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Please no children
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Is it okay to say please no small children on a baby shower invitaion?
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Re: Please no children
I've seen it on here before, but I just can't believe people would think it was OK to bring a baby or child to a shower!!
Put "adults only" for the people who just don't get it.
agreed - I'd put adults only or somthing like that b/c your interprtation of "small" is going to be different from that of others.... just know though that there are always those people who feel that this stipulation does not apply to them and will likely show up with tots in tow! Why? Cuz people suck that's why!
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
For me I don't get that. All and any kids were welcomed at my shower. I have a large family with many small children and I think its fair for them to be apart of this as well. I also have take DD to 2 baby showers. One when she was 7 weeks and one when she was 11 months.
Was she invited? If not, did you ask permission to bring her and got the okay?
My baby shower is in November, and I personally don't care if there are children or not. I have a LARGE family with lots of kids. And a couple of invites I expect their children to be there. It's really the preference of the host and Mom-to-be. Do whatever makes you comfortable!
I wish my host would have put "Adults Only" or "No Children" on our invites!!
We are having a huge coed shower and if we allowed everyone attending to bring there kids.. The kids would probably out number the adults. Honestly, I love kids but I don't want a bunch of kids running around at our shower. Plus I think space/seating would be an issue, since SIL is renting tables and chairs for guests.
Here's a converstation DH had by text with one of his friends after the invites went out.
Friend: Is it okay to bring the kids? (they have 3.. 10, 6 and 2, at least he asked right)
DH: No sorry, at sis home and it's adults only
Friend: Oh, I am going to have to find a babysitter (me telling DH well they got almost 4 weeks notice)
DH: Okay!
At my DD' shower the invite did not say 'adults only" and there were only 2 people who brought kids and they asked. One was her best friend's 1 1/2 year old. She is a single mom and she was helping with the shower. The toddler got fussy and they ended up leaving early. The other was her cousin's baby (3 weeks and nursing baby). He was born 2 days before my grandson was. It wasn't a big deal...but did take a little bit away from my grandson just because there were 2 babies to pass around.
I have been to 3 showers were kids were present (older kids - age 3 and up) and as a guest it was not fun. The kids kept begging to open the presents. The 3 year old actually started before it was even time. Fingers in the cake, bites taken out of food and put back on the serving tray, standing in front of the mom-to-be when she was opening presents so we couldn't even see what she opened. The mom's were trying to corral them...but hearing "sit down" a hundred times is not fun. I appreciate going to showers were there are no kids...same with bridal showers and wedding receptions. I love kids (have 4 of my own) but they tend to "take over"...either by deed or default.
I say it's okay to specify adults only on the invitation.
I do think it's a regional thing though -- in the small town I grew up in, I had never attended a co-ed bridal or baby shower. All of the showers I had been to were women only, and the little girls in the household were always included on the invitation, no matter how small. I remember being so excited when we would get an invitation with my name on it too, knowing I got to dress up and carry the pretty wrapped box, etc.
Since moving away, obviously I've been exposed to other types of showers, including adult only and co-ed, but I would have expressed the opposite disbelief as Roxy 10 years ago at the suggestion that little girls wouldn't be included.
Actually I have taken her to three. I am pretty sure her name was on the invite for 2 of them, I'm not sure of the other. And Yes I asked. I do know that some people do NOT want kids at their shower. I do respect it, I guess for me I don't get it. I guess because of my large family, children are always welcomed.
Yes, it really is ok to say no children on a baby shower or any shower invitation for that matter. There can be a mulitude of reasons for not having children at a shower, fancy location, children out numbering the adults, added cost of feeding extra guests, and the mere fact that it is all about the mom-to-be, and not the kids.
I agree that you should state, no children instead of no small children.
I wanted so badly when I made our invitations last week to put "adults only". Being, mostly because the showers I have been to in the past year have all seemed to have been over run by little ones. I don't need my shower to be all about me, but I do want it to be in celebration of our baby.
Unfortunately when it came down to having them printed, on the mock up one I made I left out the adults only. Basically because my boyfriend has a daughter who is 8 who insisted she be there (shes terified almost that she won't be invited lol) and it wasn't fair to tell others no kids.
Seeing that we are having a slightly big shower we are going to bring activities that are kid friendly, to keep them entertained in the event there are a lot.
This.