it all. From what our facilitators told us, that's typically average.   I know some states don't recommend going out of birth order, and others do not care...

    Hang out around the board for awhile, there are several ladies who foster, or are going through the process...their experiences are pricless!

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  • alisha_728alisha_728
    I guess it would be helpful to know what you mean by difficult.  Do you mean difficult to get licensed to be a foster parent or parenting and dealing with the system in general.  I would be happy to provide you with some insight....email me if you would like alisha_728@yahoo.com
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