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Question Regarding Daycare and Second Baby

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Hello.  This question is for working Moms whose first child is in daycare.  When you had a new baby (or are pregnant) will or do you still send your first child to daycare when you are on maternity leave?

 I am not currently pregnant but I am trying and was wondering about this.  On one had I would love to have alone time with the new baby when breastfeeding etc., but I would feel guilty sending my first to daycare, plus I know stay at home Moms obviously manage with the first child at home.  Just wondering what people thought about this.

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  • rlthomas7rlthomas7

    While we don't have plans for a second child, I would. You're still paying for that service, you need to rest while the baby is sleeping and your older child still gets the benefit of the activity and socialization.

    Not sure what your child's temperment is, but I can't imagine Adam playing quietly while I was nursing a baby. In the time to get the baby latched on, Adam would be standing on a kitchen chair rocking it back and forth until he fell completely over.

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  • JillAlyJillAly member

    We're about to TTC and this was something we talked about already.

    It took me 1 1/2 years to get my ds into this daycare because of the long wait list.  If I pull him out while I"m on maternity leave, I will probably lose my spot to someone else.  So I'm going to have to send him even though it would be nice to save the money that daycare costs. 

    Plus, if ds is at daycare when I am with the new baby, then I could spend a lot of time with the new one without ds getting jealous.

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  • RubygirlRubygirl member
    If we have another child (and that's a BIG IF), I plan on waiting until DS will be in preschool so I can focus my days on the new baby (just as I did with DS).  I don't think you should feel guilty.  Even if you only send first child a few days a week, that gives you bonding time with the new baby.  Just make sure you set aside time for you and first child only.
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  • babystella08babystella08
    I am due December 2nd with our second and DS will continue to go to daycare after the baby comes. He only goes 4 days a week now, I am home on Fridays with him, so this is what we will do when the baby comes. I figure this will give me 4 days a week alone with the new baby to bond, sleep, etc. On Fridays I will have both of them home so that will be fun and I am sure exhausting. Plus DS will almost be 2 and I think that it is really important for him to be in daycare at this age. He is going to be learning so much and I don't want to take him out of that social enviornment to keep him home with me and the baby. And I don't want to mess up his routine too much. He is already going to be going through enough with a new baby in the house.
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  • Go DuxGo Dux
    Yes, I will still send DD to daycare but instead of the full time 5 days a week, she will only go 2 days a week.  It helps for a) it keeps her spot in the daycare for when i go back to work full time and b) it still gives her the socialization she enjoys.
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  • fIowerchildfIowerchild
    Yes, Hudson will go to daycare while I'm out on mat leave.
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  • TMs1stBabyTMs1stBaby
    Joey continued daycare when I was on maternity leave with Tyler.  I can't imagine doing it any other way.  Especially in the earlier weeks.
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  • LeelaHLeelaH

    Rylie will absolutely go to daycare while I'm on maternity leave.  First off, I don't want to disrupt her schedule.  Second, she is a very high energy kid and I am going to be exhausted enough trying to take care of a newborn.  And third, I am having a c-section so I won't even be able to lift her for 6 weeks anyway and that would just be too hard to have her home.  Oh, and there's also the fact that she loves daycare and would be terribly bored at home.  Like a pp said, I think she would miss a lot of learning oppportunities if she didn't go for 2 months.

     

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  • oct-weddingoct-wedding member
    We are definately sending DS to daycare when #2 arrives, possibly a lighter schedule but ours doesn't offer part time so it will be 4-5 days a week. First so that his routine isn't disrupted too much and he can continue to grow and interact with other kids, second so that I can bond with the baby and third so he doesn't lose his spot. With that said, we have to figure out how to pay for it and for DS #2 once I go back to work since daycare for 2 is over $700/week!
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  • beckys96beckys96 member

    I am in the mists of working on this myself.  I am due at the end of November.  Per our agreement with DD's daycare provider we can take her out and pay 25% of the fee for a short period of time/reduced free if she isn't there her regular times...right now she only goes for about 5 hrs a day mon-thur.  I would love to have DD home and also feel guilty taking her there when I at home, but I know she get to play and learn with other kids.  SO I am thinking...probably the 1st week when DH stays home, she will too.   So I'll pick like 2 days for her to go then the other days she will be home with me...I will also add that DH has off on Fridays so that give me 2 days with her and the baby.  The place where both DH and I work give a holiday break from Christmas to New Years - so she will also be home with us for that time too.

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