Does DH rub your belly?

Bill&Me · July 2009

Before we got pregnant I couldn't get him to message anything! Now that I'm pregnant I still can't get him to, he doesn't even rub my bump.... When we were trying to get PG I had asked if he was going to rub my belly and he said yes but right now nothing. I always hoped he would rub it, talk to it and kiss it but I get nothing. Does anyone else have this problem?

4realyo · July 2009

my dh doesnt either. we just started bradley class & they make the dhs massage your back while you practice certain positions. dh sighs loudly & complains like his hand is tired after about 30 seconds. i knew he wasnt touchy/feely when i married him, so why would it change now?

Klafountain · July 2009

my dh does everynight before we go to bed and if were watching tv. he even has snuggle time with our lo and lays his head on my tummy

Vuja_de · July 2009

when we sleep he always rests his hand on my belly. But we aren't really lovey mushy gushy people so, no he doesn't rub it or talk to my belly. But then again, i am not all that big yet i have a feeling things will change when he can start to feel kicks and movement.

kuzzu25 · July 2009

my DH has never really been into this, but every once in a while he'll kiss my belly or rub it. It's sweet when he does it because he's not ALWAYS doing it.

carimeli · July 2009

Last night I was lying in bed and my belly was moving all over the place, wave-like...and DH said feeling/watching the baby move really freaks him out and makes him want to puke

really? that bad huh? I thought it was at least a little cool?!

cbjpl31 · July 2009

I love that my bf is so affectionate to my bump. He rubs it and talks to it all the time.

carimeli · July 2009

I should add that DH does like to touch/hold my belly, just not when I tell him she is moving around

sunnysmile9 · July 2009

Mine does ... he didn't until 16/17 weeks though. He also comments on how he can't wait until I get "huge".. lol

Maybe your DH is waiting for your tummy to get "huge" before he does? Something about seeing it is believing it? Or, if he's not a touchy feely guy ... he might just feel weird about it.

krissyh21 · July 2009

Why would you expect him to change his personality now that you are pregnant?

mwalliser · July 2009

mine does (now that it's rounded out)... but I generally find it more annoying than anything.

BetsyDavis · July 2009

Kenny does all the time whenever me and baby are close to him its like there's a?magnet.?

Bill&Me · July 2009

I am going to have to put food on it or something to get him attracted to it. I try and put it in his face so he has to touch it but it lasts a second. He was a touchy feely guy when we got married but I guess he figures he doesn't have to now that we have been married??? I don't know its only been a little over a year. Who knows, maybe its stress?

Bill&Me · July 2009

krissyh21:
Why would you expect him to change his personality now that you are pregnant?

I'm not expecting him to change his personality which he obviously hasn't, but maybe the thought that I have his child growing inside of me and sometimes my back hurts so he could take part in this process by making me feel better?? I don't see that being too much to ask.

RickeyandDani · July 2009

My DH HATES giving massages, but when he does (rare occasions) he is sooooo freakin good at it, I sometimes think he should go to masseuse school!

But yah.....since we found out I was pg, my DH gave me 1 massage (full body for an hour Smile ) I was soooooo greatful and appreciative because he is NOT that kinda person. Just is who he is.

After our pregnancy class last weekend, I was lying on the couch and he put his head on my tummy and said he was listening to the baby (even though there wasn't much to listen to accept the gas in my stomach lol) Again, that's the only time he's initiated some sort of bond with the baby.

So I agree...if your DH wasn't like that to begin with you probably can't expect him to change just because your pg. Just appreciate any special attention you do get from him.

Phoebe Halliwell · July 2009

Sure, he gives it the occasional pat/rub. And last week when I told him it could hear us now, he got down there and started talking to it about the Jets, Mets, Knicks, and Rangers (he's a big NY sports fan). It was cute.

ambrvan · July 2009

My DH is not a very openly affectionate guy, but he makes an effort because he knows how important it is for me. What's weird is that I've never been a very touchy feely person until we got together. Since meeting him, I still don't even like to hug my girlfriends or my mom or anyone, but I can't get enough of his touch. Even if it's ust holding my hand when we're driving or laying his hand on my leg or brushing my arm when we pass in the hallway.

But since getting pregnant, especially since my bump has popped up in the last couple weeks, he makes a point of snuggling up behind me and wrapping his arms around my belly when we go to sleep at night and telling me and the baby goodnight, or coming up behind me in the bathroom when I'm getting ready for work and cupping his arms around my belly so we can see it in the mirror. And occasionally, while we're laying down watching TV, he'll rub and kiss my belly.

I was a little shy of the attention at first, but now it just makes me feel sexy and special.

EbethM0231 · July 2009

My DH rubs my belly everytime I walk past him... I think it's cute.

Mereou12 · July 2009

The bigger I get, the more attention he gives the belly.

Several weeks ago, I asked when he was going to start talking to the baby. He would give my belly a quick pat at night and say "I love you" before we went to bed, but I had visions of him laying his head on my belly and having long chats with our unborn child.....not exactly how it's panning out.

He still doesn't rub my belly much, but he's starting to talk to him more. I think as I've been feeling more movement, he wants to be involved, too. It'll probably pick up more over the coming weeks when my belly gets *really* big.

C12H22O11 · July 2009

Physical affection has never been DH's main mode of expressing love, and I knew this. I think he's rubbed my tummy a couple of times and that's it. I don't really forsee him being one of those "let me lay down and read to our unborn child" kinds, which I have to say, I'm sort of disappointed about. I know he's terribly excited because he tells me. So I know how you feel.

Sadly, I'd say if he's not interested in rubbing, it probably won't change.

kimberleigh30 · July 2009

We are not touchy feely at all. But just this week if we are on the couch I lay his head of my fat belly. I think it?s so cute.

Mrs.Keith2B · July 2009

My DH only does it when we're in bed...he'll rub my belly and say goodnight to LO. I think it's cute.

nealbl · July 2009

Yes it is pretty routine everynight. It makes my tummy feel better. Even as a child if I didn't feel good all I needed was for someone to rub my tummy. I think DH enjoys it a little more now though.

Nikibug · July 2009

Nope I wish he did! But he is bad at ever giving me massages even before preg so I really didnt expect it. It also makes me sad that he wont even touch my belly cause he says it freaks him out that there is a person in there! grr!

Alyssajoy87 · July 2009

Yes, sometimes. I think that a lot of guys just need some encouragement to get into it. I know that when I encourage my DH to talk to our LO or to cuddle with my belly, he feels much more comfortable doing it.

ablou · July 2009

DH loves mah belleh more than I do! He talks to Little Baby every day, rubs it, and kisses it. I think it's sweet. Makes me actually feel pregnant, because he can see and attend to da belleh. Smile

jenny1980 · July 2009

My DH has always been awesome with massages. Now that I am getting a bump, he rubs my belly from time to time. He doesn't get super mushy and talk to it, though (I am not particularly sentimental and that would probably heeb me out).

megs68 · July 2009

He may start being more affectionate to it as you get further. My DH wasn't really that interested in the baby until recently, he wouldn't really bring it up or talk to it or anything. Then after the 20 week ultrasound last week, it suddenly so real to him and he's talking to him and about him all the time. I think it suddenly sunk in what's in there or something!

ZAngel · July 2009

DH usually massages my back once a week but I do ask. He can't do it for long (10 minutes or so) because his hands start to hurt. He will kiss my belly goodnight and rub it every once in a while... especially when I'm up cooking dinner. He usually wraps his arms around me and rubs it.

Michele57O · July 2009

My DH and I normally lay in bed and watch TV for a while before we fall asleep and my new thing is "play with the baby" and he will rub my belly for maybe a minute. Other than that I can't get anything out of him.

sadielove · July 2009

My DH doesn't really rub my belly, but I think he will want to more now that I started to feel some outside kicks. I do get some backrubs, though, even though I know he doesn't like to do it. I told him when I get farther along I'll want him to talk to the baby and he said he would, but I don't really even do that now.

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